https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 11 Jun 2026 07:52:42 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-connect-babys-sleep-cycles#post-1327724 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 10:30:33 +0000 Alivoo01 1327724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: DS is 2 weeks sigh of being 6 months, and last night was the first time in 3 months I got sleep in more than 1.5 hour stretches. Actually, I still woke up often checking my clock because I was anticipating his wake up, but I was resting and not frustrated with having to get up and down so that's a plus!</p> <p>I don't think we could have sleep trained earlier since he was sick twice in the past 2 months. And he's teething right now, but this week, it doesn't seem to be in as much pain as he was last week aka no random screaming at night while going to bed.</p> <p>Either way, here's to more consecutive hours of sleep for the both of us!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-connect-babys-sleep-cycles#post-1327503 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 09:08:05 +0000 Anagram 1327503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Alivoo01: yayyy! Looks like it's starting to work a bit. Last night was night 5 (or 6? I can't even remember) and LO slept 8-2:30 without a peep before waking up. I fed her at 2:30 and she was still sleeping when I left for work at 6:45!! DH texted me and said he had to wake her at 7:30 to get her ready for day care.</p> <p>She is almost 6 months old and that is the FIRST TIME IN HER LIFE she has had only 1 wakeup. Maybe we should have tried sleep training earlier.</p> <p>I'm trying not to get too excited, as I know all this will disappear when she teethes, or gets sick, or etc etc. But it sure is nice right now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-connect-babys-sleep-cycles#post-1327479 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 08:56:44 +0000 Alivoo01 1327479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lawbee11: @Mrs Green Grass: Looking into it right now! Thanks ladies! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-connect-babys-sleep-cycles#post-1327478 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 08:56:07 +0000 Alivoo01 1327478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: So I let DS CIO last night. He woke up every 1.5 hours the first 2 sleep cycles and cried horrendously the 2nd wake up time. He cried for 20 minutes before knocking out. At his third wake up (2am), I picked him up to feed and promptly went back to sleep until 6:15am when I woke up him!! He didn't fuss or cry once during that time!! He probably could have slept longer, but I had to get him ready for daycare so that I could go to work. </p> <p>Thanks again for sharing your experience!! I'm hoping tonight will be better than last night, and we're well on our way to STTN! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-connect-babys-sleep-cycles#post-1326347 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 17:01:37 +0000 lawbee11 1326347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Alivoo01: Oh girl...you need a Marpac Dohm ASAP! Love that thing </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-connect-babys-sleep-cycles#post-1326318 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 16:53:05 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 1326318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Alivoo01: Try it! The sound is comforting and will subconsciously remind the baby that it's sleep time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-connect-babys-sleep-cycles#post-1326299 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 16:46:48 +0000 Alivoo01 1326299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Green Grass: No, we don't use a white noise machine. And his cries escalate pretty quickly once he realizes no one is coming.</p> <p>@hilsy85: He's falling asleep in his crib. I put him in alert and pat his butt/thigh and he drifts off to sleep after a few minutes of fussing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-connect-babys-sleep-cycles#post-1326291 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 16:44:54 +0000 Alivoo01 1326291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lawbee11: So true!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-connect-babys-sleep-cycles#post-1325892 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 14:57:43 +0000 hilsy85 1325892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Basically you want the conditions he falls asleep in to be the same as when he wakes up--if anything is different, it can throw him off and wake him up more/unsettle him. so I would just make sure the environment is consisten--he's falling asleep on his own in his crib, not being rocked/shushed/patted/nursed to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-connect-babys-sleep-cycles#post-1325867 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 14:53:50 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 1325867@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Does it immediately turn into full-blown crying? If not, I'd delay a tiny bit longer each time you go in and only pat, no picking up, talking or nursing.</p> <p>My lo had a difficult time between sleep cycles right around 4 months, then he was fine. </p> <p>Also do you use white noise? Because I think that really helps. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-connect-babys-sleep-cycles#post-1325752 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 14:35:26 +0000 lawbee11 1325752@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Alivoo01: I would try CIO again as long as you're not opposed to it. I think for it to work you're going to have to let him go longer than 5 min. Tell your DH that as long as he's getting uninterrupted sleep and not having to deal with the wakeups that you get to call the shots!