https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 07 May 2026 10:41:32 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-was-the-transition-from-having-1-child-to-2#post-162438 Thu, 17 May 2012 22:25:54 +0000 Boogs 162438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm soooo nervous about this, so much so that I wouldn't mind an only child and DH is the one really wanting a second one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-was-the-transition-from-having-1-child-to-2#post-162422 Thu, 17 May 2012 22:06:40 +0000 holdonforonemoreday 162422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so nervous about this, as I'm due in 20 days! My LO is 15 months old and has just started to act up in the last week. Tonight we did 4 timeouts in the space of 1.5 hours. Yikes! </p> <p>I think the hardest part will be the mornings, trying to keep LO happy and baby content. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-was-the-transition-from-having-1-child-to-2#post-161056 Thu, 17 May 2012 08:03:03 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 161056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rock n Roll: Definitely! The short answer is that it's going really well! It's amazing what you learn with #1 to apply to #2 :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-was-the-transition-from-having-1-child-to-2#post-161052 Thu, 17 May 2012 07:53:41 +0000 Rock n Roll 161052@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sarbear: My mom said the same thing! Adding the second one is hard, but adding more after that is easy. Although I only plan on three, it was reassuring to hear.</p> <p>I'm glad @HeatherlovesKenny asked about this, though. I'm in the same boat- about three weeks from my due date and my kids will be a bit more than two and a half years apart.</p> <p>@Mrs. Jacks: I'm hoping you will do an updated post on co-sleeping with the new baby. I'm planning on trying to put new baby in her crib, but I don't know how long it will last. I ended up co-sleeping with my first because it was the only way I could actually get sleep while breastfeeding, and I have a feeling I will succumb to the same temptation this time. (I have to sleep!) My older daughter has been taking to transitioning to her own bed pretty well, but she still ends up in bed with us in the middle of the night a couple times a week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-was-the-transition-from-having-1-child-to-2#post-161026 Thu, 17 May 2012 06:57:15 +0000 Rosie Girl 161026@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Its been hard and easy! The hardest part I think is giving child #1 (DS for me) enough attention. #2 (DD) needs a lot, so I try to get him involved. Also, DS is 4, so he is kind of independent, but still needs help. I find that I will "quickly" go help him and leave DD crying or something. Its hard to be with both at all times, impossible actually. And I am that mother who will sometimes help DS into the car while DD is still in the cart! I have been blogging about it though :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-was-the-transition-from-having-1-child-to-2#post-160850 Wed, 16 May 2012 20:16:49 +0000 mrs. wagon 160850@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't even opened this thread til now because I'm so afraid. I'm not feeling too guilty or anything (I am a neglected second child, hehe, who always lived in my brother's shadow, so I sometimes purposely don't pay attention to Wagon Jr. while Wagon Sr. is with us so that he doesn't get too used to having both of our undivided attention!) but the transition from 0-1 was so crazy for us that I'm really afraid of the craziness of this second transition. Things are finally settling down and we're finally comfortable where we are, and this baby will be here in 3 months or less...!!! </p> <p>Our transition from 1 dog to 2 was pretty good, and now they have each other so I wouldn't have it any other way, but I know that's no comparison. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-was-the-transition-from-having-1-child-to-2#post-160800 Wed, 16 May 2012 19:31:12 +0000 HLK208 160800@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: at least you don't want to raise your voice though, many parents have no problem with yelling. And hey--sometimes it happens, we're only human...I have a couple times just within this pregnancy, I've been a much grumpier mom :-/ I'm really hoping I won't anymore, it makes me an unhappier person and I feel guilty for losing paitence with DS.</p> <p>@Mrsbells: That's true. DS just turned 3 and he is a bit more independent. But the tantrums are the same as when he was 2. </p> <p>@sarbear: Hmm...I think I'll stop at 2!! Even though 3 might be a breeze, I don't think I can ever be pregnant again!</p> <p>@chopsuey119: even though my LO is older than yours, I'll have to update with how it goes, hopefully not harder than I'm imagining? We'll see! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-was-the-transition-from-having-1-child-to-2#post-160781 Wed, 16 May 2012 19:12:27 +0000 chopsuey 160781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so nervous about this too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-was-the-transition-from-having-1-child-to-2#post-160746 Wed, 16 May 2012 18:25:19 +0000 GrapeCrush 160746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've only got one...but my mom had 3 in 3 years. I asked how it was to go from 1 to 2 and 2 to 3 and she said 1 to 2 was a lot tougher than 2 to 3. She didn't really elaborate. Just that after 2 it was a breeze </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-was-the-transition-from-having-1-child-to-2#post-160738 Wed, 16 May 2012 18:06:32 +0000 Mrsbells 160738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I only have one infant at the moment but I imagine it all depends on the age gap between the two. if the first one is more then 3 years old then the 2nd I'm guessing the logistics will be differentt then if they are both under 3 years </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-was-the-transition-from-having-1-child-to-2#post-160735 Wed, 16 May 2012 18:04:11 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 160735@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You can check out my blog post on the 1 to 2 transition if you want. I find the hardest thing for me is that there are times when I have to attend to the baby and the older one tries to take advantage to get into something. I can't really stop what I'm doing, so I end up raising my voice and I HATE that. I so wish I could be in 2 places at once. For the last two days, I've interrupted what I was doing to give timeout to Lala and it seems to be helping. