https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 07 May 2026 16:22:26 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-help-infant-loss-and-nicu#post-1236384 Fri, 22 Nov 2013 13:23:05 +0000 Mrs. Tiger 1236384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How terrible. I wouldn't know what to say except that your heart is breaking for their loss and offer your support however they need it.</p> <p>I think snacks that they can bring to eat at the NICU is a good idea. If you bring clothes or a gift, I would bring something for both babies. Maybe arranging for a cleaning service or someone to walk their dog, etc, so they have less to worry about when they get home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-help-infant-loss-and-nicu#post-1236325 Fri, 22 Nov 2013 13:07:18 +0000 Cole 1236325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: I agree, I just feel ill over the idea of it.</p> <p>I think I may drive out there and bring a basket of food, non perishable things they can munch on, water etc. I also have some hand me down preemie clothes so I might bring those and leave them in the car and offer them to her. Does any one have other suggestions on what might be helpful to bring them? I am also thinking of bringing take out too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-help-infant-loss-and-nicu#post-1235792 Fri, 22 Nov 2013 10:27:06 +0000 Mrs. Blue 1235792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no idea. I can't even let myself think about what it would be like to lose one of my boys. </p> <p>I would maybe see if you could bring them lunch/dinner at home or at the NICU, and then simply express your sympathy and ask how you can help. Maybe some of those who have had a loss can weigh in from that side, but from the NICU side, I'll say maybe you could offer to take care of some things for the baby that is still there, like laundry, or ask if there is any errands that you could run to free them up to be with the NICU baby and to plan for a funeral, etc. for the other baby.</p> <p>Tragic &amp; unfathomable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-help-infant-loss-and-nicu#post-1235700 Fri, 22 Nov 2013 10:04:08 +0000 Cole 1235700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am not sure I put this in the right place but I could use summer ideas. Acquaintance type friends were expecting twins, they were born at 29 weeks and they lost one. The other is in the Nicu still (they were born about a month ago.) </p> <p>What can I offer to do for them? I have only meet them a few times but my husband sees the dad socially a few times a month. What does one say in a card? I feel so heartbroken for them. </p>