https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Apr 2026 19:45:38 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-with-toddler-indecisiveness#post-1793429 Fri, 01 Aug 2014 03:50:41 +0000 sunny 1793429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Omg I had the exact thing happen with the blanket the other day and it made me so upset because I couldn't figure out what to do! I hope this phase is over soon!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-with-toddler-indecisiveness#post-1793422 Fri, 01 Aug 2014 03:10:02 +0000 shopaholic 1793422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: hahah!</p> <p>I think this is starting, but without the talking - just a lot of whining. Ugh. I just try to explain that she doesn't get things back after throwing them a couple times. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-with-toddler-indecisiveness#post-1793359 Thu, 31 Jul 2014 23:11:17 +0000 autumnlove 1793359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NovBaby1112: I just went through a battle at bedtime...I want flamingo pajamas. I don't want flamingos....I want elephants. No, I want flamingos AGAIN. :crying: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-with-toddler-indecisiveness#post-1792057 Thu, 31 Jul 2014 12:58:23 +0000 NovBaby1112 1792057@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: oh totally, testing boundaries and trying patience is her favorite thing lately </p> <p>@MsLipGloss: That makes sense and is totally what happens with us. It's tough to ignore when I am laying right next to her trying to get her to sleep, but I am going to have to try something other than what I am doing. And yes...My huge glass of moscato is not carb free, but it makes everything better :wink: </p> <p>@Cole: cute idea! I'll have to try that in situations like that...thank you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-with-toddler-indecisiveness#post-1791974 Thu, 31 Jul 2014 12:36:52 +0000 Cole 1791974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am not sure it will work for the blanket situation but I offer a "surprise" option. So if I ask if they want carrots or apples and they say no to both or can't decide I ask if they want me to surprise them. I am shocked at how often they pick that option and how seldom I get backlash about the surprise. Admittedly, often I will make sure the choice is likely to make them smile like by arranging their snack in a cute pattern or dressing their teddy bear in the rejected shirt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-with-toddler-indecisiveness#post-1791972 Thu, 31 Jul 2014 12:36:46 +0000 MsLipGloss 1791972@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NovBaby1112: Honestly, I do what I can to not react to my little's (hopefully) temporary insanity . . . I have found that if I don't react and try to appease her, she is far more likely to make a choice and move on from the situation. But if I fall into her trap, it could be a while before I get out! That, and vodka, which is thankfully carb-free! ((hugs)) mama - it's rough! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-with-toddler-indecisiveness#post-1791934 Thu, 31 Jul 2014 12:30:36 +0000 Freckles 1791934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NovBaby1112: I will usually go into her room when she's asleep and cover her up with the blanket anyways. I sometimes feel like they are trying to test our patience! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-with-toddler-indecisiveness#post-1791872 Thu, 31 Jul 2014 12:16:12 +0000 NovBaby1112 1791872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: I'll try that too!</p> <p>@Smurfette: hahah. yea, she is a stubborn and spirited little one...I tell her all the time she is lucky she is so cute! But so is R, so it'll make it easier :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-with-toddler-indecisiveness#post-1791852 Thu, 31 Jul 2014 12:11:40 +0000 Smurfette 1791852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NovBaby1112: When reading your post, all I could think OMG, my child is totally going to be like this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-with-toddler-indecisiveness#post-1791847 Thu, 31 Jul 2014 12:10:30 +0000 MrsLilybugg 1791847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-with-toddler-indecisiveness#post-1791843 Thu, 31 Jul 2014 12:09:11 +0000 NovBaby1112 1791843@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: haha omg, too funny, yea I was about to lose my mind as well....I usually do what you do as well, but it's clearly not working! </p> <p>@hilsy85: @Freckles: Ok, good suggestions...I just need to be more firm! I was worried about the blanket thing though bc what if she was cold? But you are right- she can grab it herself and cover herself if she is. </p> <p>@Smurfette: lol. it has its perks! but this whole negotiating with a toddler thing is new to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-with-toddler-indecisiveness#post-1791830 Thu, 31 Jul 2014 12:05:49 +0000 autumnlove 1791830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hate this phase so much. We usually take it away until the whining stops. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-with-toddler-indecisiveness#post-1791826 Thu, 31 Jul 2014 12:03:40 +0000 Smurfette 1791826@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>ok, maybe I don't want R to start talking more </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-with-toddler-indecisiveness#post-1791815 Thu, 31 Jul 2014 12:01:19 +0000 Freckles 1791815@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: jinx! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-with-toddler-indecisiveness#post-1791814 Thu, 31 Jul 2014 12:00:42 +0000 Freckles 1791814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After LO changes her mind once, i don't give in to her demands. If she says "blanket!" and then "no blanket!" i'll take the blanket off, fold it over her crib and tell her the blanket is there for her to take if she wants it later. </p> <p>If she wants it, she can get it herself! :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-with-toddler-indecisiveness#post-1791808 Thu, 31 Jul 2014 11:59:52 +0000 hilsy85 1791808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually just say, "Ok I am going to leave it here next to you and if you decide you want it you can take it" when it's something like a snack or milk or whatever. He will usually cry for a minute or two, but I walk away and then he sorts it out himself. We don't have this issue with blankets though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-with-toddler-indecisiveness#post-1791779 Thu, 31 Jul 2014 11:53:21 +0000 mrsjazz 1791779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NovBaby1112: OMG. This just happened to us 2 nights ago and I thought I was going to go mad! She would throw her cover off and then cry for it. She then cried for 20 minutes because she wanted me to put the blanket in her hands!</p> <p>I don't know that I am doing what I should be doing to make this situation stop, but I usually give in to her until I get too frustrated and then I ignore her. Ignoring her for the 20 minutes did work because she cried herself to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-with-toddler-indecisiveness#post-1791764 Thu, 31 Jul 2014 11:50:05 +0000 NovBaby1112 1791764@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>aka the "I want it!" "No, I don't want it!" phase!</p> <p>My LO is starting to do this all the time lately. She will cry for something, then decide she hates it- throws it down, and then cries for it back. What the heck kid? The worst offender is her comforter on her bed. "Cover!!" I then proceed to cover her. Scream and kick "No cover! Dont want it!" I then take it off her. Rinse and repeat until I have just had enough and throw it in a different room. </p> <p>What do you do when your toddler does this? </p>