https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 16 May 2026 14:17:51 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-12-month-old-to-sttn#post-2046753 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 01:22:40 +0000 2babygirls 2046753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just went through this with my nearly seven month old. She got to the point of awakening so frequently that she was not getting any restorative sleep (neither was anyone else in the house!) After talking to &amp; getting encouragement from my pediatrician &amp; sister, who just went through this with her LO, I decided I was ready to try to let her CIO. It was really only 2 nights of 30-45 minute periods of crying &amp; now she is sttn with an occasional 4 am wake-up, in which she can put herself back to sleep. It was hard mentally preparing myself for it but I am so glad I did it, not only for me &amp; my sleep, but for her. She is such a happier baby now &amp; naps have improved drastically too. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-12-month-old-to-sttn#post-2045449 Thu, 29 Jan 2015 12:44:09 +0000 gotkimchi 2045449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jbock: let me know if you go for it! She's been waking up more also when it used to be just 4am :( I think we're going to have to go for it cold turkey. Our md recommended water in bottle but we tried that and she was pissed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-12-month-old-to-sttn#post-2045423 Thu, 29 Jan 2015 12:33:22 +0000 jbock 2045423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Let us know what you decide to do. We are in the same boat with our 13 month old. We did extinction at 8 months but always kept the feed between 4-6am to allow everyone some more sleep. It was easy to handle one wake up at that time when she would go back to sleep until 8 or 8:30am. We are now waking up 2-3 times a night and have only been giving her water in a bottle when she wakes but that hasn't stopped the wake-ups. I'm thinking it's a bottle association too because she doesn't get it during the day but is always asking for it. Good luck! We may be trying to get rid of the bottle and feeds cold turkey this weekend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-12-month-old-to-sttn#post-2043915 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 14:34:22 +0000 sailgrl18 2043915@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We sleep trained with extinction to get DS to STTN at 9 months. I was nursing him to sleep previously and we moved nursing earlier in the bedtime routine to make sure he didn't have a sleep association. We had done extinction at 6 months previously but he regressed and brought that feeding back. It's now been 3 months and those feedings have not come back. However, he never was able to drop the last feeding and would wake at 5. I'd then feed him and he'd sleep some more. But 3 months of consistent 8-5am sleep (absent odd nights of sickness or night terror where I have nursed before 5) has been great. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-12-month-old-to-sttn#post-2043756 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 13:28:33 +0000 gotkimchi 2043756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@birdofafeather: we tried this once, and I should have stuck with it but she cried from 3-5 just like you said for 2 nights, slept night 3, but woke up night 4 again so I caved!!!! I think I have to commit to at least a week </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-12-month-old-to-sttn#post-2043734 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 13:17:56 +0000 birdofafeather 2043734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gotkimchi: it was a lot harder because of that and the fact that we were both exhausted at 2 am and wanted to give in!</p> <p>we followed this protocol in terms of timing: <a href="http://noobmommy.com/2008/11/to-ferberize-or-not-to-ferberize.html" rel="nofollow">http://noobmommy.com/2008/11/to-ferberize-or-not-to-ferberize.html</a></p> <p>he would just go in and she would be PISSED and then lay her back down, rub her back for a minute or two, say it's time for night night, walk out. we set the timer and went with it. if she was just whining, we didn't go in. she would get really ramped up right when we left, but calmed down faster. the 1st and 3rd night, she cried/then whined off and on from 3-5 and it sucked. night 2 gave us hope, so we pushed through night 3. then night 4, she didn't wake up at all! she has regressions every now and then with illness and teeth and some separation anxiety, but otherwise, she's good to go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-12-month-old-to-sttn#post-2043714 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 13:09:35 +0000 gotkimchi 2043714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <br /><p><i>This comment has been deleted by the original poster.</i></p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-12-month-old-to-sttn#post-2043713 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 13:09:01 +0000 gotkimchi 2043713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@birdofafeather: tell me more! What did he do when he went it? I feel like it's so much harder now that she can stand and yell! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-12-month-old-to-sttn#post-2043709 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 13:08:01 +0000 gotkimchi 2043709@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kemma: I'm nursing so I don't know for sure but she's definately not starving when I go in! She usually nurses for approx 5 min, mostly of it sleepily. She also doesn't care if I pull her off early </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-12-month-old-to-sttn#post-2043698 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 13:00:58 +0000 birdofafeather 2043698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we had to ST to drop to night wean/STTN at 12.5 months and we committed to 1 week of ferber CIO. we had DH go in there for 3 nights and it was bad because crying in the middle of the night for 2+ hours sucked when i knew i could go in there, but because we committed, we stuck it out and she was STTN by night 4. :) good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-12-month-old-to-sttn#post-2043695 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 12:59:54 +0000 Kemma 2043695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gotkimchi: how much milk is she drinking during those night feedings? My LO took awhile to coordinate her solid and bm intake (dropping sessions but not eating enough solids to make up for the calories) so when she woke she would guzzle back the milk then go back to sleep. All of a sudden she worked it out at around 18 months and was sttn most of the time by 21 months or so. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-12-month-old-to-sttn#post-2043681 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 12:52:56 +0000 gotkimchi 2043681@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LuLu Mom: she does have a lovey with her- actually 3 of them. I'm saying this with love, but dh is useless at night, he wants to ignore until 5am. I feel horrible doing that, but going in usually makes her pissed unless you feed her </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-12-month-old-to-sttn#post-2043476 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 11:18:28 +0000 LuLu Mom 2043476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gotkimchi: In this case I would let her go, unless she goes hysterical I would let her whine/whimper/cry and maybe she will learn to soothe herself back to sleep. Does she have a lovey or stuffed animal in the crib with her? at 12 months you are safe to introduce something to help comfort her. And I would send DH in with a bottle instead of nursing or even a sippy of water (at 12 months she doesn't need that milk, she should be getting enough through the day) she might decide "this sucks and stop doing it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-12-month-old-to-sttn#post-2043464 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 11:13:37 +0000 raintreebee 2043464@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We did CIO for the last MOTN feed at 9 months. He only cried on the first two nights for maybe 20 minutes. The next several nights, he would wake up for awhile but go back to sleep without crying eventually (I wouldn't have even noticed but I have dropcam and looked at the history). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-12-month-old-to-sttn#post-2043397 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 10:40:16 +0000 avivoca 2043397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I started sending my husband in for MOTN wakings right around 12 months. She was STTN at about 12.5 months and we night weaned. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-12-month-old-to-sttn#post-2043353 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 10:17:55 +0000 edelweiss 2043353@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>is there someone else who could go in and comfort her instead of you, so she won't expect nursing from them? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-12-month-old-to-sttn#post-2043165 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 08:17:02 +0000 Bubbles 2043165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gotkimchi: It may not take so long with an older LO, maybe she will understand a bit better when you tell her? I know my LO now at 13mo understands most of what I say - but I guess that extra awareness could also make it harder! It was really tough but SO worth it for the consistent night time sleep we have now. Like a million times worth it. I did also get DH to help as much as possible with the wake ups! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-12-month-old-to-sttn#post-2043162 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 08:12:49 +0000 hilsy85 2043162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gotkimchi: if she's not completely hysterical then I would definitely leave her! Go in and rub her back if you want, but don't nurse...it's so tough in the MOTN, that's why I nursed as long as I did! i just wanted to go back to sleep :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-12-month-old-to-sttn#post-2043160 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 08:11:44 +0000 gotkimchi 2043160@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bubbles: that's what I'm wondering if I should go in and just say it's bedtime and rub her head and leave? But I'm weak at 1am lol! And Im picturing 2 weeks of hell so I guess I just have to man up </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-12-month-old-to-sttn#post-2043158 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 08:09:45 +0000 gotkimchi 2043158@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladybee: @Ash: that's what I'm worried about :/ I see no end in sight and I kept thinking I'll stop at 9 mo at 10 etc and here we are :( I'm also worried it's only going to get harder as she gets older.</p> <p>@hilsy85: she cries, but not screaming miserable just mad it seems? She stands at the side of her crib like she's waiting for me. I've left her for 20 min and she just stands up/lays down but doesn't go back to sleep. It's like I've trained her that I'll come in there </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-12-month-old-to-sttn#post-2043155 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 08:07:25 +0000 Bubbles 2043155@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I night weaned from bfing around 7 months (although DS was getting quite a bit of formula during the day at that point). He was only feeding for a few minutes at a time during the night, and waking up in the morning not at all hungry - so I felt confident he did not need the nutrition. </p> <p>What I did was to set a time which I would not feed before, and if he woke before then I would comfort him in other ways. Shhing, stroking, patting, rocking etc. I would try not to pick him up if at all possible, and I would make sure my chest was VERY well covered. </p> <p>I'm not gonna lie, it was 2 weeks of absolute sleep hell. He woke up hundreds of times a night, it was extremely difficult to get him back to sleep without bfing, and I wanted to give up many times. My plan was to gradually move the 'do not feed before' time up until it got to 6am, but after a couple of weeks DS just sttn one day out of the blue - and he has continued to do so ever since (fingers crossed it stays that way!)</p> <p>We haven't done cio so I can't advise on that - but maybe a good idea to get rid of one feed at a time if you go that route? Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-12-month-old-to-sttn#post-2043149 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 08:01:49 +0000 hilsy85 2043149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO didn't STTN til 13.5 months and then it just happened, BAM, overnight. When she wakes up does she cry? Or just fuss/talk to herself? YOu could try leaving her for 15-20 min or so and see what happens. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-12-month-old-to-sttn#post-2043148 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 07:58:56 +0000 Ash 2043148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladybee: yup, me too! </p> <p>I think it's pretty normal to still be having wake ups at this age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-12-month-old-to-sttn#post-2043128 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 07:35:46 +0000 ladybee 2043128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wish I had advice. I'm that mom that still feeds my 15 month old if he wakes up. Hopefully you get good ideas! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-12-month-old-to-sttn#post-2043125 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 07:27:22 +0000 gotkimchi 2043125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We sleep trained my lo (extinction) for falling asleep around 6 months. She goes to bed great but continued to have one feeding around 3. Lately she's been waking up even early 11/12/1 and so we're back to 2 feedings. I want to night wean and get her sttn. So do we do extinxtion all night? Other ideas? How do you comfort your lo in the motn w/o feeding? I always do that because it's fast and reliable but I seriously need a good nights sleep! Also, if she wakes up at 4 what do I do? I've been feeding so we all get more sleep but I've left her before and she just stays awake. 4am is not going to work for me! </p>