https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 05:11:59 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-fussyscreaming-baby-calm-enough-to-breastfeed#post-2082294 Mon, 23 Feb 2015 17:18:16 +0000 miramira 2082294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I second napping beside him or with him in your lap (with your boobs out :)) so he can latch on when he needs to. My LO often gets frustrated if there's no boob there for him as he rouses. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-fussyscreaming-baby-calm-enough-to-breastfeed#post-2082269 Mon, 23 Feb 2015 17:05:58 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 2082269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kbee: Could he have reflux?? It started around 2 weeks old for my daughter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-fussyscreaming-baby-calm-enough-to-breastfeed#post-2082200 Mon, 23 Feb 2015 16:34:04 +0000 turkeylurkey 2082200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kbee: I don't know if someone else had mentioned this, but when my little one was doing this I started off with a bottle and did the switcher-roo on him. It was enough to get him past that I'm starving mode. I also found that the shields helped too </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-fussyscreaming-baby-calm-enough-to-breastfeed#post-2081710 Mon, 23 Feb 2015 13:21:25 +0000 catomd00 2081710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LOUD white noise </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-fussyscreaming-baby-calm-enough-to-breastfeed#post-2081650 Mon, 23 Feb 2015 12:53:29 +0000 Kbee 2081650@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LuLu Mom: Hmm... I'm trying to think if I ate anything differently in the last few days. There was a black bean taco soup that my mom made us that we've eaten for the last 3 days. Lots of beans, a little corn, and a little spicy. A possibility, maybe? It's not that I don't want to use my supply, but I don't want to mess up breastfeeding by giving him the bottle. He doesn't have to use as much effort to drink from the bottle, and I don't want that to cause him to resist the breast because it takes more work. I think one bottle a day is fine, especially because I will be going back to work in April and I want him to be used to them, just not favor them.</p> <p>ETA: But yes, at the times when he really wasn't nursing at all, we did give him a bottle. We've given him 3 now in the last 2 days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-fussyscreaming-baby-calm-enough-to-breastfeed#post-2081572 Mon, 23 Feb 2015 12:20:23 +0000 LuLu Mom 2081572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kbee: Could it be something in your diet recently causing him to be in pain? Have you changed anything or ate anything spicy? Just another thing to consider. </p> <p>I know you don't' want to use your extra milk supply but if he takes the bottle, could you pump and then feed if he takes it just so he's getting something? Also our LC told us to never rock when feeding, automatic sleep, so I striped LO down and made sure not to rock in the chair. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-fussyscreaming-baby-calm-enough-to-breastfeed#post-2081511 Mon, 23 Feb 2015 11:48:31 +0000 Kbee 2081511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you everyone for your advice! </p> <p>@Cole: We swaddle at night and use the 5 S's, but are a little resistant to swaddle during the day. We're trying to do everything we can to distinguish days from nights so that he learns that as the weeks go along. We might have to start swaddling during the day though too...</p> <p>@jedeve: He is definitely gassy and I know it bothers him a lot. When I'm not trying to feed him, I'm trying to burp him, bicycle his legs, etc. </p> <p>@erinpye: @Mrs.Someone: @snowjewelz: Yes, we actually did contact a LC on Saturday night and she came to the house yesterday (before I posted this). She is supposed to be one of the best in the area, but unfortunately even she remarked that he was one of the more fussy, frustrated babies that she has seen and didn't actually have any solutions for us. She said his latch was fine, suck was good, and my milk supply and flow were fine. She also said he didn't have a tongue tie. I'm just supposed to "keep at it" and in dire situations only, supplement with pumped milk. She did tell me to pump when he wasn't eating "full meals" in order to keep my supply up and prevent plugged ducts, so that's what I've been doing.</p> <p>@snowjewelz: Yes, I'm REALLY hoping it's a growth spurt! It seemed to come on almost immediately. He actually successfully nursed this morning, so I'm hoping that if it's just a growth spurt, that we're on the home stretch?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-fussyscreaming-baby-calm-enough-to-breastfeed#post-2081353 Mon, 23 Feb 2015 09:47:29 +0000 snowjewelz 2081353@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just want to say don't feel bad and don't give up! I have an almost 12 week old and still fuss at the boob randomly, lot worse through growth spurts. I agree with keeping them awake as much as possible. If he is already screaming, calm him down then try again. Hugs!!</p> <p>I also recommend finding a lactation consultant to check things out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-fussyscreaming-baby-calm-enough-to-breastfeed#post-2081332 Mon, 23 Feb 2015 09:23:18 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2081332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Soooo much easier said than done, but I would also recommend stripping him down and tickling him so that he stays awake when you do finally get him to latch. He's probably exhausted from all of the screaming! Our LO used to do this too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-fussyscreaming-baby-calm-enough-to-breastfeed#post-2081287 Mon, 23 Feb 2015 08:46:37 +0000 californiadreams 2081287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i had some trouble like this around 3 months and found the best way to calm him was to wear him for a bit. It actually still works as a calming technique 2 years later! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-fussyscreaming-baby-calm-enough-to-breastfeed#post-2081236 Mon, 23 Feb 2015 06:42:56 +0000 zeebaby 2081236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry you are going through this. It happened to us two weeks back and I ended up crying every time my baby boy cried. My breasts were engorged which is why he couldn't latch on. I started using heating pad on my breasts before every feeding. If he still had a problem latching on i pumped for 5 minutes and then fed him. It was a really long dance before every feeding but it worked. Once the engorgement went away he was back to nursing normally. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-fussyscreaming-baby-calm-enough-to-breastfeed#post-2081179 Mon, 23 Feb 2015 00:00:37 +0000 Mrs.Someone 2081179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Make an appointment with an IBCLC before it affects your supply and his weight gain... These things are tough to figure out on our own! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-fussyscreaming-baby-calm-enough-to-breastfeed#post-2081173 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 23:45:18 +0000 Woolly Mammoth 2081173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We used white noise to calm LO down enough to latch. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-fussyscreaming-baby-calm-enough-to-breastfeed#post-2081170 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 23:33:41 +0000 magnolia 2081170@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry you are dealing with this. Maybe try different positions? My babe sometimes only will latch (in between fussing and popping off) from a side lying position. also sometimes I sing and lay a blanket over him to try to calm him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-fussyscreaming-baby-calm-enough-to-breastfeed#post-2081152 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 22:40:16 +0000 erinpye 2081152@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have your baby checked for tongue tie. My first was fine for the first 4/5 weeks, and then screamed her head off, arched and kicked and fought nursing, until we had her posterior tongue tie and upper lip tie corrected at 6 months old. She was diagnosed over and over with reflux, and put on meds, but the ties were missed by 3 doctors and an LC. You can look at my previous posts on here, or Google Dr. Ghaheri (ENT) or Dr. Kotlow (dentist) for TONS of info. It's common, and often missed. Just a thought since what you're describing sounds very similar to my experience. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-fussyscreaming-baby-calm-enough-to-breastfeed#post-2081144 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 22:33:27 +0000 jedeve 2081144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My kid can be a fussy nurser. Things that help: waiting till he is almost asleep and switching a paci for the breast, feeding in a carrier, feeding while being rocked. </p> <p>Also could gas be the culprit? Try rubbing his belly, bicycling his legs. </p> <p>Good luck! It's normal for things to get harder around then. They get past that sleepy stage. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-fussyscreaming-baby-calm-enough-to-breastfeed#post-2081138 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 22:24:19 +0000 Cole 2081138@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When my baby was screaming too much I found my best bet was to get her to sleep and lay her next to my bare chest. She would stir and I would immediately help her latch on so she was basically still asleep. To calm the screaming our best bet was usually the five S's (try you tube and search for Dr. Harvey Karp if you're not familiar.) E would have her swaddled and bounce her in the bathroom with either the shower or the hair dryer going for white noise. </p> <p>Good luck and big hugs to you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-fussyscreaming-baby-calm-enough-to-breastfeed#post-2081119 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 22:05:02 +0000 jetsa 2081119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This may be difficult to do but you need to feed him before he gets so mad he starts screaming. What I found worked was stripping my LO down and tickling his feet while eating so that he eats before getting mad. You will get through this :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-fussyscreaming-baby-calm-enough-to-breastfeed#post-2081115 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 22:02:05 +0000 Kbee 2081115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Long story short - our LO is 18 days old and just started becoming fussy about 2 days ago. Today we reached a new low - he's been screaming any time he's awake and won't breastfeed (latches on but falls asleep immediately, then wakes up again rooting around and screaming, and does that over and over again). He was successfully breastfeeding before today. Tonight has been the worst - he woke up from a nap screaming so hard that he can't even focus on latching on, so still no breastfeeding. He's hungry and screaming. Earlier today we had to supplement with pumped milk for the first time, which I'd like to avoid again if possible. We are just about at our wit's end and it's only been one day of this. </p> <p>Any tips on getting a fussy, screaming baby calm enough to breastfeed? </p>