https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 27 May 2026 10:31:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-terrifying-birth-stories-from-friends#post-2588553 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 15:14:02 +0000 pastemoo 2588553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Paddington10: I agree, talk to the doctor about your fears.<br /> Also, every birth is different. No matter how many stories you hear about birth, yours will be different. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-terrifying-birth-stories-from-friends#post-2588543 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 15:02:26 +0000 Mrsbells 2588543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Paddington10: Its hard. I think childbirth in general can be terrifying, there are so many risks and so many things that can go wrong, and to be honest the same applies to pregnancy in general. Its very hard for me to hear about complications and losses during my own pregnancy but since all of it is out of my control I try to focus on the things I can control and not focus on everything that can go wrong. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-terrifying-birth-stories-from-friends#post-2588516 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 14:15:52 +0000 BSB 2588516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A few days before my induction, I had fears, too. I knew there was a chance of having an c-section and women can die during any stage of the process. For me, I knew I had to at least think of it... planned for it (had to have the talk with DH about what would happen if I passed) and then the only thing to do was hope (and pray) that it wouldn't happen. I'm not that religious but I said private prayer to myself on that day. </p> <p>Even though I'm not pregnant anymore, I have fleeting moments where I think I could die on my way to work or in my sleep. I worry about it for a few minutes (maybe shed a tear) and then move on.</p> <p>Yeah, I would suggest talking to your dr about and maybe she can alleviate some of your fears by answering your questions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-terrifying-birth-stories-from-friends#post-2588512 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 14:09:37 +0000 wheres_c 2588512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Try not to worry too much! Doctors and hospitals have been attending to childbirths for many years. They are well trained to handle emergencies.<br /> I hemorrhaged during my C-Section and my doctor handled it professionally. It was definitely scary but they are trained to handle these types of things! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-terrifying-birth-stories-from-friends#post-2588391 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 11:47:57 +0000 sunny 2588391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Placenta accreta is relatively rare. If you have concerns, bring them up with your doctor. I was diagnosed and my doctor went over all of the contingency plans with me. I was able to speak with anesthesia and hematology to get my questions answered which helped somewhat alleviate my anxiety. </p> <p>My understanding is that if there are good imaging studies done, accreta can be diagnosed and managed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-terrifying-birth-stories-from-friends#post-2588321 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 10:42:09 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2588321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just one thing to point out, it sounds like hopefully your friend was well cared for and survived. Its a fluke thing that happens and can't be predicted. Maybe talk to your OB about what the process/protocol would be if something like that did come up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-terrifying-birth-stories-from-friends#post-2588317 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 10:39:29 +0000 simplyfelicity 2588317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Chillybear: agreed!</p> <p>Tell your doctor these fears! Just remember, that it's the horror stories you hear, not the happy ones! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-terrifying-birth-stories-from-friends#post-2588311 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 10:29:41 +0000 Chillybear 2588311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At you next appt, could you confront your fears with your doctor? Ask them if they have any experience with the condition? See if they have a working plan in place if there is a dire emergency at the small hospital. </p> <p>Basically I would ask your doctor to alleviate your fears and you arent satisfied by the answers maybe you want to look at other options </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-terrifying-birth-stories-from-friends#post-2588307 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 10:25:33 +0000 Paddington10 2588307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A very good friend with high-risk issues nearly died last week in childbirth. She had placenta accreta and needed massive transfusions. Her nurse told her she could have died. She is still totally traumatized.</p> <p>I of course want to be supportive, but at seven months, this is freaking me the EFF out to hear. Especially because this is not the first time this has happened to me -- months ago someone else told me their friend DID die in childbirth from accretra. While I was getting a facial!!!!</p> <p>I cannot get these images out of my head. I am also delivering at a smaller hospital. My friend was told if she hadn't been at a large medical facility, she would not have made it. </p> <p>Now I'm paranoid about delivering where I plan to -- a small community hospital -- although I had a perfectly fine experience the first go-round. I am not otherwise high risk (well, beyond being over 35 and having a previous c-section). My friend was.</p> <p>What scares me about accreta is they often can't tell if you have it until you're delivering. SCARY!</p> <p>I love my OB and at this late stage I'm not going to go scouting for someone new who is going to deliver me at a big hospital. But I'm also terrified of bleeding and not being cared for properly in light of my friend's terrible experience. WWYD? </p>