https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 15 Aug 2026 03:32:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-not-bother-a-pregnant-woman-when-her-due-date-is-near#post-1840829 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 15:14:18 +0000 BSB 1840829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: Haha! Good point! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-not-bother-a-pregnant-woman-when-her-due-date-is-near#post-1840826 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 15:13:15 +0000 Mae 1840826@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like there is just no point in asking when the baby is coming/if the baby is here yet. Because like.. its not a secret haha. I had so many "is the baby here yet?" texts my last month. And like... why would I NOT tell my friends when I had the baby. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-not-bother-a-pregnant-woman-when-her-due-date-is-near#post-1840797 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 14:56:11 +0000 BSB 1840797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@AmandaB8: Ah, ok. Yeah, I thought there was no way of doing it without being snarky, but I like what you said. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-not-bother-a-pregnant-woman-when-her-due-date-is-near#post-1840795 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 14:54:42 +0000 AmandaB8 1840795@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: Yep. For the first couple of times, it was a snarky response. But after that? I ususally responded with "I'll let you know, trust me." </p> <p>If they still didn't get the hint? I let DH deal with it :p </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-not-bother-a-pregnant-woman-when-her-due-date-is-near#post-1839468 Wed, 27 Aug 2014 19:02:07 +0000 mrbee 1839468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I stick to email vs text, and only send the most innocuous messages possible! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-not-bother-a-pregnant-woman-when-her-due-date-is-near#post-1839446 Wed, 27 Aug 2014 18:36:43 +0000 78h2o 1839446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't mind any questions...I was glad people were interested and cared enough to ask. The only thing I minded was comments about my size, but that actually bothered me earlier in the pregnancy. By the time I was due, people expected me to be huge....when I was 6-7 months pregnant and people asked if I was due soon, I felt bad. I thinking asking how they are doing and if you can help with anything are safe bets. Or even just a thinking of you text. I would have been a little sad if friends said nothing at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-not-bother-a-pregnant-woman-when-her-due-date-is-near#post-1839413 Wed, 27 Aug 2014 18:03:52 +0000 knittylady 1839413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Any addition of asking if you can help with anything is probably a safe bet! I know for me, at 39 weeks, I don't care what anyone says to me if they're willing to hand me that thing right over there, or maybe take my kid to the park. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-not-bother-a-pregnant-woman-when-her-due-date-is-near#post-1839409 Wed, 27 Aug 2014 17:55:55 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 1839409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: see, it's tough to know. I never really minded people asking. Except one awful coworker...but she annoyed me in general. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-not-bother-a-pregnant-woman-when-her-due-date-is-near#post-1838951 Wed, 27 Aug 2014 13:15:06 +0000 Sparkler 1838951@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is a tough one. I felt like people were acting like I did something wrong that my LO was late. This time I am telling the world that my due date is 5 days later than it is to avoid this issue! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-not-bother-a-pregnant-woman-when-her-due-date-is-near#post-1838746 Wed, 27 Aug 2014 11:47:50 +0000 maybebaby 1838746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it really is a personal thing and each mother-to-be is different. I felt like people were hounding me and it stressed me out. The most appreciated check ins were texts "thinking of you! let me know if you need anything, but no need to write back." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-not-bother-a-pregnant-woman-when-her-due-date-is-near#post-1838742 Wed, 27 Aug 2014 11:46:31 +0000 BSB 1838742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@AmandaB8: So just curious, if someone asked you if they were bothering you, would you honestly tell them to stop asking? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-not-bother-a-pregnant-woman-when-her-due-date-is-near#post-1838702 Wed, 27 Aug 2014 11:36:53 +0000 AmandaB8 1838702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, anything just drove me crazy.</p> <p>Because just because one person would ask every other day, everyone was on that schedule. I think I had 7 people ask me one day - DIFFERENT PEOPLE - if their baby was here yet. I finally turned off my phone notifications, disabled my facebook, everything - I went completely tech silent bc I couldn't deal with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-not-bother-a-pregnant-woman-when-her-due-date-is-near#post-1838573 Wed, 27 Aug 2014 10:50:21 +0000 pui 1838573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The only thing I find annoying is people asking me everyday if the baby is here yet (I'm 40w4d). I'll let you know when the baby is here, please stop asking lol! It just makes me more anxious that I still haven't gone in to labour.</p> <p>I don't mind hearing "how are you doing" at all. I think it's thoughtful, personally. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-not-bother-a-pregnant-woman-when-her-due-date-is-near#post-1838557 Wed, 27 Aug 2014 10:39:33 +0000 BSB 1838557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: Oh, I would never ask everyday. That would be so annoying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-not-bother-a-pregnant-woman-when-her-due-date-is-near#post-1838553 Wed, 27 Aug 2014 10:36:19 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1838553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: I don't mind being asked once or twice. But I can't tell you how many text messages I get every day, from the same people, asking if I've had the baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-not-bother-a-pregnant-woman-when-her-due-date-is-near#post-1838544 Wed, 27 Aug 2014 10:31:10 +0000 Modern Daisy 1838544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was working up until i went into labor and it was VERY busy at work so this made it annoying when people constantly came over to ask me if anything was happening. And evenwhen i was working from home the IM's were constant which was stressful since it slowed down my day.