https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Apr 2026 09:09:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-kindly-ask-neighbor-to-smoke-somewhere-else/page/2#post-1018530 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 08:54:20 +0000 pui 1018530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Glad it's resolved! I hate cigarette smoke. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-kindly-ask-neighbor-to-smoke-somewhere-else/page/2#post-1018502 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 08:51:16 +0000 Maysprout 1018502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, those girls sound like peaches. Glad they're moving out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-kindly-ask-neighbor-to-smoke-somewhere-else/page/2#post-1018477 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 08:47:39 +0000 LindsayInNY 1018477@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@deerylou: That's awesome!! I had the same issue with our downstairs neighbors except they were renting and we just bought. So we didn't really have any remedy - we couldn't just move out. Turns out the previous owners/tenants had complained so we were the 2nd round of complaints. After being warned to stop smoking and continuing, they were told that their lease wouldn't be renewed. They're moving out August 26 - wooh! It's a little awkward running into them in the stairway but we did nothing wrong so I don't feel totally bad. And my lungs are so grateful! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-kindly-ask-neighbor-to-smoke-somewhere-else/page/2#post-1018063 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 07:32:02 +0000 swedishfish 1018063@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yay! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-kindly-ask-neighbor-to-smoke-somewhere-else/page/2#post-1018044 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 07:24:33 +0000 Bookish 1018044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@deerylou: how lame that they caused so many issues, but I'm so glad they are leaving! Yay! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-kindly-ask-neighbor-to-smoke-somewhere-else/page/2#post-1017945 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 06:41:50 +0000 avivoca 1017945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@deerylou: I'm so glad this got resolved! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-kindly-ask-neighbor-to-smoke-somewhere-else/page/2#post-1017943 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 06:41:06 +0000 Dandelion 1017943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@deerylou: Nice! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-kindly-ask-neighbor-to-smoke-somewhere-else/page/2#post-1017939 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 06:38:31 +0000 lamariniere 1017939@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@deerylou: Whoo! Glad this is ending well for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-kindly-ask-neighbor-to-smoke-somewhere-else/page/2#post-1017781 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 01:24:19 +0000 mrbee 1017781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@deerylou: awesome news! Ps hide your car so you don't get keyed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-kindly-ask-neighbor-to-smoke-somewhere-else/page/2#post-1017738 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 00:23:26 +0000 Boheme 1017738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@deerylou: Woot! That's awesome! I hope you are back to enjoying clean air shortly :) Good riddance! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-kindly-ask-neighbor-to-smoke-somewhere-else/page/2#post-1017703 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 23:54:39 +0000 deerylou 1017703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just wanted to update this thread - my neighbors are being evicted at the end of the month. Several residents have been bothered by their continuous and obsessive smoking, and the neighbors in question have been extremely rude and confrontational (re: swearing) when kindly approached about it. The younger girls ended up getting in a very heated argument one evening, which prompted several neighbors to call the police. We're a "one police call, and you're out" community, so they were given the boot.</p> <p>Added bonus: the complex is taking the legal steps needed to become completely smoke free. Rejoice! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-kindly-ask-neighbor-to-smoke-somewhere-else/page/2#post-927798 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 17:18:06 +0000 Modern Daisy 927798@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have to shamefully admit that if I were them, I wouldn't stop either. If you had asked me now that I'm older and expecting a baby myself I would absolutely be accomodating though. Up until the point when I was ready to start a family, I was really sensitive about my 'rights' being taken away by people with babies. I dont' know why and I know it was immature. But I would have thought - well if they didn't want to be near smokers they could have bought a house. Maybe that's how these girls see it, in which case your only option is to try management. Good luck, my former self and those girls are being very rude!