https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 00:45:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-this-1#post-1164625 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:54:41 +0000 immabeetoo 1164625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: Hope it passes quickly! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-this-1#post-1164618 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:51:34 +0000 hilsy85 1164618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: oh man, I wish my dh were a heavier sleeper! I get so stressed because I know he's awake and I feel bad. </p> <p>I agree, it's tough when the night just seems like a bad blur and you don't even remember enough to prepare yourself for the next night... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-this-1#post-1164615 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:49:43 +0000 MsLipGloss 1164615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: my DH either (1) snores through it (so loudly that I am usually telling both of them to GTFTS in my head!); or (2) if it wakes him up, he usually just rubs my back for a second (because he knows I am watching the monitor) and then goes back to sleep. I know it disrupts his sleep, but not nearly as much as it does mine . . . </p> <p>I don't know about together--lol!--it's just that her sleep has been such a huge issue that the first thing I do when I hear her is grab my phone to look at the time and to see how long she has been sleeping. Now it's just habit . . . born out of the frustration of not really remembering what was happening at night, and because I didn't know/remember what happened, I didn't know how to start to fix it (or even if I could). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-this-1#post-1164603 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:45:27 +0000 hilsy85 1164603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: you are so together in the motn, lol! I am literally just lying there with my eyes closed alternating between thinking "please go to sleep" and "go the eff to sleep!". </p> <p>What does your DH do? That's actually one of the biggest issues--him screaming in the MOTN is seriously affecting dh's sleep and his daily functioning. </p> <p>@Katrocap: thanks :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-this-1#post-1164597 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:42:36 +0000 MsLipGloss 1164597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine does the wake up fall asleep wake up bit too . . . that's why I have to time things . . . . and when there is a big gap like that, I start the clock at zero when she wakes up again. I use the timer on my iPhone, and for every wakeup after I first put her down, I hit the *lap* button so that I can see how long her continuous sleep segments are, how many wakeups she has, and how long she fussed for each wakeup . . . it helps to look at overall patterns. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-this-1#post-1164596 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:42:27 +0000 Katrocap 1164596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry, no suggestions, just sending hugs your way ... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-this-1#post-1164595 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:42:20 +0000 hilsy85 1164595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: ahhh ok...so it sounds like you have it tougher; if I nurse LO, he'll fall back asleep for another 1-3 hours generally, depening when the wake up is. I just had JUST gotten him night weaned and didn't want to back track :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-this-1#post-1164592 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:41:19 +0000 hilsy85 1164592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387: hm ok...I might try that for a week, and then see where we are. If I had know last night he was going to cry for 45 min I would have gone in and nursed him immediately!</p> <p>@MsLipGloss: glad things are getting better for you at least! This random wake up is SO inconsistent for us--some nights it's 5am, some nights it's 330--It's impossible for me to even say there's a pattern. Maybe adding in WCM will help as I know he'll be getting a certain amount during the day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-this-1#post-1164585 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:39:12 +0000 MsLipGloss 1164585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: By trying to let her put herself back to sleep . . . but really, I think it's that combined with her getting older/eating better/gaining a little weight, etc., that has moved the wakeup from 3:30 to 4:00 to 4:30, etc. It is so hard to not go in right away, but it has worked for me/us.</p> <p>ETA: When I go in, I know that I am going to be in it from that point on, so I usually nurse her back to sleep if possible, and try to get her to sleep an extra 30 minutes to an hour. Every once in a blue moon I am able to put her back down again, but it has happened so infrequently that I never rely on it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-this-1#post-1164579 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:37:43 +0000 immabeetoo 1164579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: we just had a week of this after a month+ of STTN. I nursed him each time, and then a top tooth popped down and he went back to STTN. So; that's how we handled it and it so far it's worked fine :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-this-1#post-1164578 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:37:21 +0000 hilsy85 1164578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: how do you push that wake up though??? I feel like i have no control over it because I have no idea what causes it! </p> <p>I also need to time the crying, I agree it feels like an eternity! When you go in, what do you do? </p> <p>It's also tough because he will sometime scream, then fuss, then get quiet for 10 min, I will start to drift off...and then he will scream again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-this-1#post-1164570 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:35:21 +0000 MsLipGloss 1164570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: Oh, and yeah, my LO won't sleep later either . . . my only goal is to try to keep pushing that wake up later and later so that she will eventually sleep continuously for the whole time . . . if that makes sense. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-this-1#post-1164566 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:34:29 +0000 MsLipGloss 1164566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: I try to let her CIO . . . when/if I go in depends on how she is crying/ how long she has been (continuously) crying. I time it (because each second seems like an eternity when she is crying!) and try to giver her around 20 minutes . . . if she sounds scared/like she may be in pain (and doesn't let up with the crying), I will go in around 15 minutes. If she is fussing and tossing, I will let her go a little while before going in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-this-1#post-1164551 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:28:01 +0000 shinymama 1164551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: Well then....Our other trick {before admitting defeat} is laying him back down and turning on his glowing sea horse which has always been a sleep/nap cue. It's awful when they tease us with STTN! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-this-1#post-1164546 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:25:56 +0000 Smurfette 1164546@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: Couple weeks. I never gave her anything this round for pain cause the only time she seemed hurting was when she would cry out in her sleep, and then go back to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-this-1#post-1164542 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:24:02 +0000 hilsy85 1164542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: eek, so what do you do at those times?? i'm torn between letting him cry and going in to nurse him, but I REALLY don't want that to be a habit. </p> <p>It's also tough because he doesn't necessarily sleep later--he's usually still up at 6! I don't know how you do it, mama! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-this-1#post-1164539 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:23:09 +0000 NovBaby1112 1164539@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: I have heard that some babies are too distracted by things during the day and all that's going on to notice the teething pain, but at night it can come out. Hang in there! I am sure he will start sttn again soon!! I bet you will see a new tooth sprout through over the next few days </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-this-1#post-1164536 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:22:39 +0000 MsLipGloss 1164536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There is a big shift in sleep patterns in the early morning hours . . . my LO does this too. Sometimes she can put herself back to sleep, but it doesn't happen all the time. I am trying to get over the 4:30/5:00 a.m. hurdle . . . which is an improvement from the 3:30 a.m. hurdle. *augh* </p> <p>I literally haven't slept in in months . . . the only time I have not taken that early shift was when I was travelling for work (and that was in May).</p> <p>ETA: I also leave a lovey in LO's crib . . . she uses it a ton! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-this-1#post-1164535 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:22:36 +0000 hilsy85 1164535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@shinymama: yes, he has a lovey that he is usually holding in his hand as he stands in the crib, screaming, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-this-1#post-1164532 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:22:06 +0000 shinymama 1164532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We got those sometimes too. Does your LO have a lovey? Sometimes we just put the lovey in his hand, and he goes back down after scaring us to death. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-this-1#post-1164530 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:21:12 +0000 hilsy85 1164530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NovBaby1112: not really! Which I would think teething would cause...darn teeth! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-this-1#post-1164529 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:20:52 +0000 hilsy85 1164529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: how long did it last before teeth came through? did you ever give her anything? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-this-1#post-1164528 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:20:48 +0000 NovBaby1112 1164528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm first inclined to say teething. Maybe he is working on some new teeth? Does he seem unusually fussy during the day? Hopefully it passes in a few days! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-this-1#post-1164525 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:19:27 +0000 Smurfette 1164525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: R cries out in her sleep when she is teething. She usually puts herself back to sleep but cries none the less. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-this-1#post-1164521 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:16:34 +0000 hilsy85 1164521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@shopaholic: hmm could be teething, except it seems weird that it only seems to bother him for that short time in the MOTN, and I don't see any evidence. but maybe! </p> <p>eek night terrors sound so sad! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-this-1#post-1164515 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:15:11 +0000 shopaholic 1164515@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Teething? That's the only thing I can use to explain when we get those sudden wake-up cryings. Or night terrors? Those come up every time I Google sleep issues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-this-1#post-1164508 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:13:42 +0000 hilsy85 1164508@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So at about 11.5 months, that mythical creature, sleep, visited our house...LO began STTN all on his own. He slept from about 7/730 til 6am (early but I'll take it). This lasted about a week. </p> <p>Since then, he has woken up at some point in the night, around 3, or 4 or 5, and SCREAMED--like blood curdling screams--for anywhere from 5-10 minutes. He will then generally lie down and go back to sleep. Last night, however, he did this at 3:45, and screamed on and off for 45 minutes until I went in and nursed him for a few minutes. I now am dreading that I created a monster. </p> <p>Any idea what could be causing this? Any idea how to fix it? It is seriously brutal being woken up by a sound like your baby is having his fingernails pulled out. It was almost better when I was nursing him in the MOTN consistently because then at least I KNEW he would stop crying within a minute. </p>