https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 07:33:57 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-young-is-too-young#post-853362 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 05:57:38 +0000 Cherrybee 853362@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 32 and I still feel like a teenager most of the time!!! I still leave laundry on my bedroom floor and eat Mcdonalds far too much!</p> <p>We decided to start TTC when we were both 31. After years and years of thinking I would never want children (I loved my life just as it was, thank you) I suddenly felt really, really... not ready, exactly.... but willing! @rattles: 's friend was right!! I suddenly felt like I had all this love to give - there was a child shaped gap in my life, I suddenly had room in my life for a baby!</p> <p>If you don't feel like that yet - that's fine! There is plenty of time at 26, honestly! But I warn you - hang around on Hellobee and you will have major baby fever in a few weeks, trust me!!! HB is lethal for that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-young-is-too-young#post-853324 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 05:01:13 +0000 lamariniere 853324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do what you feel is right, I don't think you are too young. Too young to me would be maybe under 22-23. </p> <p>If it were up to me, I would have had both kids before 30. However, I didn't meet DH until I was 28 and our first was born just after I turned 30. I will have just turned 33 when #2 is born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-young-is-too-young#post-853320 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 04:55:13 +0000 TheSwissWifeStyle 853320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think everyone's diff, but here's my 2 cents. We didn't get started TTC til I was 31 I think. I'm 33 now (in a few weeks) and still nothing. So I kinda wish it had been possible to start at an earlier age. (It wouldn't have really been possible b/c we didn't get married til I was 30.) </p> <p>Do what seems right for you, but I don't think 26 is "too young." But if you're just not feeling ready, that's a whole diff. thing. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-young-is-too-young#post-853270 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 02:45:52 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 853270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't have my first until 38 and I still felt very young. You need to do what is right for you, but also don't feel pushed if YOU aren't ready to take on the responsibility. At your age, you really do have the luxury of time if you need it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-young-is-too-young#post-853262 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 02:31:15 +0000 Mrs Hedgehog 853262@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think it is necessarily a number but more of a maturity level and a readiness that extends way beyond just age. I got pregnant at 23 and LO will be here while I am 24. I am younger than you. But for us, it was the right time for both of us. We decided we were ready and had all of our goals before TTC met. If you aren't ready, then you aren't ready. Age has nothing to do with that and obviously I don't think you are too young. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-young-is-too-young#post-853248 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 02:03:16 +0000 sunny 853248@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rattles: Ooh I really like that!</p> <p>I never felt ready to TTC. I had arbitrarily marked 30 as the year I should start having children. As my 30th birthday rolled around I still didn't feel ready. My DH convinced me by saying that I would probably never truly feel ready and that I would just need to just take that leap of faith. I'm so glad I did! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-young-is-too-young#post-853247 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 01:59:44 +0000 Ree723 853247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: @Penny Lane: Lol, I know, I was only 21 or so when I learned that in one of my mental health courses; I was so disappointed! Sadly, there does not seem to be a magical switch that flips at 25, but now, 8 years on, I can look back and definitely see a change in mindset and decision making that gradually occurred around that time! </p> <p>To be clear though, I didn't mean to suggest that anyone under 25 is not an adult or incapable of making adult decisions, I was solely providing a somewhat tongue in cheek response to the OP's husband's statement that they're no longer young! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-young-is-too-young#post-853125 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 00:08:53 +0000 rattles 853125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When pondering whether I was really ready to be a mom, a friend of mine summed it up well by saying, " you don't have to be ready - you just have to be willing." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-young-is-too-young#post-853095 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 23:42:00 +0000 Penny Lane 853095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ree723: aww man! i'm still a couple of years away from a full brain!? ripped off!!</p> <p>i was pregnant at 22. not long after i turn 24 we'll have 2 kids. DH is 11 years older than me</p> <p>there is no too young, it's about you and your dh being mentally ready. have you asked him why he's so set on having a baby rightthisverysecond? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-young-is-too-young#post-853033 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 22:45:40 +0000 jhd 853033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We got married when we were 27 &amp; 28. We always planned to start TTC by the time my husband turned 30...shortly before our 2 year anniversary. But he had some health problems and we just didn't feel ready. In the grand scheme of things I don't think it will matter that we waited an extra year to begin TTC. We both feel ready now. Like everyone else has said, it's not really about age but both of you feeling ready. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-young-is-too-young#post-853007 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 22:26:29 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 853007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ree723: wahoo!! I'll have a full brain in about 2 weeks! I wonder if life will be different? ;) I'll still need glasses but maybe I'll be better at driving?</p> <p>I'm 24- I don't think age should be the deciding factor. It is a feeling of readiness. Also, it should be at a point where you're ready financially and physically and when you have the time to devote to it. If you still want to travel the world and sleep in until 2pm: then, get that out of your system now. Ya know? I never had those urges. I was ready....age was a factor to me. My husband is 31 though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-young-is-too-young#post-852980 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 22:09:04 +0000 Boogs 852980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had DS at 27 and that felt like a good age for me. I definitely would have felt too young anywhere from 18-22, or younger than that even but that's just me. I was busy trying to finish up school so I personally didn't feel like I was old enough until I reached that goal I set for myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-young-is-too-young#post-852835 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 20:52:42 +0000 heffalump 852835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think there's a special age. I would have loved to start earlier (I was 28 when I had lo) but now at 30 I still have friends that aren't ready. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-young-is-too-young#post-852819 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 20:50:10 +0000 Arden 852819@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think there is a "right age". I have many friends who had their first child in their 30's or even 40's and are happy with that decision and loving it.