https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 03 Jul 2026 01:09:00 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-handle-this#post-692151 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 15:19:10 +0000 blackbird 692151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm confused....you said it scares you but your kid was laughing and smiling when he did it?.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-handle-this#post-692112 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 15:09:09 +0000 Rescuemom10 692112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just talk to the caregiver at drop off. I personally dont think I would talk to the agency because that might be more upsetting to the caregiver that you could not just talk to her about it and she may feel like now she looks "bad" that the agency got involved when a simple FYI like Mrs. Lemon-Lime said in her last little bit.<br /> I would go that route seeing like it sounds you guys get along so well and it seems like a fairly personable relationship. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-handle-this#post-691841 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 13:49:19 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 691841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can see why speaking up is a dilemma. Clearly the man doesn't mean any harm, but you find his "play" rough. So do I, to me it feels like teasing. The caregiver under your employment is the wife and the concern should definitely be addressed with her. Since you don't like confrontation, could you go back to the agency and ask them to address the issue? </p> <p>If it were me, I would bring up the concern during a drop off. I know Jim means well, but I don't like it when he does X with my LO. I find the game to be startling and scary. I do not want my LO played with in that manner. Will you pass this along to Jim or should I? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-handle-this#post-691736 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 13:07:56 +0000 Periwinkle 691736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have been so incredibly fortunate with our childcare situation so far. We worked with an agency and LO is watched by a woman who lives about 5 minutes from our house and so far, he is the only child there. </p> <p>She is extremely loving and is always telling me how "attached" she and her family are to him. I can tell how much they care for him and, for us, this is a better alternative right now to a daycare center.</p> <p>My concern (not sure if it should be) is that her husband, who also seems to love our son and plays with him a lot, does this very strange thing , from my perspective, with LO. He often works from home and is usually there when I come to pick LO at the end of the day. In playing with our son, he tries to get a reaction by pushing his hand very close to LO's face quickly and then stopping short to try to "scare" the baby. He does it when I am there and it actually frightens me, so I can't imagine that it does not frighten LO. LO usually smiles and laughs, but when I saw the husband do this last night, it made me extremely angry and sad. I said "I think you're scaring him" and the husband said that he was "just playing." </p> <p>I know I should have spoken up more but I did not, and now I am not sure how to handle my discomfort with this. I would like to bring it up to the caregiver, but I am nervous that I will offend her and that she will think I am doubting her care for LO. I know that my comfort and LO's safety and well-being are the only important things here, but I feel like I need to tread lightly. I tend not to confront people and just assume that things will get better, but with LO involved, I just can't do that.</p> <p>What would you do? </p>