https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 02:56:40 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-stop-worrying#post-34613 Thu, 15 Dec 2011 11:06:51 +0000 lemondrop 34613@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I figure it is our job as moms to worry. After what you have been through even early on before, I can't blame you for feeling nervous. </p> <p>@35 weeks I still worry, the times I feel best are right after dr appointments. It does get easier when they start moving on a regular basis. It isn't outright panic or anything, but if I haven't felt him wiggle in a while, I will drink some juice and lay down until he moves, then I feel more relaxed. Also I love the lumbar support in my car, feels good to me, makes my boy dance. He likes to sleep in, so during my morning commute if I haven't felt him yet, I turn that puppy on and feel him wiggle. </p> <p>I do look forward to him being out so I can watch him breathe. The nurse at our birth class was telling us warning signs to watch out for, made me so nervous that I was ready for him to be out NOW. Also my SIL gave me some wisdom after her boys were born- even when they are crying and making you crazy, a crying baby is an alive baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-stop-worrying#post-34484 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 23:29:16 +0000 autumnlove 34484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am 6 days away from my due date and still worrying about everything! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-stop-worrying#post-34449 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 22:16:11 +0000 MamaLove 34449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So glad that you went in and things are looking good! YAY!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-stop-worrying#post-34040 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 15:01:43 +0000 LAGS 34040@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm glad you're feeling better and yay for the HB and ultrasound! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-stop-worrying#post-34015 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 14:24:57 +0000 winniebee 34015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Update: I went in, the dr. was great, we listened to HB (perfect) and she did a quick ultrasound. Everything looks great and the baby measured at 17w (I'm 16+3). Feel loads better : ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-stop-worrying#post-33993 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 13:59:57 +0000 Rosie Girl 33993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I worried most during my first pregnancy. I still worry during this pregnancy, but don't call the dr like I used to! </p> <p>I don't know how to help you not worry. Call and go in, Dr's are used to that :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-stop-worrying#post-33984 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 13:52:48 +0000 Artsy Butterfly 33984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a worrier and unfortunately, I haven't stopped worrying! I'm not as worried as I was, but I still have the worrisome thoughts sneak into my head.</p> <p>I.e. if baby isn't very active, I get nervous and have to check for the HB with a stethoscope or drink something sugary that will wake the baby up. </p> <p>It was really hard in the beginning for me not to worry and it did get easier as things progressed. But, too many stories of still births, etc...are what scare me now. I try not to think about it though and focus on the moving baby in my belly and the fact that he or she won't be in there much longer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-stop-worrying#post-33821 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 12:23:00 +0000 Boogs 33821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: Yay! I'm so glad it went well! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-stop-worrying#post-33817 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 12:20:45 +0000 ALittleP 33817@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is a great topic. After a loss, I'm 6w4d and I worry all the time!!</p> <p>I have no advice just sending you lots of good wishes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-stop-worrying#post-33812 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 12:18:24 +0000 Lozza 33812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My OB office was totally cool about fitting me in for a quick check if I just felt "off" or worried. I think it's pretty par for the course, so don't feel bad.<br /> It does get easier once they start moving and you get more frequent reassurance! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-stop-worrying#post-33777 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 12:06:15 +0000 Maysprout 33777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you'll always worry. I could hear the babies heartrate with a stethascope around 20 weeks and that helped calm me down, I always made sure my husband brought his home. About the weight gain, I stopped gaining for some reason in the middle of my second trimester. For 2 months right around Christmas and Thanksgiving where I thought I'd shoot up on the weight scale I didn't gain a single pound. I was a bit worried since I'm pretty thin, like my whole pregnancy I stayed in the normal BMI range for unpregnant people. But the OB never worried, my stomach was growing and that's all they seemed concerned about. Right after that I gained a decent amount though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-stop-worrying#post-33770 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 12:04:42 +0000 mrsjazz 33770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been worrying since day one! Having the fetal doppler helped me--I listened to her heartbeat every few days. Even though I can feel her moving now, I still worry. I've been listening to a CD joyful pregnancy affirmations (it comes with Hypnobabies) and it helps so much. I listen to it every day on my commute and sometimes more than once a day when I'm feeling a little at ease. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-stop-worrying#post-33763 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 12:03:15 +0000 Andrea 33763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think moms will ever stop worrying. This is what my mom still tells me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-stop-worrying#post-33755 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 12:00:46 +0000 winniebee 33755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaLove: Thank you : ) I'm glad you are going in to get an extra ultrasound too. I feel like sometimes I use my prior miscarriage as an excuse to worry...but it's reality. I'm going in at 2 - getting a blood draw before then a quick appt. My nurse didn't seem at all surprised and my OB told the nurse that she could see me quickly to reassure me. </p> <p>@Boogs: I did tell work around 13 weeks! It went really well and they have been very supportive. I tried a jury case for 2 weeks after telling them, so I think they know I'm still serious about working hard : ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-stop-worrying#post-33742 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 11:54:32 +0000 Boogs 33742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The worrying continues after they are born, too. Since you doctor is just across the street I say you hop on over to see her just to ease your mind. Maybe getting a fetal Doppler like Mrs. Bee would help?</p> <p>In another post you talked about telling your work about your pregnancy, did you ever tell them? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-stop-worrying#post-33739 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 11:49:52 +0000 MamaLove 33739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely think you should go in! It will help ease your mind, so it's worth it! Just remind yourself that you are probably not the most "needy" patient they have. Worrying is common during pregnancy, and I'm sure that others worry even more than you and ask to go in more often. </p> <p>That being said, I know how you feel. I'm 10 weeks and am feeling like a lot of my symptoms have gone away-- the nausea in particular. I've had 2 ultrasounds (7 and 9 weeks). My next doctor's appointment isn't for 3.5 weeks. I had a scare at my last appointment, but things turned out fine. So I really wanted to go back in and just double check, especially before we told our families. I ended up calling. They made me an appointment with an ultrasound tech to just check in on the baby next week! Super easy, and they didn't act surprised when I asked-- it was very normal to them!! And they do it with an ultrasound tech if you don't need to see your OB/midwife. So it was super easy to do and I feel a lot better knowing I have an appointment next week! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-stop-worrying#post-33654 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 10:41:15 +0000 winniebee 33654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks ladies. My husband is always telling me not to worry but so much easier said than done. I worry about being a needy patient but think I may just go over for a heartbeat check to ease my mind (since my doctor's office is across the street from my work and I need to get round 2 of my labs done for my series sequential this week...) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-stop-worrying#post-33640 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 10:26:43 +0000 yoursilverlining 33640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don’t have any words of wisdom on how to stop worrying, but my doctor warned me that the worrying often increases in the second trimester because so many symptoms lessen…which has been true for me. She just said to keep telling yourself that everything is ok, and that its only a few short “bridge” weeks before you can feel movement, which should reassure you again that everything is fine. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-stop-worrying#post-33631 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 10:16:56 +0000 Mrs. Bee 33631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i was sooo worried that i would miscarry when i was pregnant with charlie. having a fetal doppler helped ease my anxiety a lot. i think it's completely natural to worry a lot, especially if you've had a previous loss. but try to tell yourself that worrying isn't going to change the outcome any, so enjoy your pregnancy as much as you can. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-stop-worrying#post-33628 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 10:14:13 +0000 Mrsbells 33628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you really need to be reassured then you can just drop by and hear the heartbeat and that will help you ease the worrying. I think its normal to worry a bit but try to just not to overdo it because stress isnt good for the baby. The good thing is in a few more weeks you will be able to feel the baby move and that is soooo reassuring!!<br /> I'm 22 weeks and sometimes I get worried if I havent felt the baby move in a while but then if I lay on my side for a while or eat something I feel her kick me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-stop-worrying#post-33626 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 10:10:21 +0000 LivsMama 33626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>wish I could tell ya. Liv is 4.5 months old and Im still worrying hahaha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-stop-worrying#post-33622 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 10:06:01 +0000 winniebee 33622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 16.5 weeks pregnant and have no reason to believe that anything is wrong. I have a growing belly and had good doctor's visits at 6, 10, 12, and 13 weeks (it was supposed to be a 14 week appt, but due to work had to be done at 13 weeks). So I haven't been seen in 3.5 weeks and we don't have have our anatomy scan for another 2 weeks. I haven't gained much weight though (4 pounds but 3 were in the first 10 weeks) and can't stop feeling like I'm still waiting for the other shoe to drop. My boobs also have gotten much less sore in the past few days (I know, it's common for symptoms to fade in the second trimester....) I had a prior early miscarriage before this pregnancy and thought that was the cause of my worries during the first trimester. I did relax after the 12 week mark but now feel worried again. Why can't I stop feeling like something bad is going to happen?? </p> <p>When I called the doctor about my lack of weight gain, she said it wasn't a concern at all but that she would see me if I wanted. I felt silly for calling and like I was a needy patient so declined. Now I feel like I should just go in rather than keep worrying until my anatomy scan. Is this normal? If you were a worrier, how did you stop? </p>