<br /> I also have plenty of friends in their early 20's who are also loving their decision - including me! DH and I are 22 and we had a (planned) baby two months ago. I don't think we are too young, I think it was perfect timing for us. </p> <p>I know most 22 year olds aren't ready, but that doesn't mean none are. Do what feels right and natural for your family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-young-is-too-young#post-852781 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 20:31:35 +0000 aprk 852781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 30 and I feel young - we definitely wanted to and were ready to have a baby but it's sort of crazy to think of ourselves as adults/parents. It's not so much age that matters here, it's your attitude and desire. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-young-is-too-young#post-852685 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 19:50:48 +0000 Ree723 852685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're not young anymore?!?!? Does he know that the brain does not finish developing until the age of 25? By that standard, you have only just finished your development into an adult!</p> <p>You are definitely still young - but too young to have a baby? Well, that's not my call to make, but we'll just say that time is on your side when it comes to biology. In biological terms, you are nowhere near being 'old' for having a baby so don't feel pressured to do so. For me personally, the thought of having a baby at 26 was the scariest thought in the world! I wanted my 20s for me and I'm glad I did it that way, but that's of course not for everyone. If you're not ready, you need to stick to that. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-young-is-too-young#post-852662 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 19:39:19 +0000 MrsStormy 852662@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is exactly how Dh and I were, I was 26 but he was 28. My big hang up was age, I just didn't imagine I would have kids this young, it wasn't that I didn't feel mature enough, or ready, I was just totally hung up on my age. I really think it is a personal decision, and you both have to be TOTALLY on board. Its a huge decision and you don't want to feel pressured. </p> <p>I'm pregnant now, and I'm 27, I still feel young, and DH says the same thing, we aren't that young anymore, but while I feel young, I do know I'm ready, and I'm excited for this next stage in life. Truth be told I could have waited and been just fine, my clock was not ticking, but there were things that made me more inclined to decide this was good timing. We are financially stable, we have good jobs, a good marriage, we are happy, and honestly family is hugely important to me so I was ready to bring someone new into the family. I want my kids to have the chance to know as much of my family as possible, and my parents are getting older, so yeah... those are things that played into our decision.</p> <p>ETA: wow I'm sorry that is so long, also I don't know if it makes any sense! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-young-is-too-young#post-852652 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 19:35:48 +0000 Charm54 852652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 27 (okay, I'll be 28 next week!) and I totally feel that I'm in an in between stage. I am SO ready to become a mom (LO is due in September) but at the same time I still feel so young! I feel really connected to my parents still, enjoy my freedrom, etc. It just seemed like the right time for DH and I so we took the plunge :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-young-is-too-young#post-852649 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 19:35:33 +0000 Bookish 852649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There's really no age at which you may or may not be ready. We are having our first kid at 26 (me) and 31 (DH), and although I definitely feel 'young' (because I am! and so are you!), we are also at the right time in our lives to have a baby. If you don't feel ready, no biggie, just wait a bit :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-young-is-too-young#post-852644 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 19:32:59 +0000 DillonLion 852644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There's no specific age, like PPs have said. If you don't feel ready, that's okay! My DH is the same way in worrying we are getting too old but we are only 25 and 27. We have a 6 month old, but felt totally ready. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-young-is-too-young#post-852636 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 19:30:34 +0000 Bao 852636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's all about how you feel. It's not really an age thing, but a being ready thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-young-is-too-young#post-852600 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 19:17:26 +0000 MrsStar 852600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think in terms of age you're still young! But everyone is different in when they feel ready for the responsibility of a child, I'll definitely be classed as young since I'm currently 21 and had my first baby last year when I was 20. I definitely feel like I'm mature enough since I had to "grow up" at a young age. Being a mum has always been my life goal and even though lo wasn't planned until I was 22/23 I'm happy with the way things turned out. Have you got a personal "ideal" age you want to get pregnant? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-young-is-too-young#post-852596 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 19:16:21 +0000 Smurfette 852596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't have felt ready at that age but if you think you are then I don't think it is to young. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-young-is-too-young#post-852595 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 19:16:04 +0000 immabeetoo 852595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think there's much point in getting hung up on a certain age as a reason to wait or hurry up on having kids. Both partners being on board and financial stability are more important than a number. With that said, we had LO right after I turned 25 (DH is 6 months older) and it was the right time for us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-young-is-too-young#post-852591 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 19:14:46 +0000 luckypenny 852591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was 24 when I got pregnant. However, I feel like I had a lot of life experiences and was ready to settle down. If you're not ready you are still young! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-young-is-too-young#post-852588 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 19:14:05 +0000 mrsjyw 852588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know I felt too young at 26 but I think that's a personal decision. I had ds at 29. And even still I still can't believe I'm a mom sometimes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-young-is-too-young#post-852586 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 19:12:57 +0000 Foodnerd81 852586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While I don't think 26 is 'too young', I also don't think you have any reason to rush either. I was not ready at 26 and our relationship wasn't ready. We are having our first next month and I'm 32, which works for us. </p> <p>But I have used that same argument with DH for various things-- we're not that young anymore! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-young-is-too-young#post-852584 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 19:11:26 +0000 MrsKoala 852584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's a really personal decision and you both have to be on board. I know that I felt too young at 25 and didn't really feel ready until turning 30. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-young-is-too-young#post-852572 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 19:06:10 +0000 Caly 852572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's a very personal decision &amp; everyone feels ready at different ages/points in life. I personally wasn't ready til my late 20's to give up my freedom &amp; selfishness. You have plenty of years ahead of you. We're currently expecting and I'm 32. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-young-is-too-young#post-852568 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 19:04:13 +0000 MamaBehr 852568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say you are still young. I just turned 30 and I'm expecting my third, but most of my friends don't have any kids yet! It certainly changes things (like a lot), so if you are enjoying the life you have, keep enjoying it! You have time :) </p>