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Hellobee Boards Topic: How would you do time outs at 18 months? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 20:05:48 +0000 Jenn23 on "How would you do time outs at 18 months?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-do-time-outs-at-18-months#post-1639864 Fri, 16 May 2014 12:28:43 +0000 Jenn23 1639864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @sorrycharlie: That's good to hear. So many recommended that book to me and I saw the great reviews, so I'm working my way through it. Seems simple and makes total sense, so hopefully it'll work wonders for us, too! :) sorrycharlie on "How would you do time outs at 18 months?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-do-time-outs-at-18-months#post-1639817 Fri, 16 May 2014 12:19:33 +0000 sorrycharlie 1639817@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Jenn23: magic 123 worked WONDERS for my younger sister! she was 4, but still. Jenn23 on "How would you do time outs at 18 months?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-do-time-outs-at-18-months#post-1639807 Fri, 16 May 2014 12:16:23 +0000 Jenn23 1639807@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @travelgirl1: I'm reading the Magic 123 book currently and like the time-out method in the book. You basically count to three slowly, by holding up a finger, and the idea is they eventually learn that if they don't stop by "3", they get a time-out. I will start doing that soon. The book says age 2 and up, so I'm thinking I'll wait a few months to implement that. But it's really a good book and I highly recommend it! travelgirl1 on "How would you do time outs at 18 months?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-do-time-outs-at-18-months#post-1638463 Thu, 15 May 2014 21:02:36 +0000 travelgirl1 1638463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @mamimami: @lamariniere: @Mamaof2: @LuLu Mom: @MUI831: @shinymama: @Weagle: Thanks, everyone! All useful advice. @kml636: @Jenn23: It's so hard, isn't it? I was talking to our family doctor about this today though and she said time outs worked well for her sons. She said a happy consequence was that they learned how to count from being in timeout so much, lol :silly: Weagle on "How would you do time outs at 18 months?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-do-time-outs-at-18-months#post-1636982 Thu, 15 May 2014 14:23:11 +0000 Weagle 1636982@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We tried the step/stool/rug method, and it was just a game. Discipline is challenging enough, and I have no desire to actually have to restrain my child to make her sit still. Or any desire to constantly take her back to her spot. That takes longer than the time out should last, and again, is fun for her. LO obviously doesn't want to be contained in the crib when it's not time to sleep. Therefore, it's a punishment for her to be there. We do the same amount of time as we would any other way (2 minutes), so there's not much time for her to do anything but be upset. Jenn23 on "How would you do time outs at 18 months?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-do-time-outs-at-18-months#post-1636938 Thu, 15 May 2014 14:13:22 +0000 Jenn23 1636938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have no advice, just hoping to figure this out for my 19 mo. old son, too. He's been hitting (no biting) and I've implemented time-out's on the sofa, but so far he thinks it is fun. Just plays with the fabric, looks around, sometimes smiles (I look out the corner of my eye). I really do think he just doesn't get it yet. But I feel your frustration!! I, too, don't want to use the crib for any possible negative associations. So I'm not really sure where to put him. shinymama on "How would you do time outs at 18 months?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-do-time-outs-at-18-months#post-1636606 Thu, 15 May 2014 13:07:44 +0000 shinymama 1636606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @travelgirl1: We use first step, but since that's not an option for you, what about a rug just for timeouts? {a la Kate Gosselin} Mommy Finger on "How would you do time outs at 18 months?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-do-time-outs-at-18-months#post-1636590 Thu, 15 May 2014 13:04:07 +0000 Mommy Finger 1636590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We've been lucky so far in that DS only hits DH or me. Do we sternly say that we don't hit and then put him down and ignore him for a short amount of time. I don't know if he gets it yet but hoping it clicks in soon. LuLu Mom on "How would you do time outs at 18 months?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-do-time-outs-at-18-months#post-1635462 Thu, 15 May 2014 08:49:32 +0000 LuLu Mom 1635462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We sit her in a chair and if she gets up we say "no you are in timeout" and put her back in the chair. She gets very upset but it usually works. We also explain and hug after the timeout is over. It's hit and miss, we usually only do it if she's being aggressive (hits/kicks/ect.) Mamaof2 on "How would you do time outs at 18 months?