https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 05 May 2026 18:32:57 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-comfort-my-friend#post-1220298 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 20:57:36 +0000 Ree723 1220298@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh wow, I can't imagine. My 28 week pregnant self is tearing up at the thought, my heart goes out to her. I second the suggestion of a nice card, without any of the platitudes (ie 'God wanted another angel' or anything like that), and a donation to a charity of your choice in the baby's name. Hugs to you, I know to can't be easy to deal with when pregnant yourself. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-comfort-my-friend#post-1220280 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 20:44:38 +0000 singingbee 1220280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Vegmama: people donated to our school's endowment fund. I think it could be to anything they like. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-comfort-my-friend#post-1220135 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 19:23:32 +0000 Vegmama 1220135@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lindsay05: Thank you for sharing!! I am sure she appreciated all of the care you put into the situation. Sorry for your friend's loss as well ... It kind of goes to the "it takes a village" idea, and I feel so much more connected to other mamas now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-comfort-my-friend#post-1220125 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 19:16:59 +0000 Lindsay05 1220125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry for your friends loss :( when my bff experienced a loss I gave her some time, offered an ear when/if she needed to talk, a shoulder to cry and after a few days I went for a visit and brought her a little gift package with candles, chocolate, bubble bath and soothing lotion. I never asked about anything and she told me right away what happened. I made sure to let her know that if she wasnt ready to see me (i was obviously showing with my pregnancy) that we can meet up when she was ready. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-comfort-my-friend#post-1220115 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 19:09:22 +0000 HabesBabe 1220115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Vegmama: maybe March of Dimes? Doesn't need to be too specific and I think it would be a lovely gesture. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-comfort-my-friend#post-1220109 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 19:05:42 +0000 Vegmama 1220109@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jennimac: Thank you so much for those suggestions!! I LOVE the idea of a restaurant &amp; a donation ... Do you think the donation should be related to something specific? I don't want to pry (until she offers the info), but I wasn't sure if a baby related organization would be best. </p> <p>I'm grateful for your insight ... thank you!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-comfort-my-friend#post-1220103 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 19:00:52 +0000 singingbee 1220103@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Could you send her some gift cards to a restaurant, nice card, maybe flowers? You could also make a donation somewhere in honor of their baby. We had friends do all of these things and we really appreciated them when we lost our baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-comfort-my-friend#post-1220097 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 18:57:40 +0000 Vegmama 1220097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am absolutely at a loss right now, and I thought some of you with experience could help me ... </p> <p>A friend of mine was due 1 week before me, so she would be 34 weeks pregnant this week ... Today, she received the baby gift we sent her, and I just got a text saying they lost their baby last week.</p> <p>She asked if I wanted her to send the gift back to me. </p> <p>Obviously, that's not an issue right now. BUT, I would like the words to comfort her ... or maybe something we can do for them while they're grieving. She's not local, so taking her food, or hugging her in person is not an option.</p> <p>I had NO idea anything was wrong ... nothing on social media or their blog. Not that it was my business in the first place, but obviously, if I knew, I wouldn't have sent the gift. </p> <p>My heart is so heavy. Being pregnant (around the same time as her) is making me more emotional, I'm sure ... I just really want to know how I can help them, or make this difficult time of transition &amp; healing a little easier. Since they haven't shared publicly, I'm sure they're wanting some time to grieve on their own ... I would like to express my emotions in a way that's best received, and offer any support. </p>