https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 04:59:43 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-when-work-stress-is-taking-over#post-2287967 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 17:06:26 +0000 Eko 2287967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Corduroy: that does sound hard! I don't personally work from home but have read little tricks people do to try to trick there mind into "'going to work' and 'leaving work'. Sort of like when it's hard to be home and 'go to work' they will dress like they are going to work, walk out of the house then back in. Maybe there could be some trick like that he could try? Overall it sounds like you are already doing a lot to help him out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-when-work-stress-is-taking-over#post-2287596 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 12:51:21 +0000 Corduroy 2287596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaCate: I'm not sure if he's feeding into it but the thought that he might be certainly makes the situation more frustrating for me. Sometimes I think he's using work to escape from the stress of having LO2. </p> <p>@tofuwad: DH has time to unwind with the family but he chooses video games at those times because he gets more stressed with us. LO2 is almost 3 months so I'm hoping family life won't seem so stressful soon. I'll try the premade eggs. We are getting back to paleo (which is our preferred way of eating) so that should make his mornings easier. </p> <p>@Eko: He officially works from home three days a week (and unofficially in most of his off time) now which I don't think is helping DH shut off his work brain. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-when-work-stress-is-taking-over#post-2287589 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 12:48:26 +0000 MaryM 2287589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Focusing on when the stress will be over (and that it's temporary) is helpful for me (but that's only helpful when it's temporary!)</p> <p>And I like when DH's texts me random nice things when he knows I'm stressed at work. It breaks up the rage and snark :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-when-work-stress-is-taking-over#post-2287566 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 12:36:10 +0000 MrsSRS 2287566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ditto with the taking care of SO and the household as much as possible. But, also, we have conversations about how the emotions we project shape the way our kids behave. Once DH saw the direct impact he started really reining in the wallowing. Or at least trying to defer it until after bedtime. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-when-work-stress-is-taking-over#post-2287526 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 12:04:39 +0000 tofuwad 2287526@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One thing I do is try to visit him at work for lunch or even just stop by his work with a coffee. I also try to make sure he eats enough protein for breakfast. I make some paleo sausage/egg/kale muffin cups. If you buy precooked sausage and silicone muffin trays it takes about 10 minutes to prep and maybe 20 minutes to cook. Plus they freeze really well. </p> <p>My husband tends to get frustrated because he doesn't get time to unwind with his family, and he lets his physical health slide. So I try to support him as much as possible by making it very easy to see us and eat well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-when-work-stress-is-taking-over#post-2287451 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 11:31:28 +0000 MamaCate 2287451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Corduroy: sort of a different situation but my DH is a pediatric resident and on a crazy rotation right now with long hours and stress. In our case I know it won't last forever (4 weeks until a switch) so I try to do as much as I can so he just has to worry about work and not other stuff in the family/house area. I also figure out what I need to do to get my needs met while he is so unavailable--more time with girlfriends or having dinner with a mom friend to get some adult interaction.</p> <p>I think it would be harder if I felt DH was feeding into it or it would never end--is that the case for you? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-when-work-stress-is-taking-over#post-2287448 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 11:30:49 +0000 Eko 2287448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe you can so some family activities together? Something simple just to spend time together to help take his mind off work. DH and I have a policy that if work is getting really stressful we never talk about it at home. That helps not to obsess over it as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-when-work-stress-is-taking-over#post-2287387 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 11:06:41 +0000 Corduroy 2287387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is busy with a project at work but I think he may be busier than he needs to be wallowing in the stress of the project. He is consumed with project ideas and thoughts of deadlines. I can see it on his face all the time. I've been there too myself with projects. I know from both sides it isn't fun for the person involved or their partner. </p> <p>I'm trying to encourage healthy habits (sleeping, eating well, exercise, minimal drinking). He's recently recommitted to that. </p> <p>What else can I do to lessen the impact of this work stress? What do you do when the stress of a project starts taking over your or SO's life? </p>