https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 08:56:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-handle-this-3#post-2192451 Thu, 28 May 2015 17:17:05 +0000 runnerd 2192451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well I think we are 99% sure we are turning our 2 week notice in. After talking to several friends, and the 'bee, I honestly don't even want to take him tomorrow. We have felt pretty neutral to dissatisfied about this caretaker for a month or so, and this was definitely the breaking point. Still going to have to have the awkward conversation tomorrow about the feeding issue. :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-handle-this-3#post-2192406 Thu, 28 May 2015 16:31:51 +0000 Greentea 2192406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: I'm sorry! I would be upset too. I know everyone has there own approach, but that certainly wouldn't be mine, nor would it be the one I'd want his teacher or caregiver to take. I would probably talk to the director. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-handle-this-3#post-2192396 Thu, 28 May 2015 16:25:43 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 2192396@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: I'm sorry. I agree with everyone else. The repercussions of negative association with feeding can have lasting effects. I would say that person could not feed my child anymore! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-handle-this-3#post-2192327 Thu, 28 May 2015 15:52:33 +0000 CakeLady 2192327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely say something and I would definitely say something! I'd tell them how I want them to feed him and what to do if he gets upset/doesn't want to eat (end the meal, not force it.) I'd also ask them never to force him to eat.</p> <p>Unless your LO loves it there, I'd probably also think about switching daycares. </p> <p>I've had some issues with our daycare and feeding (also naps) - but more around routines. I wrote out a schedule with specific instructions for them and they have been much better about it. I did think about moving DS, but he really loves it, and is doing really well otherwise so I decided not to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-handle-this-3#post-2192307 Thu, 28 May 2015 15:39:41 +0000 Bubbles 2192307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm really sorry. I have no advice about how to approach the daycare, but I just wanted to say you are not being unreasonable or overreacting. I would have been beyond furious in your position :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-handle-this-3#post-2192169 Thu, 28 May 2015 14:24:49 +0000 mediagirl 2192169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be so upset. I'm so sorry that is happening. I'm glad you caught them in the act. I honestly would change daycares if I could. I changed daycares a couple of times with my lo for various reasons. While the change is hard, it is easier on the lo when they are younger. I'm so, so sorry you're going through this. I would have been SO upset to see that. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-handle-this-3#post-2192165 Thu, 28 May 2015 14:22:19 +0000 runnerd 2192165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamaof2: the funny thing is this morning we called and scheduled a tour for one next week before this happened. So after seeing that at lunch, I scheduled a second tour as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-handle-this-3#post-2192164 Thu, 28 May 2015 14:22:17 +0000 coopsmama 2192164@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: Oh goodness, no. F is such a healthy looking little boy. I really doubt his solid intake is all that important right now! C was always really into solids (from 4 months plus) but M has been SO different -- just now getting into solids at each meal and just now upping her intake. She just had no interest and I had no reason to push her. She's controlled the pace all along and I think there's nothing wrong with that. You're following your instincts and doing the right thing to let him lead. </p> <p>I hope you are able to come to peace about the situation somehow - even if it means pulling him and finding a new daycare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-handle-this-3#post-2192160 Thu, 28 May 2015 14:19:45 +0000 Mamaof2 2192160@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: any chance you could find a new DCP? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-handle-this-3#post-2192158 Thu, 28 May 2015 14:18:38 +0000 runnerd 2192158@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for the reassurance. I tried to convince myself well maybe I'm just not being strict enough about solids at home, but that doesn't really matter if I want them to do it differently. </p> <p>I'm just back at work nearly in tears over it because I've already been having major anxiety about sending him to daycare, and crunching numbers to try to pull off going part-time in the next year to have more time with him. It just makes me so sad to not have control of his care 40 hours a week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-handle-this-3#post-2192144 Thu, 28 May 2015 14:13:40 +0000 coopsmama 2192144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be livid. That's