https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 06 Jun 2026 22:22:00 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-possibly-daycare-issue#post-2161884 Thu, 30 Apr 2015 10:09:07 +0000 daniellemybelle 2161884@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Coral: Just saw that you said this too - I really think this is very likely. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-possibly-daycare-issue#post-2161881 Thu, 30 Apr 2015 10:08:25 +0000 daniellemybelle 2161881@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That would concern me too :( I have noticed LO saying things I believe she picked up at daycare like, "I sorry," and she says, "Don't touch" when she touches herself during a diaper change. Even though I am okay with both (I think the latter is not shaming but because they don't want her to get a poop covered hand) I still get that twinge-y feeling, like, "What are you saying to and teaching my baby?" So I can only imagine how you would feel.</p> <p>Having said that, there's a lot of ways she could have learned this! What if one of the other kids has parents that use this kind of discipline, and she has seen it acted out during play? Or she could have even seen it on TV if she watches TV? We put in a Care Bears DVD on a recent road trip and I was really kind of alarmed by some of the negative messages in it!</p> <p>Still, I would definitely talk to the daycare, but I would probably bring it up in more of a neutral, curious way than accusing, because you just don't know. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-possibly-daycare-issue#post-2161578 Thu, 30 Apr 2015 06:10:23 +0000 blackbird 2161578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: It sounds like if you chat with her regularly, it'd be easy to slip into the conversation about how your LO was acting and say something like "you don't think she learned that here, do you?" or something innocent. </p> <p>@Mrs. Pen: AH creepy little weirdo!!!!! E has this laugh that I find sort of...unsettling. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-possibly-daycare-issue#post-2161575 Thu, 30 Apr 2015 06:03:07 +0000 creativemomma15 2161575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you usually chat with the director I would say something... Yes it's possible she's just making it up or something but if you've already seen interactions you aren't really comfortable with at daycare I would say something. You could just say what she was playing and say something like "I'm not sure if it came from here or not but I've seen a few teachers speak harshly to a few kids before and I felt like I needed to ask about it" If nothing else it keeps the director aware and maybe they need to review their policies with a teacher. I'm sorry you have to struggle with figuring out where it came from and I hope you can have a positive conversation with the director. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-possibly-daycare-issue#post-2161572 Thu, 30 Apr 2015 05:58:32 +0000 Mrs. Coral 2161572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: I'd be inclined to think another child taught her that, especially if they play with dolls at daycare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-possibly-daycare-issue#post-2161559 Thu, 30 Apr 2015 05:45:57 +0000 mediagirl 2161559@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: @sandy: @regberadaisy: @Mrs. Pen: @blackbird: I totally missed the opportunity to ask where she heard it in the moment. I just explained how it's not nice to exclude our friends from play so she got her baby, hugged and kissed her and brought her back. </p> <p>It's totally possible she made it up but I have a nagging feeling it came from daycare. Once or twice I have heard some teachers speak more harshly than I prefer to the rowdier kids. I still think I may bring it up with the director, but in a friendly way. We chat every morning so it wouldn't be weird for me to have a conversation with her about something like this. </p> <p>You're all totally right, though. Toddlers are so weird! Haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-possibly-daycare-issue#post-2161483 Wed, 29 Apr 2015 21:30:36 +0000 regberadaisy 2161483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agree with pp that I wouldn't automatically assume it came from daycare. M does some things sometimes I have no clue where she got it from. I typically ask her on the spot and sometimes it's TV, sometimes daycare and sometimes just her imagination! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-possibly-daycare-issue#post-2161454 Wed, 29 Apr 2015 20:57:45 +0000 Mrs. Pen 2161454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: @sandy: that was my thought too. Sometimes my kid comes up with the most bizarre things. Like one time he said in a very monotone, low voice, "I'm going to hurt you now." And I am 100% he did not hear that anywhere. It was actually kind of creepy. But I don't think he even understood what he was really saying. But yeah he's come up with some weird stuff on his own. </p> <p>I hope everything works out! I do tell our daycare provider stories of things he does sometimes (like the time I heard him singing the Nicki Minaj song, "oh my god, look at her butt", and found out he'd heard it from her son...) because if he did pick up things at her house- she is really great about nipping it in the bud and dealing with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-possibly-daycare-issue#post-2161447 Wed, 29 Apr 2015 20:47:25 +0000 sandy 2161447@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: yes! Toddlers are weird and have crazy imaginations. Or they see some kind of interaction and perceive it in their own weird way </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-possibly-daycare-issue#post-2161446 Wed, 29 Apr 2015 20:45:07 +0000 blackbird 2161446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely ask your LO. E does bizarre things that I really don't think she gets from daycare-TV or another kid maybe! Or a book? Could be totally nothing </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-possibly-daycare-issue#post-2161441 Wed, 29 Apr 2015 20:42:26 +0000 sandy 2161441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would try asking her "who says that" or "who does that" or "who talks like that" and see what she says. It could be another child who is playing like that but it could be a teacher. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-possibly-daycare-issue#post-2161428 Wed, 29 Apr 2015 20:36:51 +0000 Truth Bombs 2161428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have you asked your daughter where she learned to say things like that? I find my daughter is pretty reliable with the information she gives me so I like to ask her before I approach the teacher or director. If she confirms your suspicions I would definitely say something to the director. In our state, time outs are actually not even allowed legally. Though to be honest I find that frustrating because it leaves the teachers no way to discipline or give a negative consequence when there are kids hitting/biting or being really aggressive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-possibly-daycare-issue#post-2161412 Wed, 29 Apr 2015 20:23:19 +0000 mediagirl 2161412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This weekend my daughter was playing with her dolls. At one point she picked up one doll, carried her out of her room and into the hallway. She sat her down and said, "You're not listening. You go sit out here." Then she went back to her room and slammed the door. </p> <p>Slamming the door is a toddler thing. Talking to her baby doll that way worries us. We never speak to her like that. Her daycare promotes all the proper ways you're supposed to redirect and talk to children. They supposedly do not use time outs or punishments. </p> <p>How would you bring it up with the director? Just explain the story and see what she says? I feel like I know which teacher would talk to the kids like this and I don't feel comfortable confronting her with this dilemma. </p>