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-was-the-transition-from-having-1-child-to-2#post-160730 Wed, 16 May 2012 17:57:33 +0000 Mrs. Superhero 160730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HeatherlovesKenny: yeah, sadly my patience is not so great when I'm sleep deprived. Luckily she doesn't tantrum much and we just put her in her room to calm down for a minute when she does. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-was-the-transition-from-having-1-child-to-2#post-160719 Wed, 16 May 2012 17:47:37 +0000 HLK208 160719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Hanasu: that's exactly how I describe DS as a baby "high maintenance" (had to be held to sleep, fussy after being fed/diaper changes, didn't sleep for more than 6 hours until 12 months), so I'm really hoping DD will be a better sleeper/eater and all around happier--that would help me SO much!<br /> I am really worried about DS's tantrums though...how will I have the time to settle him down or the paitence?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-was-the-transition-from-having-1-child-to-2#post-160713 Wed, 16 May 2012 17:41:14 +0000 Mrs. Superhero 160713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine are 3 months and 26 months old. For the most part it's been pretty good because the baby is a fairly easy baby (compared to my first who was very high maintenance). I'm lucky that my husband works 3 twelve hour night shifts a week so he is home 4.5 days to help out.<br /> The hardest thing at first was getting enough sleep as you can't just sleep when the baby sleeps when you have an active toddler (thank goodness she still naps!) and the hardest thing now is that I have to do bedtime by myself 3 nights a week and they both fall apart at about the same time.</p> <p>The best thing is that they are soooo adorable together, the baby thinks her big sister is hilarious and amazing and the toddler is always trying to help keep the baby happy and amused.</p> <p>@Honeybee: The other day I had to use the bathroom at the library. I had the baby strapped to me in the ergo and gave the toddler a book to read. Good times. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-was-the-transition-from-having-1-child-to-2#post-160699 Wed, 16 May 2012 17:25:43 +0000 HLK208 160699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Honeybee: thank you!!! Just reading that the transition from 0-1 child was harder than 1-2, put me at ease a little. I hope it's the same for me. I'll definitely go read your post :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-was-the-transition-from-having-1-child-to-2#post-160695 Wed, 16 May 2012 17:10:00 +0000 Honeybee 160695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmmmm, at the end of my pregnancy, I have to admit that I felt seriously guilty/worried about having #2. My husband said it was too late to reconsider, but truthfully, I was regretting getting pregnant again. I was so worried that everything was going to get inifitely harder and that having another baby would ruin our whole lives. Luckily, I was wrong. :)</p> <p>Maybe I'm just a little extra optimistic today because it's been a really good day, but it's not nearly as bad as I thought. Actually, we had a much harder transition from 0-1 than from 1-2. We have tough days, don't get me wrong, but overall it's much easier than I thought it would be.</p> <p>The hardest thing for me has just been figuring out the logistics of taking care of two. How do you use a public bathroom when you have two kids (a curious toddler and an infant)? Who gets in the car first? Who gets out of the car first? How do you feed two kids at the same time? How do you put two kids down for bed at te same time (I still haven't figured this one out)? I started a thread a little while back with tips/tricks; maybe that will help you, too:<br /> <a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-under-2-tips-and-tricks" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-under-2-tips-and-tricks</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-was-the-transition-from-having-1-child-to-2#post-159761 Tue, 15 May 2012 20:28:28 +0000 heffalump 159761@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Bumping, I'm curious to know too! So far we only have one.... but it will be nice to know for the future. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-was-the-transition-from-having-1-child-to-2#post-159622 Tue, 15 May 2012 18:14:40 +0000 HLK208 159622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 3 weeks away from my due date with baby #2 and of course I've thought long and hard about what a huge change this is going to be going from one child to two, but I want to read real stories from parent's who have already experienced this...<br /> What are some hurdles you've had to go through that you didn't expect when you were only a parent of one?</p> <p>The other day in the Target parking lot, I saw a mom with two children (one was about 5 yrs and the other was a newborn). The mom helped the 5yo get into the car while the infant was in the carrier... in the cart... and the cart was rolling away--I caught the cart (since I was parked next to her) but I was thinking how the mom could have handled that in a smarter way...sometimes as a mom of a new baby, you just space out and I can completely imagine that happening to me. Yikes.</p> <p>Any advice or tips to help the transition go smoothly would be wonderful :) </p>