https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 13:49:50 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-with-back-talk#post-2647236 Thu, 03 Nov 2016 10:28:39 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2647236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Time out has always been really effective with DS1 who is now 4. We don't use it often, but when he's being disrespectful or smart, I'll give him a warning. The other day, I asked him to put on his coat, and he told me no. I said, "Excuse me? That's not the way we talk to mommy. I'll give you 3 seconds to come here and put on your coat or we'll sit in timeout." He did come over and put on his coat, but I then asked him to put on his hat, and he said no again. Without hesitation, he went to timeout. After he calmed down, he was respectful for the rest of the day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-with-back-talk#post-2647231 Thu, 03 Nov 2016 10:26:33 +0000 Maysprout 2647231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends. Sometimes I ignore it and just repeat back the instruction with a stern voice. Sometimes I sass her right back - 'Excuse me, you can dislike me all you want but you will listen to me or some consequence' or sometimes I just tease her about her attitude and exaggerate it to the point of ridiculousness until she laughs it off and can listen. Depends what our moods are. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-with-back-talk#post-2647227 Thu, 03 Nov 2016 10:25:07 +0000 ShootingStar 2647227@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say, "That's not a nice way to talk to Mommy. I'd like you to say you're sorry and if I hear it again you'll get timeout." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-with-back-talk#post-2647209 Thu, 03 Nov 2016 10:02:35 +0000 looch 2647209@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I find it really difficult to deal with, it fires me up so much when my son talks back! I basically tell him right then and there that he's being disrespectful and talking back, and that it is absoultely not allowed. I sometimes try and do it right back to him, he hates it and gets really mad, so I then use it as an opportunity to tell him that is how I feel when he does it to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-with-back-talk#post-2647206 Thu, 03 Nov 2016 10:00:42 +0000 hummusgirl 2647206@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know if this is the "right" way but I try not to give it too much attention. I'm hoping it's a phase. I'll say something like "Please speak respectfully to me the way I speak to you" and just move on. I then really try not to lose my cool so I'm modeling the way we speak in our family, but I can't say it never happens. </p> <p>We also recently enrolled DS in karate and they do some "character development." Last class they talked about making eye contact when you're speaking to someone and waiting until they're finished to start talking. I'm hopeful these lessons will slowly sink in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-with-back-talk#post-2647165 Thu, 03 Nov 2016 09:11:03 +0000 winniebee 2647165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS1 has become very cheeky with back-talk. He'll say stuff like "you can't tell me what to do!" or "I don't care about that at all!" or "I hate you!" or "I'll do whatever I want." </p> <p>I try to respond by saying "I won't let you speak to me that way, it's not allowed. It's not nice" but it continues. Pretty much only to me. </p> <p>Do you have any suggestions for how to handle back-talk? He is 4.5 </p>