https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 11:31:19 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-will-you-teach-your-kids-the-importance-of-honesty#post-1141764 Thu, 10 Oct 2013 05:38:37 +0000 Dandelion 1141764@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always told DS that honesty is number one. The other day he got in trouble about lying about something he did. He got in trouble for lying, and in trouble for the thing he lied about.</p> <p>It's a big thing here, so I've always told him it's always best to tell the truth.</p> <p>DH and I are always honest with each other and with DS, so it's good to give a good example.</p> <p>Also, in this example, I would do the treatment for the lice anyways, and then tell the school what's up. Telling the truth, and letting them know that the kid will probably contaminate the whole school if she takes that test tomorrow, will probably end in the school allowing her to take the test at a later date. Things happen, and it's not the end of the world. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-will-you-teach-your-kids-the-importance-of-honesty#post-1141402 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 19:30:52 +0000 apis 1141402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>By lying to him, primarily, I imagine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-will-you-teach-your-kids-the-importance-of-honesty#post-1141374 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 19:14:52 +0000 shinymama 1141374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I believe it's something that parents have to model on a daily basis, but you reinforce it with different age-appropriate statements and acts.</p> <p>When my oldest was little simply saying that God was watching was enough. As he got older, things changed and conversations evolved organically. We talked about how lying is bad and not fair to others, and how being good also feels good. Now that he's 11, we focus more on how it takes so much energy to lie, and how the lie typically gets him into far more trouble than if he had just been truthful from the very beginning </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-will-you-teach-your-kids-the-importance-of-honesty#post-1141350 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 19:01:39 +0000 runsyellowlites 1141350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: Okay so I read the article and must say I'm appalled that there are people that call themselves "decent" but a at the same time lie &amp; cheat. We're definitely more worried about our kids character than the school they get into, where they eventually live (stature of neighborhood, not at home vs on their own. lol), or high salary job. All of those things are fleeting, but ones character will outlive them.</p> <p>I had to chuckle at the image of berating a coach to get your kid field time b/c we're going through the exact opposite right now...... we're on the other end telling the coach that if G doesn't earn his place on the field, pulling his weight for his team, then we're perfectly fine getting him dressed, on time for his early games (they're all early this season) &amp; him sitting the bench the whole time..... His attitude is FAR more important to us. We did have a preference of coach (b/c he is a really good coach, like FNL Coach Taylor good, and almost always has a winning team), but when that didn't happen my first thought was "Good, G will learn to lose this season," which to us is just as important in the equation of success as winning.</p> <p>It's sad that because of our focus on character G and the rest of our kids may not get the same opportunities as those that are willing to lie &amp; cheat, but that's okay with us and we'll *always* be sure to commend our children on doing the right thing regardless of what enticing benefit they let go of.</p> <p>@Mrsbells: This was always a big thing for me, even when we did celebrate Christmas, and in the end I'm glad I didn't default to what is commonly accepted. Because of my honesty with G, we've been able to keep an open dialogue and help G navigate his relationship with his dad when his dad would lie to him to cover up his very major, hurtful, character flaws. Even when G was pre-school age (and still) he would bring questions to me/us about things and after we respond say "I know that's right because you don't lie to me mommy... and if you don't know you tell me". lol I hope that we can keep that kind dialogue with all of our kids! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-will-you-teach-your-kids-the-importance-of-honesty#post-1141120 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 16:25:08 +0000 Mrsbells 1141120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also plan to teach this by example. Hence my reluctance to tell them that santa, the easter bunny or the tooth fairy are real because in the end they will feel lied to </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-will-you-teach-your-kids-the-importance-of-honesty#post-1141060 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 15:45:36 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1141060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>BY EXAMPLE. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-will-you-teach-your-kids-the-importance-of-honesty#post-1141058 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 15:44:57 +0000 Mae 1141058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sarac: Agree. </p> <p>I spend a lot of time thinking about the "right thing" to do, not because I HAVE to I guess, but because I think I owe it to myself to be the best person I can be. I think that modeling that for my child and talking about why we sometimes have to do difficult things for the sake of ethics and honesty--- and how good it makes us feel after we know we did the best we could do-- is the most I can really do there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-will-you-teach-your-kids-the-importance-of-honesty#post-1140989 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 15:22:09 +0000 sarac 1140989@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll teach them honesty by modeling it myself. I read that article and thought HELL NO. Hell no would I ever put myself in a situation like that - where those were my choices. I strive to live my life in a way that making ethical, honest choices is easy and enjoyable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-will-you-teach-your-kids-the-importance-of-honesty#post-1140924 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 15:03:08 +0000 runsyellowlites 1140924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have time to read the whole article atm, but I can say right off that I would either a. keep my kid up or b. they would miss the test. I couldn't pretend I didn't see something. lol Just skimming the first page, I'm sad that anyone would act like that or do those things. ugh</p> <p>Aside from that, I think a big thing for us is that we are always honest with G &amp; he knows this. I've never had an account where G heard something from someone/where else and came back saying "Mom you told me this ____ and that isn't right, you lied to me". We really try to make a family structure that we need each other and trust is part of that, if we can't trust each other then we can't help each other. More than "not telling lies" we focus on the benefits of being transparent &amp; honest with each other.</p> <p>G has been caught in a few lies... maybe 4 or 5, normally trying to hide that he wasn't playing his DS when he was supposed to be sleeping and a couple times that he read a book that he actually didn't (he loathes reading). We've always held strict punishment for lying based on Rev 21:8 so definitely more that "God is watching". lol</p> <p>I do wonder how P and our other kids will be... G is alot like me in being "honest to a fault". haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-will-you-teach-your-kids-the-importance-of-honesty#post-1140917 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 14:59:54 +0000 doodlepoodle 1140917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Guilt? Start crying? ;-) jk I have NO ideas but will be actively following this thread!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-will-you-teach-your-kids-the-importance-of-honesty#post-1140900 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 14:51:54 +0000 Freckles 1140900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was reading this the other day <a href="http://nymag.com/news/features/ethical-parenting-2013-10/" rel="nofollow">http://nymag.com/news/features/ethical-parenting-2013-10/</a> and it made me wonder how i'm going to teach my children to be honest and ethical. I don't think, "God is watching" is the best method, as it meant nothing to me as a child.</p> <p>Have you guys thought about this? </p>