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-kindly-ask-neighbor-to-smoke-somewhere-else/page/2#post-927757 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 16:54:36 +0000 LindsayInNY 927757@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Here's some CA-specific resources on smoking laws as they relate to housing:<br /> <a href="http://www.center4tobaccopolicy.org/localpolicies-smokefreehousing" rel="nofollow">http://www.center4tobaccopolicy.org/localpolicies-smokefreehousing</a></p> <p>Laws by city/community (where smoking is permitted, prohibited, etc.): <a href="http://www.center4tobaccopolicy.org/CTPO/_files/_file/Matrix%20of%20Smokefree%20Housing%20Authority%20Policies%20December%202012.pdf" rel="nofollow">http://www.center4tobaccopolicy.org/CTPO/_files/_file/Matrix%20of%20Smokefree%20Housing%20Authority%20Policies%20December%202012.pdf</a></p> <p><a href="http://www.center4tobaccopolicy.org/CTPO/_files/_file/Matrix%20of%20Local%20Smokefree%20Housing%20Policies%20December%202012.pdf" rel="nofollow">http://www.center4tobaccopolicy.org/CTPO/_files/_file/Matrix%20of%20Local%20Smokefree%20Housing%20Policies%20December%202012.pdf</a></p> <p>Cities/communities where it's prohibited in outdoor common areas:<br /> <a href="http://www.center4tobaccopolicy.org/CTPO/_files/_file/List%20of%20Communities%20that%20Restrict%20Smoking%20in%20Outdoor%20Common%20Areas%20of%20Multi-Unit%20Housing%20December%202012.pdf" rel="nofollow">http://www.center4tobaccopolicy.org/CTPO/_files/_file/List%20of%20Communities%20that%20Restrict%20Smoking%20in%20Outdoor%20Common%20Areas%20of%20Multi-Unit%20Housing%20December%202012.pdf</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-kindly-ask-neighbor-to-smoke-somewhere-else/page/2#post-927716 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 16:31:21 +0000 LazyLightning 927716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@deerylou: Definitely. Works better than colace IMHO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-kindly-ask-neighbor-to-smoke-somewhere-else/page/2#post-927690 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 16:23:08 +0000 deerylou 927690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LazyLightning: And it's been helping? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-kindly-ask-neighbor-to-smoke-somewhere-else/page/2#post-927677 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 16:19:59 +0000 LazyLightning 927677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@deerylou: Not to threadjack but you really should! At 6 weeks pp I've been eating 3-5 prunes a day since leaving the hospital. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-kindly-ask-neighbor-to-smoke-somewhere-else/page/2#post-927673 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 16:18:15 +0000 luckypenny 927673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had this issue but with weed! Kids smoke right below our window. DH went out and yelled at them twice. Next time I'm going and callin the cops lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-kindly-ask-neighbor-to-smoke-somewhere-else/page/2#post-927671 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 16:17:49 +0000 deerylou 927671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LazyLightning: Pregnant for no more than 72 hours, hopefully! I'm actually doing okay in that department, but should stock up on my prunes for the postpartum adventure, haha... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-kindly-ask-neighbor-to-smoke-somewhere-else#post-927666 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 16:16:33 +0000 LazyLightning 927666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@deerylou: I thought you were pregnant. Why aren't you chugging prune juice? :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-kindly-ask-neighbor-to-smoke-somewhere-else#post-927646 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 16:03:22 +0000 deerylou 927646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LazyLightning: Ahhh, no! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-kindly-ask-neighbor-to-smoke-somewhere-else#post-927636 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 15:59:51 +0000 deerylou 927636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pink Champagne: Oh, totally agree with you. Thing is, being college students, they are on summer break, so they don't have anywhere to be during the day. We tried on two separate occasions to speak to them face to face, but they weren't awake/home/willing to come to the door. We tried to keep it friendly, and away from management, hence the letter. I realize that they could have taken it in a negative way.</p> <p>I mean, I get it - they're young, and they want to enjoy themselves. We're not that old, ourselves, so it's not like college was 4 decades ago, and we're sitting up here, chugging prune juice. ;) I just wish they could have a little common decency, especially when an alternate location is literally just as close to their front door as their deck. All the other smokers in our complex seem to use the parking lot, simply *because* our decks are in such close proximity. While walking out to the car one morning, I had one older gentleman ask me if I could smell his smoke, and he was literally hibernating in the trees, at the far end of the lot. </p> <p>We'll definitely be contacting management. I think I would be reacting differently if it was just 2-3 times a day. However, the smoking is absolutely compulsive. Gross. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-kindly-ask-neighbor-to-smoke-somewhere-else#post-927625 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 15:55:38 +0000 LazyLightning 927625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hate to be a debbie downer here but I complained to management about my neighbors smoking on our balcony right in front of my only window, years ago (it was a big shared balcony), and the neighbors responded by vandalizing my car. Apparently the management told them who complained. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-kindly-ask-neighbor-to-smoke-somewhere-else#post-927578 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 15:44:39 +0000 Pink Champagne 927578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Look, I know the letter was nice, but I bet those girls thought it was rude of you to tack a letter to their door, particularly since technically they aren't doing anything wrong (in terms of their lease agreement). That's probably why you haven't heard from them, and why they've continued to smoke. I'm not saying its right (it's horrible, I would be as upset as you are) but I'm just trying to see it from an immature college students POV, and my guess is that they care more about themselves than they do about being courteous. A conversation face to face probably would have carried more weight, but at this point, it's irrelevant because now they just see you as the whiney, mean neighbor who wants to ruin their fun.<br /> I would absolutely still take it to your management office to see if there is anything that can be done. Maybe they have a solution, maybe they can talk to the girls, maybe you're out of luck, but you won't know until you try.<br /> I'm so sorry- we have a neighbor who smokes in his back yard and I hate it and know exactly how you feel, so I'm keeping my fingers crossed that your management office is able to help you figure something out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-kindly-ask-neighbor-to-smoke-somewhere-else#post-927560 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 15:40:09 +0000 deerylou 927560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: Thank you so much for the link; it was quite informative!</p> <p>DH and I are going to give the apartment manager a call tonight, and then send a letter (and send a copy of the one we taped to the neighbor's door) to the property management company. </p> <p>...As I type this, someone is currently lighting up downstairs. I *slammed* the sliding glass door. I am very mature. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-kindly-ask-neighbor-to-smoke-somewhere-else#post-927374 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 14:44:59 +0000 T.H.O.U. 927374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@deerylou: legally you may not be out of luck. I would keep up!</p> <p><a href="http://epsteinhowelllaw.wordpress.com/2011/06/29/smoke-intrusion-smelly-inconvenience-or-modern-intrusion/" rel="nofollow">http://epsteinhowelllaw.wordpress.com/2011/06/29/smoke-intrusion-smelly-inconvenience-or-modern-intrusion/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-kindly-ask-neighbor-to-smoke-somewhere-else#post-927351 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 14:33:13 +0000 deerylou 927351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Hah! Excellent, excellent point!</p> <p>@mrskc: Yes, good idea. We're going to do a Target run tomorrow and look for one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-kindly-ask-neighbor-to-smoke-somewhere-else#post-927350 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 14:32:38 +0000 deerylou 927350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kiddosc: Exactly. Had they come talk to us, and presented their feelings, I would at least feel like we communicated about it, even if it wasn't to favorable results. But the fact that they just blew us off is super obnoxious and makes me wanna dump jello on their deck.</p> <p>I know that legally, I'm kinda out of luck. Our landlord might offer to reseal our windows, or provide us with an air purifier. We're moving out of the area at the end of the year, but that still gives us several more months of icky smells. Blah! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-kindly-ask-neighbor-to-smoke-somewhere-else#post-927328 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 14:25:51 +0000 mrskc 927328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@deerylou: Awww I'm really sorry that they totally ignored your letter. I would talk to the landlord to see if there is anything that can be done. In the meantime, can you buy one of those ionic air filter things? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-kindly-ask-neighbor-to-smoke-somewhere-else#post-927327 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 14:25:25 +0000 mrbee 927327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@deerylou: Once your LO comes, she may pay them back in spades with late night crying! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-kindly-ask-neighbor-to-smoke-somewhere-else#post-927315 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 14:22:41 +0000 kiddosc 927315@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry it seems they totally blew you off, it really would have been easier on everyone if they at least came to talk to you. Since it states that smoking on decks is allowed in the lease, I'm not sure that management could do anything about it, I'd try to go through them still though. What a pain! </p>