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-do-time-outs-at-18-months#post-1635173 Thu, 15 May 2014 07:25:47 +0000 Mamaof2 1635173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We didn't do time outs at that age but I found ignoring worked wonders! When my LO did something I didn't like I would sternly tell them "We don't hit" or "we don't bite" or " we don't throw toys" and then get up and walk away - If there is another friend/sibling there take that person with you so the child is left alone. No kid wants to be alone! kml636 on "How would you do time outs at 18 months?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-do-time-outs-at-18-months#post-1635088 Thu, 15 May 2014 06:40:57 +0000 kml636 1635088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have no advice, just commiserating. L is a handful and although my dr told me I could do timeouts I just don't think she can understand. I'm going to start to count to three and then put her by herself maybe??? lamariniere on "How would you do time outs at 18 months?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-do-time-outs-at-18-months#post-1634965 Wed, 14 May 2014 23:39:36 +0000 lamariniere 1634965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @locavore_mama: I use the same method. At that age, DS would have to sit or stand in the corner for 30 seconds to 1 minute. One of us would stand behind him to keep him there. Sitting in the corner has always worked very well for us. He's now 3 and I can tell him to go to the corner when he's misbehaving and he will, crying, and he will stay until we come get him. We always explain why he had to go to the corner when the time is up. mamimami on "How would you do time outs at 18 months?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-do-time-outs-at-18-months#post-1634939 Wed, 14 May 2014 22:53:08 +0000 mamimami 1634939@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I was going to say what @loveisstrange said. You have to keep taking her back very sternly and she will get it. I give my 18 mo one-minute time outs on a rug, although I have the advantage that she has seen her older brother on the rug and she knew exactly what that was about. travelgirl1 on "How would you do time outs at 18 months?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-do-time-outs-at-18-months#post-1634902 Wed, 14 May 2014 22:07:13 +0000 travelgirl1 1634902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @scg00387: Thanks :) @loveisstrange: That's really helpful, thank you. I was just on the Super Nanny website actually, I could do with her paying me a house call right now! immabeetoo on "How would you do time outs at 18 months?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-do-time-outs-at-18-months#post-1634883 Wed, 14 May 2014 21:43:57 +0000 immabeetoo 1634883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @travelgirl1: I hope it helps!! loveisstrange on "How would you do time outs at 18 months?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-do-time-outs-at-18-months#post-1634868 Wed, 14 May 2014 21:28:30 +0000 loveisstrange 1634868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We honestly just use a chair. The general rule is 1 minute for every year old the child is. We started around 18 months and would do 1 minute. We sat her in a chair away from but facing the wall and if she got us, we'd go and put her back in it without saying a word to her. At the end, we'd go do the "explain and hug it out" thing. Basically, the Super Nanny method. We've only had to do it about 4 times in the last 7 months. 3 times for hitting and once because she was throwing the mother of all bratty tantrums. The first time was a disaster, the others all went pretty well. travelgirl1 on "How would you do time outs at 18 months?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-do-time-outs-at-18-months#post-1634858 Wed, 14 May 2014 21:23:54 +0000 travelgirl1 1634858@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @scg00387: Yes, I've heard that before. To be honest though we are getting desperate and nothing else is working so this is our next step. regberadaisy on "How would you do time outs at 18 months?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-do-time-outs-at-18-months#post-1634852 Wed, 14 May 2014 21:21:18 +0000 regberadaisy 1634852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @travelgirl1: when we just started only about 30 seconds ish then to a minute. Half the time she always laughs at the beginning to and tries to run away. But once we get her and put her back and she realizes we mean business she stops and starts "crying". It took quite a few times but it finally clicked for her. We reserve bedroom time outs for when she's being really bad and doesn't listen repeatedly! immabeetoo on "How would you do time outs at 18 months?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-do-time-outs-at-18-months#post-1634845 Wed, 14 May 2014 21:18:44 +0000 immabeetoo 1634845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @travelgirl1: FWIW our pedi said time-outs don't "click" cognitively until closer to two. my mama friend with an older son has a specific chair in the corner, if that is a helpful suggestion! travelgirl1 on "How would you do time outs at 18 months?