https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 04:59:53 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-tell-friends-struggling-with-if-that-im-pregnant#post-2079848 Sat, 21 Feb 2015 16:13:01 +0000 mrscobee 2079848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone and thanks @mrbee: I hadn't seen that post, and it was really helpful! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-tell-friends-struggling-with-if-that-im-pregnant#post-2079821 Sat, 21 Feb 2015 15:53:18 +0000 mrbee 2079821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrscobee: Mrs. Green Grass shared a great email she received from a pregnant friend!</p> <p><a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2013/05/24/how-to-tell-your-infertile-friend-that-youre-pregnant/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2013/05/24/how-to-tell-your-infertile-friend-that-youre-pregnant/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-tell-friends-struggling-with-if-that-im-pregnant#post-2079813 Sat, 21 Feb 2015 15:45:37 +0000 Trailmix 2079813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think just being aware that your announcement might not be 100% joyful for them and recognizing that is enough. I agree that email or text is a good way to give them time to process and I think you are a very kind friend to be so considerate of other people's feelings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-tell-friends-struggling-with-if-that-im-pregnant#post-2079729 Sat, 21 Feb 2015 13:21:08 +0000 LAZB 2079729@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have been on both sides as well. I think telling by email or text is best, but I told my best friend by phone. Also, I know some friends find it hurtful when you wait a long time to share. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-tell-friends-struggling-with-if-that-im-pregnant#post-2079698 Sat, 21 Feb 2015 12:45:36 +0000 MaryM 2079698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would send an email. And make sure if they work it's when they're more likely to be home. </p> <p>I agree with being sensitive and not pitying. And then be willing to have them approach you when they're ready. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-tell-friends-struggling-with-if-that-im-pregnant#post-2079543 Sat, 21 Feb 2015 09:15:59 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 2079543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Make sure that it seems like you are being sensitive but not pitying. There were points where every announcement no matter what was a knife to the heart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-tell-friends-struggling-with-if-that-im-pregnant#post-2079541 Sat, 21 Feb 2015 09:14:33 +0000 travelgirl1 2079541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congratulations! We dealt with this recently with my SIL and BIL. We decided to tell them first, before the rest of the family, so they had chance to digest it. We sent a thoughtfully worded text rather than call, because we didn't want to put them on the spot and feel they had to react. BIL texted back to say they appreciated it, because it was hard for SIL. She never contacted us at all until I contacted her recently. I think you just have to be prepared for hurt feelings but that it is not personal, just very hard for them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-tell-friends-struggling-with-if-that-im-pregnant#post-2079521 Sat, 21 Feb 2015 08:46:01 +0000 Worrywart 2079521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would not call. I am struggling with IF (Over a year TTC #2) and the phone calls have been so much harder. I try and fake excitement when I'm really just jealous and mad. I think a text or email would be best. Good luck and congrats! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-tell-friends-struggling-with-if-that-im-pregnant#post-2079310 Fri, 20 Feb 2015 22:58:07 +0000 Hoots 2079310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think everyone's different, but if/when my best friend tells me I'd hope it would be by text. It would give me the best chance to process and would allow me to reach out to them when I'm ready. I think just sticking to something simple would be my preference. Maybe like "Hey, just wanted to let you know I'm pregnant. I know it's been tough for you and I wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you and am always here to listen. Call me." But that's just me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-tell-friends-struggling-with-if-that-im-pregnant#post-2079276 Fri, 20 Feb 2015 22:22:02 +0000 mrscobee 2079276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Tidybee: Thanks, and thanks for the input. That is good to know. </p> <p>Any thoughts on whether text / email is better than phone call? I feel like written communication gives people space to process their feelings, but maybe some would feel that form of communication isn't very personal? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-tell-friends-struggling-with-if-that-im-pregnant#post-2079266 Fri, 20 Feb 2015 22:14:31 +0000 Tidybee 2079266@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First off - congrats!! Second, it's tough. I've been there...both on the giving and receiving end. The only thing you can do is be open and honest and give them time to process their own feelings.<br /> One of the most hurtful things was when someone didn't tell me until she was 15 weeks because she didn't want to upset me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-tell-friends-struggling-with-if-that-im-pregnant#post-2079261 Fri, 20 Feb 2015 22:12:07 +0000 mrscobee 2079261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just wanted to see if anyone has any special advice for this. I have to tell a couple of friends with IF soon and just hate that my news could be part if making their journeys harder. I know it is unavoidable though and I can't not tell them... I don't know what I am looking for here... Just any tips at all would be appreciated! </p>