https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 02 May 2026 05:48:30 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-find-peace#post-2706519 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 16:09:01 +0000 MrsRoo 2706519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamaof2: @snowbaby: "Our vet told us that he'd never seen someone regret making the decision too soon, but he had seen people regret waiting too long and putting their loved pet through unnecessary pain."<br /> 👆🏻This. We were those people about 5 years ago when we learned my husbands lab had an inoperable tumor. We couldn't let go because she still seemed so happy and normal. I'll spare you the details, but it ended up being much harder the way she went. We had to make the choice to say good bye to my chihuahua last year and it was hard, and sad, and we haven't regretted it. Our oldest (3.75) still talks about him, and it sucks. We told her that he was really sick and that the doctors couldn't help him get better so he went to heaven. She said goodbye to him the morning we took him in. Honestly, just knowing that we were making the right call and keeping him from unnecessary suffering was what helped us make peace with our decision. </p> <p>It's never easy, and I'm so sorry you have to go through it. Hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-find-peace#post-2706500 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 15:49:27 +0000 erinbaderin 2706500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think maybe what the vet meant was that you have to find peace that you are making the best decision for your sweet friend, not that you have to find peace about losing her. It sounds like from what you said, that she is not having a joyful life right now, that you are basically there. I'm so sorry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-find-peace#post-2706432 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 14:31:01 +0000 Mamaof2 2706432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsF: thank you<br /> @snowbaby: sorry for your loss - I never thought of it that way (they aren't dreading the future) that is something I need to keep in mind. She is loyal and is not having a joyful life right now :bummed:<br /> @psw27: sorry for your loss -<br /> @Periwinkle: so sorry for your loss - I think the fact that it isn't life threatening or sudden is what's making it that much harder. Plus I am trying to figure out what to tell my kids....<br /> @lioneyes: yes, I do love her more than anything and should treat her that way by not letting her be in pain everyday </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-find-peace#post-2706412 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 14:00:26 +0000 lioneyes 2706412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry and am thinking about you. It is really the hardest thing to do, but I looked at it as, I love my dog more than anything and I want her to be comfortable and not in pain so making this choice, while incredibly hard, is the best thing for her. As my aunt told me, she is a wonderful friend and she deserves a nice rest.<br /> Please take care of yourself. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-find-peace#post-2706401 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 13:51:21 +0000 Periwinkle 2706401@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this and while I don't have any great wisdom to impart, I wanted to share in your pain and commiserate with you.</p> <p>We had to say goodbye to our Labrador Retriever last month and the decision to do so was honestly one of the hardest things we have ever done. It's only now sinking in that he is no longer home with us, and it's been a painful rollercoaster of emotions these past few weeks. The only thing that made it a bit easier for me is that it was a bit more sudden than what you're going through. He had had an issue which we put off looking into and maybe in our hearts we knew what would be found. When we couldn't ignore the problem any longer, we learned that he was very sick and that while he was most likely not in constant pain right then, it was only a short matter of time before he would become very ill and that it might be traumatic for him and for us. Because of this, I didn't really have a chance to process saying goodbye before it was time. Part of me regrets that we did not bring him home again to "really" say goodbye, but the other part of me knows that I would never have been able to let go knowing what we knew. So I am so, so sorry that you are in that stage right now.</p> <p>As @snowbaby mentioned, it is hard to remember but our beloved dogs, as much as they feel like a human since they are integral parts of our family, do not fear what's to come. This helped me so, so much when the time came for our sweet baby and I tried my hardest to remember him on his happiest days... the vet reminded us that in those final moments, he would not be thinking of anything other than the present moment which was peaceful and comforting, filled with belly rubs and treats. @snowbaby: Thank you so much for articulating this. I am so sorry you went through this too and your comments about the vet's sentiments comfort me tremendously.</p> <p>My heart breaks for you as you navigate this decision and determine the timing. I have to be honest that, as hard as this experience has been for my family and for me, we have found some peace in knowing that he will not hurt from the tumor they discovered. Somedays, that knowledge keeps me feeling OK. Sending you peace, love and strength. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-find-peace#post-2706379 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 13:10:22 +0000 psw27 2706379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowbaby: that is really comforting. :heart: </p> <p>It is so hard to know what to do in these situations. I don't think there is ever a "right" time so you just have to take the leap and trust that you are doing the right thing. I'm so sorry you are going through this. We lost our dog a year and a half ago and I still cry thinking about it. xoxo. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-find-peace#post-2706357 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 12:47:41 +0000 snowbaby 2706357@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My heart goes out to you - this is so, so hard. No real advice, just hugs. </p> <p>That said, I'll share some thoughts from my recent experience. We let our sweet old American Bulldog go about 1.5 years ago, and one thought that brought me comfort was the reminder that dogs are creatures of joy and live entirely in the present moment. Your sweet old girl is not worrying about or dreading the future. Something that brought me clarity about our particular situation and that helped me ultimately to make the decision to let our old girl go was this question: is she hanging in there for herself because she is still leading a joyful existence, or is she hanging in there for me, despite her pain, because of her loyalty? Our vet told us that he'd never seen someone regret making the decision too soon, but he had seen people regret waiting too long and putting their loved pet through unnecessary pain. Sending so many hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-find-peace#post-2706356 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 12:47:38 +0000 MrsF 2706356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have advice but I'm so sorry that you're going through this :crying: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-find-peace#post-2706320 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 11:49:36 +0000 Mamaof2 2706320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My dog has been slowly going downhill since last summer - old age issues, not sickness.</p> <p>Its gotten worse since Christmas and again last week.</p> <p>I took her to the vet and she thought it was time to put her down - she gave me some painkillers and told me to "find peace" with saying goodbye and then give her a call to schedule it.</p> <p>I cant do it...... how do you find peace with something like this? :crying: </p> <p>She will be 17 in April so she has had a nice long life :heart: </p>