</p> <p>I would say if you are going to ask questions, a non-invasive method like email or even snail mail would be best. Something that requires her to stop what she's doing and respond immediately like walking over to her desk, a text or office IM all get very annoying since everyone else is also doing this! If you just want to give a word of positive encouragement any communicationmethod is fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-not-bother-a-pregnant-woman-when-her-due-date-is-near#post-1838498 Wed, 27 Aug 2014 10:09:58 +0000 BSB 1838498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: Someone sent me this link after I asked about a friend's status once (yeah, once) and I thought it was a smart ass response and wasn't exactly happy. The person who sent me the link is pregnant, but she wasn't the one that was near her due date (she's months away from her DD), which made it seem like my one comment was not appropriate. </p> <p><a href="http://www.haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com/</a></p> <p>I'm beginning to think I shouldn't even ask. I don't think I can win with some pregnant woman.</p> <p>If I ask, it can be annoying. If I don't ask, people might think I don't care or blame it on my IF bitterness. Can't win sometimes.</p> <p>I'll probably only ask close friends and family and if I think I am bothering them, I'll ask them if they want me to stop. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-not-bother-a-pregnant-woman-when-her-due-date-is-near#post-1838402 Wed, 27 Aug 2014 09:40:42 +0000 mrsjyw 1838402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was wfh the last five weeks of pregnancy which saved me from most of the coworker comments about impending labor.</p> <p>I didn't mind questions and check-ins from close friends and family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-not-bother-a-pregnant-woman-when-her-due-date-is-near#post-1838382 Wed, 27 Aug 2014 09:36:31 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 1838382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: exactly! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-not-bother-a-pregnant-woman-when-her-due-date-is-near#post-1838377 Wed, 27 Aug 2014 09:34:56 +0000 youboots 1838377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. Jump rope I die so funny. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-not-bother-a-pregnant-woman-when-her-due-date-is-near#post-1838276 Wed, 27 Aug 2014 09:02:57 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1838276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Acceptable texts when a woman is close to her due date:</p> <p>- can I bring you Doritos?<br /> - is there anyone I can punch for you?<br /> - any variation of food/physical harm to others that are being dbags </p> <p>Do not ask if there's a baby yet.<br /> I've started replying with the angry emoji instead of using words. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-not-bother-a-pregnant-woman-when-her-due-date-is-near#post-1838244 Wed, 27 Aug 2014 08:50:07 +0000 autumnlove 1838244@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just ask how they are feeling and wish them the best. Some friends/family might be annoyed with that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-not-bother-a-pregnant-woman-when-her-due-date-is-near#post-1838239 Wed, 27 Aug 2014 08:49:13 +0000 snowjewelz 1838239@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Eh, at this point I'm kinda used to being asked the SAME QUESTIONS everyday. I know mostly people just want to show care and I guess there aren't THAT many impersonal questions to ask! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-not-bother-a-pregnant-woman-when-her-due-date-is-near#post-1838213 Wed, 27 Aug 2014 08:42:45 +0000 avivoca 1838213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really liked questions about how I was doing and not necessarily being asked about the pregnancy. Things that were annoying were the "Any baby yet?" questions. Generally, I tried to be gracious about everything, but once they started talking about how huge I was, and oh God I was going to be one of those women they would have to follow around in case my water broke (I worked up until 39 weeks), all bets were off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-not-bother-a-pregnant-woman-when-her-due-date-is-near#post-1838198 Wed, 27 Aug 2014 08:32:52 +0000 Alivoo01 1838198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: Ditto!</p> <p>@Mae: <i>"Anyone you need me to punch for you?" </i> LOL!!!! Love this!! Will have to keep this in mind for future use with my friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-not-bother-a-pregnant-woman-when-her-due-date-is-near#post-1838177 Wed, 27 Aug 2014 08:18:41 +0000 Lindsay05 1838177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hated the "any baby yet?" Or "how are you feeling?" questions. Ummm how do you think I feel? Also my mom always asked if I could feel baby drop, like, everyday, for a month. </p> <p>I think the best way is to fire a quick text saying that your excited for baby news. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-not-bother-a-pregnant-woman-when-her-due-date-is-near#post-1838164 Wed, 27 Aug 2014 08:14:22 +0000 Boheme 1838164@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't mind close friends, family members, etc asking me questions. But when I got comments like "Are you in labor? Is your water going to break on the floor in the office?!" from coworkers, I got very stabby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-not-bother-a-pregnant-woman-when-her-due-date-is-near#post-1838154 Wed, 27 Aug 2014 08:09:31 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 1838154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm pretty easy going &amp; loved being pregnant so not much bothered me ( but everyone is different!) The only thing that bothered me was BIL (&amp; husband! ) would text me all day asking if I was in labor yet &amp; it was annoying because I just wanted to meet LO &amp; I felt like I was disappointing them. lol (i guess pregnancy made me a tad sensitive :wink: ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-not-bother-a-pregnant-woman-when-her-due-date-is-near#post-1838140 Wed, 27 Aug 2014 08:01:56 +0000 swurlygurl 1838140@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The only thing that bothers me about comments is the same comment from the same person daily - aka people at work.<br /> If every single one of my friends made the same comments, it'd be fine because I know they each individually care and I enjoy talking to them about it. But at work, when I can expect to hear the same comment day after day from the same person... it makes me cranky!</p> <p>Oh, and probably don't say to someone almost 41 weeks that their feet are so swollen you want to poke them with a needle to pop them... :meh: </p> <p>@Cherrybee: Haha, definitely! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-not-bother-a-pregnant-woman-when-her-due-date-is-near#post-1838007 Wed, 27 Aug 2014 04:36:16 +0000 Mae 1838007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: I could never quite put into words this feeling that annoyed me, and you said it perfectly: It gets annoying when everyone starts treating you as a vehicle for "their" baby (niece or grandson or what have you). It's just nice for people to remember you are a person.</p> <p>@bluestriped bee: just don't say "so when is baby coming" or " no baby yet?" I think "how are you doing" is great or if you're close "how are you holding up? Anyone you need me to punch for you?" As a way to lighten the mood and give them an opportunity to bitch if desired. I never wanted to complain about my pregnancy bc it seemed ungrateful, but when someone asked it was nice to unload a little towards the end. </p>