https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 18:37:54 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-weird-is-this#post-2865081 Sat, 05 Jan 2019 12:10:11 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 2865081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A little bit similar: My DD hates when people cheer her on &amp;/or chant her name. The first time this happened she sullenly looked down at her plate &amp; wouldn't budge until everyone went back to their own thing. After that, she often gets angry &amp; yells "don't cheer me up!" Lol! She enthusiastically cheers other people on, but does not like to receive the cheers. This is the ONLY instance where she doesn't like attention, so it really surprised us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-weird-is-this#post-2865028 Fri, 04 Jan 2019 21:01:18 +0000 periwinklebee 2865028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No personal experience, but from talking with lots of friends I think this sort of thing is SO COMMON at that age. If he's still doing it at age 5, than yeah, start thinking about getting help, but at 2 it seems completely normal. Totally annoying, like many toddler behaviors, but also totally normally. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-weird-is-this#post-2865027 Fri, 04 Jan 2019 20:59:25 +0000 Nutella 2865027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: Hello friend! I can’t write much as I’m on my phone, but wanted to say yes my little boy was like this but it was only a phase that lasted six months or so (around 2.5-3ish). It was not a real issue, more of just perplexing (&amp; a bit hilarious in other times like his daycare farewell where he was pretty much bawling the whole time 😅). Also feel your pain regarding real life friends who just think it’s weird. Ours resolved and he now loves celebrations and I remember him singing really nicely at birthdays etc. He says now that he was just shy ☺️ P.S. hope you’re well and little miss is behaving for you too ❤️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-weird-is-this#post-2865000 Fri, 04 Jan 2019 17:50:36 +0000 agold 2865000@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: I'm sure it is just a phase and I'm sorry he has to deal with this at his preschool. My August baby girl loves parties and she loves singing the happy birthday song at home. But she was once at a party, sitting at the table when people started singing happy birthday to her friend, and my girl cried. She won't sing happy birthday for anyone else either, despite singing it all day, every day at home. Anytime I rock her at night and try to sing, she tells me "stop mommy. its too loud". She says the same thing when I say prayers with her at night, and I promise I say them quietly! :happy: So who knows at this age. I hope our kids get passed this quickly! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-weird-is-this#post-2864998 Fri, 04 Jan 2019 17:27:42 +0000 codeitall 2864998@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son sounds similar. He just turned 4. Ever since he was 2 though, he didn't like singing time at the church nursery, the radio in the car, or us singing/listening to music around the house. He covered his ears when we sang happy birthday to him last month. My opinion is that he'll grow out of it. If it is optional, I'll ask his opinion (like radio in the car) and sometimes he'll just want a station switch and he'll be fine, and sometimes we turn it off, but if it isn't optional (like his birthday) we just power through it and let him cover his ears. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-weird-is-this#post-2864954 Fri, 04 Jan 2019 14:42:04 +0000 pachamama 2864954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This IS a funny little quirk!! Do you think you can file it under "downplay it and he'll grow out of it"? Sounds like he's pretty normal otherwise :-) I mean, as normal as our sweet babes get.<br /> I will add my son has a touch of that fascism too. It's kind of embarrassing bc he's 3 in a few weeks. He can be so rude and basically controlling in social settings. Oh shit. I just described myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-weird-is-this#post-2864914 Fri, 04 Jan 2019 11:41:10 +0000 Sams Mom 2864914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: I wonder if maybe another student at daycare got into trouble for being way too wild at a celebration; so maybe he's worried about getting in trouble? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-weird-is-this#post-2864913 Fri, 04 Jan 2019 11:40:17 +0000 Sams Mom 2864913@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I feel you on the buttons. It's driving me crazy! My husband even hands him the garage door opener so he can open or close when we're coming and going. ugghhhhh </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-weird-is-this#post-2864909 Fri, 04 Jan 2019 11:30:24 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2864909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: personally, I would probably just give it a bit of time. He will probably move onto something else weird in a bit! I also think from your other thread that this all sounds like normal stuff for his age and his daycare blew it way out of proportion, making you think something abnormal is going on with him when it’s really the daycare that was super weird about it all. I would totally do the same thing if I was in your situation so I get it.</p> <p>If he’s very verbal and understands, I would just go over it with him repetitively beforehand if you know there’s going to be a celebration: ‘parties are usually fun times but sometimes they might be loud or people sing. You are safe even if you might feel scared. You could put your hands over your ears or find an adult to sit with if you feel upset’ I’ve even found that during scary things, my son does really well when we make it seem silly. Like ‘look at those funny kids clapping their hands! How funny Bahaha!’ And you could create a silly hand clap or something that he finds funny. That might help reframe it for him. I will say that at now 4 years old, my son understands things much more and articulates specific feelings (‘I felt sad when we had to stop playing that game!’) than when he was 2.5/3 but I think it’s worth a shot for you to verbalize it and talk about it. I’m not sure how you could find a therapist but maybe your doc might be a good place to start if you want some reassurance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-weird-is-this#post-2864904 Fri, 04 Jan 2019 11:20:05 +0000 LCTBQE 2864904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: had to google that--so funny. yes, except freaked out boy instead of authoritative boss lady :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-weird-is-this#post-2864902 Fri, 04 Jan 2019 11:17:17 +0000 LBee 2864902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: I'll wall you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-weird-is-this#post-2864900 Fri, 04 Jan 2019 11:16:25 +0000 LCTBQE 2864900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LBee: @muffinsmuffins: this is why I love HB, I knew someone would be familiar with something similar. Makes sense that it was probably a bad experience, as even the mention of a party will concern him and he'll tell us he doesn't like parties. But, actually he DOES like parties--birthday parties are totally fun for him except for the singing part. Daycare just had their Christmas party with music and dancing and they said he did great and loved it and it went totally without incident. It's that group chanting/singing/clapping that upsets him. We've asked him why but either he can't articulate it or he doesn't know, because it just devolves into him admonishing parties at large, and I try not to encourage him digging into this, so we stopped asking. I guess what I'm trying to figure out is if I really need to seek out help like you think @LBee, or whether this is just a curiosity that he'll outgrow like your son @muffinsmuffins. I'm not averse at ALL to seeking out therapy (as a decade-long therapy patient myself :) ) I'm just not sure whether it's necessary? Also, sorry for the hand-holding, but how do you go about finding a behavior therapist? (Is that what they're called?) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-weird-is-this#post-2864898 Fri, 04 Jan 2019 11:13:14 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2864898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ok, so your son is so Blue Ivy at the 2018 Grammys! :silly: Everyone has their quirks. Since you can’t police enthusiasm I’d try to work with him on how to cope when a celebration is simply unavoidable. My kid can scope out a button in a nano second and gets bent out of shape if he doesn’t get to see the garage door go down. We are working on being easy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-weird-is-this#post-2864895 Fri, 04 Jan 2019 10:57:02 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2864895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My guess if everything is normal developmentally is that maybe something he perceived as scary happened during one of the daycare celebrations or elsewhere and he didn’t like it, now he gets freaked out because he associates that with the original incident. Even like a sudden loud clapping or noises he wasn’t familiar with or a kid who was hyper or something could have been scary. My son is very sensitive and has gone through phases where he suddenly doesn’t like something that seems weird. Like we watched a bit of Moana and he was totally freaked out about the character diving into the ocean and would get upset about any of that happening anywhere else for a while. Have you asked him why he doesn’t like it? I wonder what he would say. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-weird-is-this#post-2864893 Fri, 04 Jan 2019 10:50:36 +0000 LBee 2864893@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know a kid who has a similar trigger. He was evaluated by a behavioral psychologist because he was being disruptive in school (and the school required it to continue) and she recommended therapy. He would freak out during any collective performance type thing and would scream "stop" repeatedly. Even without an audience. After working through it with the psychologist he no longer does it. He was already in EI for other issues and the EI said that this was a behavioral issue not a developmental issue, FWIW. It sounds like a learned behavior -- he had one bad experience (I'm guessing) and now he's freaked out. </p> <p>We've gone through stages of my son being weird about stuff (including praying). We usually just say we're going to do this and you can participate or not, but you will not disrupt. If he does, he goes to time out because he's being rude. But I think I'm a weirdo because I also don't allow my child to not say goodbye when we leave places (it's a manners issue for me - I don't care if you are shy, if you can't say bye and thank someone we won't go to places where it's required - natural consequence) and that doesn't seem to be a popular opinion. I just always try to play the tape to the end -- what you are describing is avoidable now, but if not addressed now could become fairly limiting. Like can he not attend birthday parties? What about his own? I personally would either really work with him on it or seek a behavioral specialist. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-weird-is-this#post-2864888 Fri, 04 Jan 2019 10:36:28 +0000 LCTBQE 2864888@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This fall I posted about my daycare threatening to kick out my son (28 months now, 26 at the time) for being intermittently difficult/disruptive. Since I posted that thread we have figured out that his freakouts are triggered by something *very* specific, and have worked together with daycare and they have totally worked around it and he is doing much better, which is great. Just curious if anyone has any thoughts/insight into this, because everyone we've talked to IRL is like, that is the strangest thing and I have never heard of anything like it. </p> <p>So: my son HATES "parties", which includes actual parties, but also basically any display of collective enthusiasm whatsoever. The problems at daycare were with circle time and singing happy birthday (the kickout threat happened after 3 kids had birthday parties in one week). He hates all clapping, when people say "yay" at ANY volume/level of enthusiasm, he gets really upset at the episode of Paw Patrol when there's a dog show and Rocky wins and the rest of the dogs cheer, etc--if that episode is on and he knows the cheer is coming he'll tell me he doesn't want to see the party and ask me to skip to the end. We started potty training and when he goes on the potty he loves to be told great job dude, and he loves high-fiving--but if you clap or cheer, he will yell, "no party mommy, I don't want a party!" It isn't a noise sensitivity--we initially thought it was but he reacts the same at any noise level. My SIL and her kids were here last weekend and they are very religious and pray before meals--her kids (same age) insisted that we say the Lord's Prayer at dinner 3 nights in a row--my son was yelling over us, "no party! no prayers I don't like prayers!" Mostly we are trying not to crack up but are totally baffled. FWIW he was evaluated and observed by my girlfriend's mother who has been a state EI specialist for 25 years, I told her to please not sugarcoat it for me if she thought anything was going on and she assured me she wouldn't--and she (and his ped) think that he's totally healthy and very verbally/developmentally advanced. He's also super social and outgoing--just a little fascist about this particular thing. </p> <p>So, any thoughts on this or do you know any little kids that have similar triggers? It's easy to adapt to it, but his fixation bizarrely affects us quite a bit. </p>