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-do-time-outs-at-18-months#post-1634705 Wed, 14 May 2014 20:07:47 +0000 travelgirl1 1634705@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @sandy: We have a little stool, maybe that would work, thanks! travelgirl1 on "How would you do time outs at 18 months?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-do-time-outs-at-18-months#post-1634702 Wed, 14 May 2014 20:07:02 +0000 travelgirl1 1634702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @winniebee: this is one of the problems, when I tell her off she laughs at me!!! travelgirl1 on "How would you do time outs at 18 months?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-do-time-outs-at-18-months#post-1634699 Wed, 14 May 2014 20:06:01 +0000 travelgirl1 1634699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. High Heels: No, we're in an apartment or a naughty step would have been perfect! @daniellemybelle: She can climb out of a p&p in seconds lol. I would like to use natural consequences but it's not just me she's biting, it's her bff too, who she is with all day mon to fri. It's got to the point where we have to come down harder on her and Taking toys away etc isn't working. @locavore_mama: I like this idea à lot! How long do you do it for each time? @Weagle: @matador84: She hates her crib and we're in the middle of sleep regression (plus unless she's wearing a sleep sack she can climb out of it) so I feel using it as punishment would make bedtimes worse in our case but otherwise I agree it would be a sensible solution. winniebee on "How would you do time outs at 18 months?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-do-time-outs-at-18-months#post-1634694 Wed, 14 May 2014 20:03:15 +0000 winniebee 1634694@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We put him in his bedroom and shut the door for one minute. It's the only thing that evoked tears/ a negative response rather than laughter. sandy on "How would you do time outs at 18 months?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-do-time-outs-at-18-months#post-1634688 Wed, 14 May 2014 20:00:42 +0000 sandy 1634688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ At that age we either did a little bench in our front entry or the bottom step of our stairs. matador84 on "How would you do time outs at 18 months?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-do-time-outs-at-18-months#post-1634668 Wed, 14 May 2014 19:52:59 +0000 matador84 1634668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We use the crib without problem too. The most important thing for me is that it is away from everything and safe-where he can't escape. Weagle on "How would you do time outs at 18 months?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-do-time-outs-at-18-months#post-1634656 Wed, 14 May 2014 19:48:00 +0000 Weagle 1634656@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We use the crib. She still goes to sleep without a peep. At that age she should be able to differentiate between discipline and sleep time. regberadaisy on "How would you do time outs at 18 months?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-do-time-outs-at-18-months#post-1634655 Wed, 14 May 2014 19:47:48 +0000 regberadaisy 1634655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ At that age I stood her facing the corner of a room. I would stand or sit right behind her but not ON me. If she tried to leave I would turn her back around towards the corner. daniellemybelle on "How would you do time outs at 18 months?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-do-time-outs-at-18-months#post-1634646 Wed, 14 May 2014 19:44:52 +0000 daniellemybelle 1634646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Do you have a PnP you no longer use? That could contain her. It might be easier to just use natural consequences though? No real experience with this but I'm thinking if she bites randomly when she was playing outside, "Now we have to go inside because we can only do fun things like play outside if we don't bite" ??? Mrs. High Heels on "How would you do time outs at 18 months?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-do-time-outs-at-18-months#post-1634644 Wed, 14 May 2014 19:40:01 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1634644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Do you have stairs at home? I used to put DD on the stairs for 45 sec-1 min long at that age. travelgirl1 on "How would you do time outs at 18 months?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-do-time-outs-at-18-months#post-1634628 Wed, 14 May 2014 19:33:48 +0000 travelgirl1 1634628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My LO (18 months) is biting and the usual tactics (redirection, telling her "no") aren't working. Sometimes there is a reason for it, like a fight over a toy, but sometimes there is literarally no trigger at all - she just bites. I'm trying to do timeouts but it's hard to get her to stay put so I do it with her sat on my knee, but it's not ideal because it means she gets attention from me, which rewards her. I'd like to avoid crib and highchair for timeouts as I don't want negative associations with bedtime and meals. WWYD? Where should I put her for timeouts? ETA: My daughter is a feisty one and can climb out of cribs, p&ps etc.... So they probably wouldn't work