https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 26 Apr 2026 02:26:56 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-handle-this-behavior-1#post-2808161 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 21:27:09 +0000 Portboston 2808161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Turtle: I love the idea of offering a hug instead of screaming. I’ll have to try it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-handle-this-behavior-1#post-2808124 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 18:08:23 +0000 Dahlia 2808124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Following. We don't have the scream with our 2.5 year old, but she absolutely melts down in tears if we reprimand her, even gently. We usually ask if she wants a hug (she always does) and then talk about how she is sad/disappointed/frustrated whatever it is. I think it's starting to help because she'll tell us her dolls are sad/frustrated/disappointed whatever, but she still cries when she thinks she's in trouble or about to be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-handle-this-behavior-1#post-2808090 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 14:25:45 +0000 Mrs. Turtle 2808090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Portboston: We have a very similar behavior right now at 28 months. Mostly we ignore the scream when we can and just talk her through the emotion as we would otherwise. In the moment, suggesting alternative behaviors seems kind of pointless because she is dysregulated. In calmer moments, we can talk about ways to handle being mad, but at this age it doesn't always transfer well to the actual moment when she's being reprimanded. One thing I've found that doesn't address the screaming but sometimes avoids it is making sure I always frame things in a positive way. "It makes me SO happy when you are a good listener" or something like that. </p> <p>Other things that work, sometimes, are hitting a pillow, a deep squeeze kind of hug (we've actually started asking her if she needs a hug in those moments and half the time it diffuses it-occasionally she even asks for a hug when she's mad now instead of screaming/hitting/biting/tantruming), and, believe it or not, an electric toothbrush. She LOVES the sensory input from the toothbrush and it basically puts her in a trance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-handle-this-behavior-1#post-2808089 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 14:19:04 +0000 Portboston 2808089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@justjules: Thanks for the reassurance! Its so hard to navigate a little persons emotions.<br /> We try to use the Daniel Tiger song ("when you feel so mad that you wanna roar...") that sometimes helps but your point about it being somewhat developmental is probably correct. Its such a tough age. I will start giving him an alternate behavior to try. A few days ago he resorted to slapping the wall instead of screaming, which I didn't mind but I know that can hurt! :silly: and I definitely don't want that to turn into punching the wall!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-handle-this-behavior-1#post-2808086 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 14:11:58 +0000 justjules 2808086@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That’s great that your helping him identity his emotion (mad, frustrated etc) I think that is a huge first step. A large part might be the developmental stage but something else you could add to what you are already doing is give him an alternative behavior. So when you see him getting mad, have him take four deep breaths, or count to ten, or walk away from the situation or hug a special pillow really hard to get some physical energy out. whatever you think might work for him. make it a habit so he knows when I’m feeling (blank) I can do (blank) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-handle-this-behavior-1#post-2808085 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 14:05:05 +0000 Portboston 2808085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 2.5 year old son HATES getting reprimanded. (Im like this as well so I can identify with him). Lately, whenever we ask him to stop doing something (i.e. throwing a car, being less then gentle with the dogs, etc) he lets out a high pitched scream. Its a quick one but its clear that he is overwhelmed and doesn't know how to handle his emotions. Its not even that he is "in trouble" and we're definitely not raising our voices at him, just saying "hey LO please don't throw your car, you might break it or hurt someone". Sometimes I can catch him before he does it and I say "don't scream, you're not in trouble, we're just asking you not to do that", which causes him to promptly burst into tears. I take the time to talk to him, "are you feeling frustrated?" or "I know its hard not to do something you really want to do" etc.<br /> I really want to give him the tools to deal with whatever he is feeling but I don't know how! Anyone have any suggestions? </p>