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-connect-babys-sleep-cycles#post-1325641 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 14:19:50 +0000 Anagram 1325641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Alivoo01: Oh yeah, my husband is the same way actually. So he slept in our bedroom with ear plugs and I did the first three nights alone (sleeping on the couch). He agreed that we've exhausted all other options and isn't morally against sleep training, but he can't bear to hear her cry so will always take the path of least resistance.</p> <p>So we both agreed it would go more smoothly if I just did it myself, because he would DEFINITELY give up after about 5 minutes of crying. It was hard not having emotional support the first night, but at least I didn't have someone undermining my efforts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-connect-babys-sleep-cycles#post-1325377 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 13:28:45 +0000 Alivoo01 1325377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: I let him CIO for about 5 minutes then the hubby is too heartbroken and goes in for the rescue so I totally understand how 27 minutes of crying is pure torture!! </p> <p>I'll let DS CIO longer tonight, and let the hubby know no rescuing is permitted until 1am!</p> <p>Thanks for sharing your experience! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-connect-babys-sleep-cycles#post-1324780 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 10:52:40 +0000 Anagram 1324780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Alivoo01: how long did you do the CIO?</p> <p>I just ask because I was in the exact same situation since my LO was 3 months old (before that, she would consistantly sleep at least 8 pm-2 am!) but it all fell apart just after she turned 3 months. I kept "waiting it out", but it never improved and she'll be 6 months this next week,</p> <p>So, we finally just sleep trained the last 4 nights. I'm not ready for her to completely STTN, since her weight percentiles are still low, but we have MANY nights with 4-8 wakeups a night, and she doesn't even want to eat at all of them, she just wants to be held.</p> <p>So we decided we would try the Ferber method and absolutely not pick her up until after 1 am (bedtime is at 8) when we would feed and then not again until 5. She still poops overnight pretty often which is why we chose Ferber so we could do a check and smell for poop before really letting her cry.</p> <p>It's early so I want to be cautiously optimistic but she is now sleeping straight through 8-1:30 or so and then eating and going right back down and sleeping till 5:30, and then going right back down and sleeping till 7:30.</p> <p>Two wakeups for us is a BREEZE compared to before. The first night was brutal, I'm not going to lie. Her first wakeup (about 9:45 pm) she just cried about 5 minutes and fell asleep so we thought it was going to be easy. We were wrong.</p> <p>Her second wakeup, around 10:30, she started SCREAMING, almost immediately. I did a check at 5 minutes and honestly, she seemed to just scream louder (but at least I could smell that she hadn't pooped, I knew she wasn't hungry, so it reassured me that she was okay). She cried so hard....one of the hardest cries she's ever done in her little life. I did another check 10 min later and another check 10 min after that. She finally fell asleep 2 minutes after the last check. So she cried 27 minutes total which maybe doesn't sound so bad when you read it, but it HORRIBLE and TERRIBLE when you are experiencing it. She screamed right through the checks and I got super teary eyed, too.</p> <p>Then she slept until 1:07 and I HAPPILY scooped her up to feed her. Then she slept till 6! Like...WTF. She never sleeps that long. I fed her again and she slept till 8.</p> <p>2nd night she went down at 8 pm, stirred and let out about 1 minute or less of cries around 11:30 and then slept through until 2:30! I fed her. Then she slept till 5:30! I fed her again and she slept till 8 am.</p> <p>3rd and 4th nights were similar. Small stirrings and maybe 1 cry here or there, but basically sleeping through from 8 pm- 1:30-2 am. Eating and going right back to sleep. Then sleeping through till 5-6 am, eating and going right back down and sleeping till we wake her for day care.</p> <p>When I feel comforable with her weight gain, maybe around 8 months, I'm going to try to push out that first feed to 3-4 am which hopefully means only 1 wakeup a night and will use CIO again to do that if I have to.</p> <p>Just a little encouragement! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-connect-babys-sleep-cycles#post-1324732 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 10:40:52 +0000 Alivoo01 1324732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS has been waking up every 1.5 hours for the past 2-3 months! I've started sleep training him recently, and have finally found a way to get DS to fall asleep in his crib without too much fuss. He'll then sleep for 1.5 hours and on the dot, wake up! He can either be soothed by me shushing him while patting his leg/butt or picking him up and rocking/comfort nursing him for a few minutes. He'll go back to sleep in no time, then I place him back in the crib, and 1.5 hours later.... Rinse and repeat all night.</p> <p>I've tried CIO to get him to self soothe, but he just escalates and gets more worked up. He doesn't seem to know how to self-soothe! What can I do to connect his sleep cycles? He's 5.5 months old. </p>