https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 02 May 2026 22:33:47 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-make-the-no-facebook-convo-not-awkward#post-747019 Fri, 26 Apr 2013 14:23:51 +0000 sarac 747019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you may come off as those things - but that isn't really your problem. You just need to explain your wishes and let that be it. I'm a HUGE facebooker, and I think some of those things about people who choose not to put their kids on facebook - but that certainly doesn't mean I don't respect their choice. People might think you're wacky or paranoid or whatever - so long as they follow your rules about your children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-make-the-no-facebook-convo-not-awkward#post-747006 Fri, 26 Apr 2013 14:19:07 +0000 LazyLightning 747006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think just telling friends this is what you prefer would be good enough. You can explain why too, most should get it and if not, well, you may need to be firmer. As for the church and other functions, you might need more reminding there - I know my husband doesn't want his picture on Facebook, and he was pretty pissed when some university event posted one of him and wrote in the caption his first and last name. it came up on google even. He contacted the office and had them take it down. Basically, a case-by-case basis sort of thing unfortunately. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-make-the-no-facebook-convo-not-awkward#post-746832 Fri, 26 Apr 2013 13:22:34 +0000 googly-eyes 746832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH (also a cop) and I came to an agreement after LO was born that I could post pics but he went through my friends list and defriended all the not-really-friends and we just flat out told people not to post on fb! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-make-the-no-facebook-convo-not-awkward#post-746767 Fri, 26 Apr 2013 12:59:51 +0000 heffalump 746767@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You have a very good reason, so I don't think people would be offended if you said no facebook. I actually always ask before I post pictures of LO's, especially if I look on their page and don't see any pictures posted yet. </p> <p>Personally I don't mind posting pics of my LO, but my job doesn't give me any worries about it. Still, I understand that others don't feel the same way as me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-make-the-no-facebook-convo-not-awkward#post-746691 Fri, 26 Apr 2013 12:32:30 +0000 mrbee 746691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: Sounds like a plan!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-make-the-no-facebook-convo-not-awkward#post-746688 Fri, 26 Apr 2013 12:31:04 +0000 Boheme 746688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Great idea - there IS a policy in place! They make it as a suggestion rather than strictly enforcing it, but we could totally blame them :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-make-the-no-facebook-convo-not-awkward#post-746678 Fri, 26 Apr 2013 12:28:50 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 746678@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you can block tags. That might help. Explain it like you did to us &amp; I think you should be fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-make-the-no-facebook-convo-not-awkward#post-746658 Fri, 26 Apr 2013 12:20:12 +0000 mrbee 746658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You have a great reason! I would just say, "___'s a cop and we've been told to keep all pictures of our LO off the Internet, so that our family stays safe."</p> <p>That way, the bad guy is someone else... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-make-the-no-facebook-convo-not-awkward#post-746642 Fri, 26 Apr 2013 12:14:35 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 746642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't see why the conversation would be awkward. You are the patent, you make the rules. They are your friends, they respect the rules.</p> <p>Edit: they take a picture of your LO and then you say "please don't pics of my baby on FB". If they ask why tell them, but I would be a little peeved if someone couldn't simply honor my request. So the answer may come off jerky, which is what you were trying to avoid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-make-the-no-facebook-convo-not-awkward#post-746637 Fri, 26 Apr 2013 12:13:16 +0000 sorrycharlie 746637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd just call yourself out on it - i find the best offense is a good defense! like, "hey I know we sound crazy - but blah blah" and then your bit about no facebook. i don't think you sound crazy, btw. lol.</p> <p>i've found in the past with things - that laughing at yourself first makes it a little more comfortable for everyone if you feel it might be weird. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-make-the-no-facebook-convo-not-awkward#post-746633 Fri, 26 Apr 2013 12:11:56 +0000 Chillybear 746633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>is it safe to assume unfriending them isnt an option?</p> <p>I've just been whittling away at my friend list and making my privacy settings super tight and turned off the ability to let other tag me in photos. </p> <p>would you be ok if he posted pics but there was know way of tagging/knowing who was in the picture? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-make-the-no-facebook-convo-not-awkward#post-746564 Fri, 26 Apr 2013 11:52:37 +0000 Boheme 746564@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I have friends who post everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, on Facebook. We've made the decision that due to our jobs, we don't want to post pics of our LO on FB/Twitter. We are not really active on those sites anyway.</p> <p>He is a cop and I'm in social work, so coworkers and friends in those circles will understand because a lot of them have done the same... but he is also on our church staff and all church events (including pics of people's kids) get plastered all over social media, and our non-work friends and church friends post pics and check-ins constantly. They are most likely going to think we're being uptight and crazy for not posting pics and not wanting them to post theirs of our LO.</p> <p>We've already had the no-FB convo with family and it went fine. How should we word it with friends so we don't sound like jerks? I don't want our friends to come visit and remind them not to post the pics they take...I will feel super awkward! </p>