https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 18 May 2026 08:57:50 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-tantruming-toddler-into-the-carseat/page/2#post-2355246 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 09:20:10 +0000 Mrs D 2355246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: its survival...I hate bribing DD too but sometimes it just have to be done! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-tantruming-toddler-into-the-carseat/page/2#post-2355191 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 08:53:27 +0000 Applesandbananas 2355191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I use physical force to get him in if he really fights me. Usually counting to three and offering to let him snap the chest clip go a long way, but he has his days for sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-tantruming-toddler-into-the-carseat/page/2#post-2355147 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 08:10:55 +0000 MrsSRS 2355147@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BeachMama: Yeah, that isn't really acceptable, especially if the 8 mo also attends there. At an absolute bare minimum they should have offered to hold the baby or remove the dress. As another parent picking up I would have offered to hold baby! Maybe a brief word with the director about a refresher for the teachers on end of day responsibilities? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-tantruming-toddler-into-the-carseat/page/2#post-2355068 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 00:44:34 +0000 daniellemybelle 2355068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs D: @HabesBabe: I genuinely give props to any parents who stick to their guns as far as not bribing or using force with their kid but this one of the few situations that gets me into a cold sweat so freaking fast so I just do what I have to do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-tantruming-toddler-into-the-carseat/page/2#post-2354533 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 15:51:24 +0000 BeachMama 2354533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@skipra: yeah that's what annoyed me. It was a chilly day so instead of playing outside they were playing inside. she had an Elsa dress on that's he refused to take off to come home. I had to put the baby sitting on the floor to chase her around to get it off. They could've at least chimed in "Evelyn it's time to take the Elsa dress off and go home" but they pretty much just sat there talking to each other. Her main teacher would've helped me but these two girls are younger and just don't get it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-tantruming-toddler-into-the-carseat/page/2#post-2354378 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 14:56:15 +0000 skipra 2354378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BeachMama: First, I find it crazy that the teachers didn't have her get ready to leave. DS1 used to throw tantrums about leaving places. It is easier for us to avoid the tantrum or get him calmed before attempting the car seat. In your situation I would have gotten the baby in and then tried to comfort the older one. Usually my guy calms down with some hugs and reassuring him that he can go back to play soon and telling him about something else fun that we have planned. Then sometimes bribing with a snack or one of his favorite car toys to get in the seat. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-tantruming-toddler-into-the-carseat/page/2#post-2354318 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 14:36:46 +0000 tiramisu 2354318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CakeLady: Lol!! I have a combo of rod and twister. It drives me crazy! I usually end up giving her something to eat to distract her as I wrestle her in. </p> <p>@AggieDaze: My stern voice doesn't work on my DD either. She's either unfazed or she laughs at me! I really need to work on being stern and authoritative. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-tantruming-toddler-into-the-carseat#post-2353693 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 10:25:49 +0000 kodybear 2353693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CakeLady: haha i def have a slow poke (dd) and a rod (ds). </p> <p>we keep a laptop toy in the car so whoever is not cooperating i give it to. sometimes ill have snacks for them which helps alot. sometimes i can bribe them with music in the car (for the older one, she loves frozen and arianna grande :-p) but alot of times its just karate chopping and for my slowpoke i have to start counting or somehow coax her up. its hard. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-tantruming-toddler-into-the-carseat#post-2353312 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 23:01:36 +0000 MrsSRS 2353312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@AggieDaze: maybe a spray bottle of water like I use on my misbehaving pets? :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-tantruming-toddler-into-the-carseat#post-2353308 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 22:57:28 +0000 AggieDaze 2353308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsSRS: I'm going to give it a shot next time! I swear the kid doesn't even notice when I raise my voice... maybe that means I do it too much? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-tantruming-toddler-into-the-carseat#post-2353206 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 21:13:02 +0000 MrsSRS 2353206@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@AggieDaze: I meant a pretty intense one. Stern, loud, and right up close. My toddler is pretty sensitive so would probably be quite startled. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-tantruming-toddler-into-the-carseat#post-2353201 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 21:09:03 +0000 AggieDaze 2353201@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsSRS: I really wish I could use a stern STOP though I think my toddler would be unfazed. I apparently really need to work on my stern voice... it does not work at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-tantruming-toddler-into-the-carseat#post-2353200 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 21:08:52 +0000 winniebee 2353200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: hahhaha. I've done the elbow to chest maneuver many times. But it doesn't really work anymore now that he's so frigging strong. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-tantruming-toddler-into-the-carseat#post-2353197 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 21:08:01 +0000 cmomma17 2353197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just read the whole thread and feel like I'm missing out because I haven't karate chopped my kid yet. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-tantruming-toddler-into-the-carseat#post-2353194 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 21:06:01 +0000 cmomma17 2353194@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BeachMama: oh man, not much you can do! Especially with your hands so full of everything else!<br /> I feel your pain mama, I have a toddler and an 8 month old too. The toddler knows that he can either walk like a big boy and do what mommy asks, or he's going to get picked up (kicking and screaming). That's the rule. Still stressful! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-tantruming-toddler-into-the-carseat#post-2353175 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 20:51:01 +0000 babybysurprise 2353175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sure I am a terrible parent for this but...peppa pig on you tube works ever time...she will do anything to watch that pig </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-tantruming-toddler-into-the-carseat#post-2353159 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 20:36:29 +0000 MrsSRS 2353159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really try not to yell, but if I was being hit and kicked there is a solid chance that I would yell a forceful, not angry, STOP close to LO's face and then take advantage of the moment of surprise to buckle as fast as possible. Great parenting, no? But sometimes you choose the lesser evil. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-tantruming-toddler-into-the-carseat#post-2353097 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 19:56:57 +0000 Ash 2353097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CakeLady: bahahahah! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-tantruming-toddler-into-the-carseat#post-2353078 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 19:33:15 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2353078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CakeLady: yes! We have a mix of a stiff board and a twister when it comes to getting into his RFing car seat. He gets so excited to put on shoes thinking he's getting to go play outside that he pitches a fit when it's time to get in the seat. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-tantruming-toddler-into-the-carseat#post-2353016 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 18:17:21 +0000 CakeLady 2353016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@avivoca: karate chop totally reminded me of this cartoon! Toddler car seat drama is the worst! </p> [attach=4156/15/nxobcx.590x600.image.jpeg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-tantruming-toddler-into-the-carseat#post-2352924 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 16:34:23 +0000 HabesBabe 2352924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@avivoca:@Mrs D: @daniellemybelle: hahahah i can't get over the karate chops! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-tantruming-toddler-into-the-carseat#post-2352577 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 14:23:35 +0000 avivoca 2352577@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I karate chop her at the waist and use one arm to physically hold her in the seat while I buckle her. I hate doing it, but I don't have time for her to have her meltdown moment in a busy parking lot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-tantruming-toddler-into-the-carseat#post-2352574 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 14:21:52 +0000 Greentea 2352574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: I would do the same. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-tantruming-toddler-into-the-carseat#post-2352536 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 14:04:14 +0000 BeachMama 2352536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@novbaby1112: Yeah, no amount of tickling or bribery would calm my DD down either. Plus I don't really want to give her a treat when she's acting like an a-hole. </p> <p>Physical force is really the only way to get her in, but it was hard because she was hitting and kicking me and when you're leaning into the car you're in prime position to be hit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-tantruming-toddler-into-the-carseat#post-2352498 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 13:34:07 +0000 looch 2352498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The only thing that I really do that has any effect is to just get in the car, close both doors and wait it out. I find I am much calmer when my parenting isn't on display. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-tantruming-toddler-into-the-carseat#post-2352490 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 13:32:00 +0000 sarac 2352490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, I would never tickle my child to distract her from a tantrum. I'm surprised that this is so common. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-tantruming-toddler-into-the-carseat#post-2352488 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 13:31:36 +0000 AggieDaze 2352488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thought I'd add that typically if I can just get one buckle in forcibly, then he says "oww" because it is uncomfortable and realizes that he has to sit down and straight. Everything else follows from there. </p> <p>Ironically he NEVER does this to my husband. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-tantruming-toddler-into-the-carseat#post-2352406 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 12:58:11 +0000 MrsRcCar 2352406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Bear hug and then into the seat. If they are still planking then I let them scream and finish the tantrum in the safety of the car while I completely ignore it until they are finished. I am not a bribery fan when it comes to matters of safety. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-tantruming-toddler-into-the-carseat#post-2352397 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 12:54:40 +0000 Mrs D 2352397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: i just laughed out loud at work! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-tantruming-toddler-into-the-carseat#post-2352370 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 12:24:59 +0000 HabesBabe 2352370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Golden: ditto... tantrum time for us is not tickle time. If something needs to be done (especially safety-related), force is what happens, unfortunately.</p> <p>@daniellemybelle: HAAHAHAH those are two opposite ends of the spectrum! </p>