https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 19 May 2026 16:19:51 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-make-time-for-things#post-2554310 Sun, 22 May 2016 21:31:27 +0000 Eko 2554310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds like your friend pulled a dick move.</p> <p>DH works 50 hour weeks and I put in 40-50. I only have one baby and things like cleaning are a real struggle. I try to stay on top of it by doing a couple things in the morning before work. I'll do a load of laundry too everyday. But outside the everyday, sometimes we just have to say no. If you don't and try to accommodate everyone it'll just run you down. I felt like when we first had LO we did that a lot because we were the ones without kids so it was our norm. But after a bit it became very overwhelming and we learned to say no. The people that care won't mind and the ones that do aren't worth it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-make-time-for-things#post-2554259 Sun, 22 May 2016 19:56:10 +0000 Mae 2554259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like you have a TON going on! Being a full time working mom is hard enough, add a second kid and two seriously ill family members, that is a lot. </p> <p>To answer your question-- I'm not sure what "things" you're really talking about. With work and commute I'm out of the house about 10.5 hrs/day. I only have one toddler but she is super clingy, especially since she started daycare a few months ago, so once we get home at night she needs my 100% full attention until she goes to bed. By the time we do dinner and get her put to bed and pack for daycare and whatnot its 8:30 at night and I go to bed at 10. </p> <p>So... I don't do much during the week. We have a house cleaner so we don't have to worry about cleaning much. We do tidy up every night (DH does that while I put LO to bed). Laundry is a bit of a constant struggle. I can usually get it washed throughout the week but then it all needs folded/put away on weekends. Weekends feel like they're about 75% taken up by errands and chores but we try to do one fun thing at least every weekend. We invite friends to do stuff when we're able (usually just lunch/playdate). We almost never see friends outside of hanging out as family units. Like... the last time I did anything with a friend without LO present was a pedicure with a friend (gone a total of 1.5 hours) 4 months ago. Before that I did a girl's night with friends ummmm like last Sept or something maybe? lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-make-time-for-things#post-2554235 Sun, 22 May 2016 19:00:31 +0000 hb3233 2554235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think saying no is super important, and is the sort of thing that can be costly now - if someone is less than happy you said no - but can be very valuable in the future when you don't have to do whatever you said no to and can spend the time instead pursuing things that are more meaningful or fulfilling. In the past I haven't said no nearly enough, and it resulted in feeling exhausted, burnt out, and not having time left for the things that are most important to me. I try to ask myself - is saying no now, however awkward it is, really more costly than having to potentially spend days or longer doing whatever it is that I'm considering saying no to? I try to be gracious, and if appropriate, suggest someone else who would be more excited about the opportunity to do whatever it is. </p> <p>Dealing with illness in the family I think also makes things super hard and exhausting. I'm really sorry you're going through this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-make-time-for-things#post-2554216 Sun, 22 May 2016 18:31:22 +0000 LCTBQE 2554216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Becksabee: ahh, that's not nice re: the Facebook thing. I work about 55 hours a week and have an additional 10 hours commuting, and I don't even have any kids yet--I have NO idea how anyone manages their life after kids. kudos to you for trying to keep the house clean :) </p> <p>already, I say no much more often than I say yes. for the most part, the friends I'm saying no to work much less than I do, don't commute, don't have kids, don't exercise, send their laundry out to be done, and have cleaning ladies--guessing that maybe you have a similar situation if you feel like you're disappointing people? </p> <p>the way I manage to see people is basically by seeing them at brunch on the weekends, which I love to do, and it's the only time slot that's realistic for me. otherwise, if it's a very special get together I try my best to come, but I constantly turn down birthday dinners for people turning 31, destination bachelorette parties, weddings on the other side of the country, etc. likewise, I don't get offended when people don't come to my (rare) events. </p> <p>It is really, really hard to have illness in the family, too, and it puts all that crap in major perspective. I hope you can just be easy with yourself, feel better, and get some rest :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-make-time-for-things#post-2554197 Sun, 22 May 2016 17:11:29 +0000 Becksabee 2554197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How do you find the time to get everything done? Do you end up telling people no a lot? </p> <p>I work 40 hours a week and I have 2 little boys. I struggle to even keep the house clean. I've been getting sick a lot too - 3 colds in 6 weeks. </p> <p>My MIL is terminally ill (ALS) and my sister has breast cancer. I was just matron of honor in my friends wedding which took up a lot of time. There always seems to be something going on. </p> <p>A friend of mine outed me on Facebook for not making time for her - and for not going to a friend of ours wedding. But seriously, I just don't have any time. </p>