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Hellobee Boards Topic: How to raise a kid who isn't whiny and annoying. https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 11 May 2026 18:28:50 +0000 indi on "How to raise a kid who isn't whiny and annoying." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-raise-a-kid-who-isnt-whiny-and-annoying#post-942721 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 15:39:16 +0000 indi 942721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Awesome! That was great (and made me want gingerbread). :-) Cchoi4 on "How to raise a kid who isn't whiny and annoying." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-raise-a-kid-who-isnt-whiny-and-annoying#post-942449 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 14:29:22 +0000 Cchoi4 942449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ BRAVO. I'm so glad you wrote this. I am really contemplating printing this out and tacking it on my fridge to not only remind husband but myself how to look at things in perspective. loveisstrange on "How to raise a kid who isn't whiny and annoying." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-raise-a-kid-who-isnt-whiny-and-annoying#post-942438 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 14:27:41 +0000 loveisstrange 942438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I :heart: this article so much I have no other words. BabyMats on "How to raise a kid who isn't whiny and annoying." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-raise-a-kid-who-isnt-whiny-and-annoying#post-942422 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 14:24:48 +0000 BabyMats 942422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Loved it!!! Thank u for sharing! HabesBabe on "How to raise a kid who isn't whiny and annoying." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-raise-a-kid-who-isnt-whiny-and-annoying#post-942417 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 14:23:50 +0000 HabesBabe 942417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ PREACH, sista. I have a feeling that this generation of kids is going to be the worst in a loooooooong time. Such a sense of entitlement. Mrs. High Heels on "How to raise a kid who isn't whiny and annoying." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-raise-a-kid-who-isnt-whiny-and-annoying#post-942382 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 14:18:26 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 942382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ You have no idea how much I love this! :heart: Thanks for sharing. Mrs. Polish on "How to raise a kid who isn't whiny and annoying." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-raise-a-kid-who-isnt-whiny-and-annoying#post-942310 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 14:01:18 +0000 Mrs. Polish 942310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm dealing with my brothers (8&9) this summer who feel they're owed everything. I can't help but feel that our parents have allowed this to happen and they don't like being with me because I don't let them have everything they want. It's so frustrating and I want to make sure I'm never that parent. Thanks for sharing! lilteacherbee on "How to raise a kid who isn't whiny and annoying." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-raise-a-kid-who-isnt-whiny-and-annoying#post-942309 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 14:00:59 +0000 lilteacherbee 942309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Love this! I work with kids who have next to nothing and who are in my program because they are categorized as at-risk and low-income. During the summer, I work part time at a daycare with children who have lives that are quite the opposite. I'd much rather spend time with the children who just want some attention and love, over the kids who are constantly whining that things "aren't fair." mamimami on "How to raise a kid who isn't whiny and annoying." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-raise-a-kid-who-isnt-whiny-and-annoying#post-942298 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 13:58:16 +0000 mamimami 942298@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Whiny toddlers exist in the third world, too... trust me, I live here. If someone has any ideas on how I can make my two year old understand how good he's got it, let me know. In the meantime I guess I'll wait until he's hit the age of reason :) Mrs. Lemon-Lime on "How to raise a kid who isn't whiny and annoying." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-raise-a-kid-who-isnt-whiny-and-annoying#post-942283 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 13:54:07 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 942283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Loved this. #firstworldproblems We ate the ones that will have to put all this STUFF in perspective for our kids. Leading by example. Sometimes saying No to something just because may nip some of the entitlement behavior. bunnylove08 on "How to raise a kid who isn't whiny and annoying." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-raise-a-kid-who-isnt-whiny-and-annoying#post-942279 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 13:53:24 +0000 bunnylove08 942279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ yup i agree with street justice. DD is only 10 months old and her 1 year old cousin always steals her toys. My husband and I encourage her to go and take it back. She doesn't understand but when she goes and takes back whats hers we cheer. I love the post and hope that we teach our daughter that you are lucky for what you have and everything you have was earned by hard work sweat and tears. Bookish on "How to raise a kid who isn't whiny and annoying." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-raise-a-kid-who-isnt-whiny-and-annoying#post-942198 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 13:35:53 +0000 Bookish 942198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Could not agree more with this. Many of the problems I have are problems that a heckuva lot of people would kill to have. Mommy wars are definitely not equal across the socioeconomic spectrum. looch on "How to raise a kid who isn't whiny and annoying." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-raise-a-kid-who-isnt-whiny-and-annoying#post-942181 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 13:32:06 +0000 looch 942181@https://boards.hellobee.com/ So true though. The blogosphere is a huge part of the issue and largely why I have deleted so many from my reader. And pinterest is where projects go to die. I have no time. Raindrop on "How to raise a kid who isn't whiny and annoying." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-raise-a-kid-who-isnt-whiny-and-annoying#post-942179 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 13:31:45 +0000 Raindrop 942179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Good read. Reminds of the saying : The race is long and in the end it's only against yourself. :) Adira on "How to raise a kid who isn't whiny and annoying." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-raise-a-kid-who-isnt-whiny-and-annoying#post-942079 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 13:14:21 +0000 Adira 942079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Love this!! Thank you for posting it! cmomma17 on "How to raise a kid who isn't whiny and annoying." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-raise-a-kid-who-isnt-whiny-and-annoying#post-942066 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 13:11:56 +0000 cmomma17 942066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ :heart: the walking gingerdead haha MamaMoose on "How to raise a kid who isn't whiny and annoying." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-raise-a-kid-who-isnt-whiny-and-annoying#post-942063 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 13:11:24 +0000 MamaMoose 942063@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My friend posted this on Facebook yesterday and I love it! The line about street justice was my fave. hilsy85 on "How to raise a kid who isn't whiny and annoying." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-raise-a-kid-who-isnt-whiny-and-annoying#post-942058 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 13:10:40 +0000 hilsy85 942058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Ha I love that. I use the term first world problems all the time in a self deprecating manner. Rubies on "How to raise a kid who isn't whiny and annoying." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-raise-a-kid-who-isnt-whiny-and-annoying#post-942051 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 13:09:51 +0000 Rubies 942051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Great read! TheReelDeal on "How to raise a kid who isn't whiny and annoying." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-raise-a-kid-who-isnt-whiny-and-annoying#post-942047 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 13:09:11 +0000 TheReelDeal 942047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ This!!! Awesome! It's like you are reading my mind. I worry about this with my future kids as well. cmomma17 on "How to raise a kid who isn't whiny and annoying." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-raise-a-kid-who-isnt-whiny-and-annoying#post-942039 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 13:07:59 +0000 cmomma17 942039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ That was amazing. Thanks for sharing!! Anagram on "How to raise a kid who isn't whiny and annoying." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-raise-a-kid-who-isnt-whiny-and-annoying#post-942013 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 13:01:47 +0000 Anagram 942013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lyz-lenz/how-to-raise-a-kid-who-isnt-whiny-and-annoying_b_3248085.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lyz-lenz/how-to-raise-a-kid-who-isnt-whiny-and-annoying_b_3248085.html</a> In a recent TODAY moms survey, 42% of mothers say that they "sometimes suffer from Pinterest stress." According to Today.com, "Symptoms include staying up until 3 a.m. clicking through photos of exquisite hand-made birthday party favors even though you'll end up buying yours at the dollar store, or sobbing quietly into a burnt mess of expensive ingredients that were supposed to be adorable bunny cookies for the school bake sale." This is what I like to call, first-world problems. Mad because those Valentines you spent two weeks making for your kid's party were outdone by another mom? First-world problems. Your teen refused to wear a coordinating shirt for your carefully-crafted family pictures? First-world problems. I'll admit it: I've been sucked in by the radiating allure of Pinterest and the joy it promises. My DIY bangs turned out to be a hack job. My super-easy gingerbread men on a stick looked like the walking gingerdead. And that awesome no-fail dessert everyone was pinning failed on me. It turned into soup. And our guests, because they are Midwestern, politely insisted on sampling it and sipping their cake from their bowls like stew. "Well, it tastes like pudding," our friend kindly said. They haven't been over since. I think Pinterest is trying to kill me. But you know what? First-world problems. I tell this to my daughter. She is two and blonde and beloved by a whole host of wonderful people. So, when she cries because her strawberry pancakes have too many strawberries or because I turned off "Mickey Mouse" -- and not just cries, but throws herself to the ground in a righteous rage -- I have three words for her before I walk away: First. World. Problems. Right after I got married, "The Today Show" ran a segment on post-wedding depression, a condition where brides sink into a malaise because they are no longer the center of attention. "You know what I call that?" My dad said when I showed him the article, "Whiny girl disease!" Now, I'm a mom and we're all whining over mommy wars and Pinterest stress and all those things that well-fed, middle class people with iPhones have to worry about. Mommy wars? You know who has mommy wars? Women with enough time and disposable income to bemoan the fact that others are "judging" them for how they feed their kids? Pinterest stress? That's what you get when you need a problem. I'm raising children in a privileged world. We have food. Money to save for an education. At 2, my daughter has a room that is bigger than any room I've ever occupied in my life. We can afford the fancy Easter dress. When we have a bad day, we can afford to get a special treat. I'm glad I'm raising a child in this environment. In fact, my husband and I waited to have kids just so we could do things like take vacations to Florida. But now that we are here, I wonder if we really are doing things the right way... I remember as a teenager, I was upset because my parents promised to let me see a movie and then back-pedaled at the last second. I was like North Korea with a missile. "That is so unfair!" I whined. "At least have the decency to live up to your promises." My dad lost it. "You know what's unfair? Having to make funeral arrangements for your older sister who died at 17 because your parents were too grief-stricken to handle it." I should have stopped. But I didn't. "That's hardly the standard we should apply to this situation..." "GET TO YOUR ROOM!" I lost that fight and I'm glad I did. And while I don't ever want my daughter to feel the pain of real trouble, I wonder just how I can raise a human in this blessed environment, where she is completely inoculated against such petulant, whiny diseases. Pain, of course, is relative. And having financial security doesn't protect against real problems. But how do I teach my children that petty problems aren't worth their time? That failure makes you stronger and that social media-induced ennui means you should probably shut the computer and read a book -- a real book. I'm not saying this to be cruel. I love my children. I want what is best for them with every fiber of my being. But every temper tantrum over the fact that I bought off-brand Goldfish Crackers makes me see the bigger picture. I don't know the answer to how to raise a kid who isn't whiny and annoying and who doesn't think that Pinterest stress is really a thing worth lamenting. But I do know that as a parent, it begins with me. I set the limits. We won't do Elf on the Shelf because mom has enough trouble getting cookies baked over Christmas. The tooth fairy only brings a quarter. There is no adjustment for inflation. Your birthday cake will probably always come from the store, as will your Valentine's cards for school. I didn't buy baby moccasins because the ROI on that investment was one good Instagram picture. Your food won't be all organic. Yes, I used formula. Walk to school. There is no second breakfast or special dinner for you. I don't do grocery cart covers or antiseptic wipes. I don't care if that kid took your toy, get it back yourself, that's street justice. I don't care if the neighbor sneezed on you, the flu happens. Time out occurs at anytime or anywhere, so be on alert. This is where we begin. My refusal to compare myself with the other mother I see on the Internet and to build a life that embraces the important and repels the petty. And I only hope that lesson extends. If not, I am building a backlog of "Oh, you want to see not fair?" lectures. Just in case.