definitely something to have a conversation about -- and if the teacher blows you off, go to the director. Solids foods are at YOUR discretion as the parent, not the teachers. </p> <p>I also just think it's kind of sick that they would hold his arms down to make him eat. I think that's inappropriate at any age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-handle-this-3#post-2192141 Thu, 28 May 2015 14:11:06 +0000 Mamaof2 2192141@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely think you need to talk to the teacher 1st (not director) and just tell her</p> <p> "hey, I noticed yesterday when I was here that you were holding his hands down when he eats. Can you pls not do that? I am totally fine if he doesn't eat at all. I want eating to be fun and he didn't look very happy yesterday" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-handle-this-3#post-2192138 Thu, 28 May 2015 14:09:11 +0000 Truth Bombs 2192138@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be pissed that this is going to make it even more difficult for him to get on board with solids. Prior to age 1, solid food is not a necessity. I would have a talk with the teacher directly. Rather than being critcal phrase it as "This is how we do it at home.." and give her your reasons WHY you want it done that way at school as well. It's going to make the relationship even worse if you go over her head because her boss will have to address it with her and then she'll know you complained about her without talking to her.</p> <p>Do you have video access? We can see our LO at any time so we could keep an eye out to make sure the teacher is following instructions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-handle-this-3#post-2192137 Thu, 28 May 2015 14:08:59 +0000 cookiemomster 2192137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's really unacceptable. Poor F :sad: I have a really hard time with confrontation too but I feel like it's important that you address she crossed a line holding his hands down. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-handle-this-3#post-2192130 Thu, 28 May 2015 14:04:44 +0000 runnerd 2192130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: I just made small talk to him like nothing was wrong, but I was actually trying hard to hide my anxiety. I don't know why I'm too scared to say something! I feel like she knew it wasn't a good thing for me to see because she started talking a lot like making excuses and loving on him more than I usually see her do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-handle-this-3#post-2192124 Thu, 28 May 2015 14:03:41 +0000 rachiecakes 2192124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>ugh! My high school friend was just saying messaging me yesterday about her daycare center - they're forcing solids on her 1 year old to the point where her kid has a fear of solid food now.<br /> I would absolutely talk to them about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-handle-this-3#post-2192122 Thu, 28 May 2015 14:02:14 +0000 regberadaisy 2192122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: she was holding his hands down?! I would be infuriated! She is basically force feeding him. I Would definitely say something. How did you respond?</p> <p>He is just starting with food and his experience with it should not be so force ful, negative and dramatic. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-handle-this-3#post-2192118 Thu, 28 May 2015 14:00:41 +0000 runnerd 2192118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@avivoca: I'm so non-confrontational I am scared of souring relationship or maybe things with the person who takes care of him all day. :/ having to remind myself that being happy with his care is more important than mom's social anxiety! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-handle-this-3#post-2192074 Thu, 28 May 2015 13:48:39 +0000 avivoca 2192074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's kind of some of the teacher's handled it at our center too, and I wouldn't have known unless my husband wasn't there one day. It's not cool at all. I'd definitely say something to the director. After all, you are paying them to watch your child and if you don't like the treatment, you can say something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-handle-this-3#post-2192070 Thu, 28 May 2015 13:46:12 +0000 runnerd 2192070@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lately we haven't been very pleased with our daycare. LO is 10 months old. LO's current teacher isn't as upbeat as his last one was, and only seems to report the negatives of the day (didn't nap well, fussy with food, etc). </p> <p>Today we picked him up for lunch and my Mama Bear instincts kicked in. She was feeding him his baby food, and holding his hands down, forcing the spoon in his mouth, and he was crying and spitting it back out. He has not been a very great solids eater, and doesn't eat a ton of it still for us at home, but almost every day at daycare the notes say he ate it all. Now I see why. I've always taken a don't force it, positive experience approach with solids. Would you be upset? Would you talk to her directly or go to the director?</p> <p>I didn't like seeing him cry and having a negative experience. I'm still upset, and not thinking very clearly about it right now. </p>