https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 09:13:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hr-bees-advice-about-accepting-a-counteroffer-after-resignation#post-1844734 Tue, 02 Sep 2014 08:08:54 +0000 Smurfette 1844734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@keepcalmcarrie: It will be great!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hr-bees-advice-about-accepting-a-counteroffer-after-resignation#post-1844721 Tue, 02 Sep 2014 07:55:39 +0000 keepcalmcarrie 1844721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: Yes, thankfully they're paying. Not sure I could do this otherwise!</p> <p>@Mrs Green Grass: thanks :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hr-bees-advice-about-accepting-a-counteroffer-after-resignation#post-1844576 Mon, 01 Sep 2014 22:31:06 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 1844576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@keepcalmcarrie: oh my goodness! Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hr-bees-advice-about-accepting-a-counteroffer-after-resignation#post-1844563 Mon, 01 Sep 2014 21:58:00 +0000 blackbird 1844563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds like a great opportunity! Is the new company paying to relocate you? Because having movers will be amazing and help you out so much </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hr-bees-advice-about-accepting-a-counteroffer-after-resignation#post-1844561 Mon, 01 Sep 2014 21:55:21 +0000 keepcalmcarrie 1844561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just an update: His current company got somewhat close in their counteroffer, but didn't address the bigger issue of more responsibility or a clearer future career path. Plus, it's too hard to turn down a (still significantly) higher salary. His manager did say that he will be the first to congratulate him and shake his hand if he chooses to leave, so he's parting on good terms. But we're moving. With a toddler. And a pregnancy. And two dogs.</p> <p>And I feel pretty sick about it, but also a little bit excited. I've never done this before, there's so much fear of the unknown, but this is the best decision for our family right now.</p> <p>Thanks again for everyone's input! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hr-bees-advice-about-accepting-a-counteroffer-after-resignation#post-1842004 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 10:59:24 +0000 Mommy Finger 1842004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I'm going to be the one who says something different. I've been told by many people throughout my career and have read several articles stating that you never take a counter offer from your current company. The reasoning behind this is that your current employer now knows that you aren't 100% "loyal" (for lack of a better word) and this may cloud any future promotions/raises that may come along.</p> <p>Obviously there are other factors at play here and I'm not saying that there aren't exceptions but I would take this into consideration. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hr-bees-advice-about-accepting-a-counteroffer-after-resignation#post-1842002 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 10:58:57 +0000 looch 1842002@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: I was just going to say the same thing...sometimes you have to leave and go back to get the increase in salary. There are, at least where I work, global rules about what you can be increased from year to year as well as for counteroffers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hr-bees-advice-about-accepting-a-counteroffer-after-resignation#post-1842001 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 10:57:30 +0000 blackbird 1842001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ours is the same (big company etc)...a feasible option may be to leave and then leverage that management ability to gain a new one at his old company. Most people make the best moves (including salary wise) by leaving and then returning. It's always a risk though but if he doesn't burn his bridges, it's definitely a good one </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hr-bees-advice-about-accepting-a-counteroffer-after-resignation#post-1841965 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 10:33:05 +0000 keepcalmcarrie 1841965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: That's what we're hoping. A promotion to a higher level, even if the salary doesn't quite match the other job, would go a long way. His current company is great, but it's so large and I guess "top heavy" that it takes forever to move up. He's been nominated for leadership seminars and that kind of thing, but he wants actual management experience sooner rather than later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hr-bees-advice-about-accepting-a-counteroffer-after-resignation#post-1841934 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 10:14:24 +0000 blackbird 1841934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe his counter offer can include more vacation time? Or opportunities like management? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hr-bees-advice-about-accepting-a-counteroffer-after-resignation#post-1841878 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 09:58:18 +0000 keepcalmcarrie 1841878@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone for your responses! </p> <p>If they match the pay there is no question, though I'll be sad to say goodbye to that signing bonus (much of which would go toward the move, but still, there would definitely be some left over). But his manager basically told him they cannot match the pay, although they will come as close as possible. I guess we just have to wait and hear the offer.</p> <p>@scg00387: LOL at the night nanny and tropical vacations. It's still not quite that cushy - and yeah, toddler+pregnancy+move sounds awful. Glad you survived! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hr-bees-advice-about-accepting-a-counteroffer-after-resignation#post-1841568 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 23:03:21 +0000 reverie 1841568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If they give him a counter offer that is all close I would definitely stay! There are a lot of perks obviously to staying, and it shows they value him. Did he give specifics about why he was leaving.... 30k is HUGE so hopefully they heard that number somewhere and match it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hr-bees-advice-about-accepting-a-counteroffer-after-resignation#post-1841543 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 22:30:29 +0000 jetsa 1841543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@keepcalmcarrie: I did this. No resentment and that was almost 2 years ago and I was pregnant when I did it. I should say though that I work for an extremely small company and I stayed for the flexibility; my job offered an extremely family friendly offer (Fridays off) and matched the pay. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hr-bees-advice-about-accepting-a-counteroffer-after-resignation#post-1841533 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 22:21:49 +0000 immabeetoo 1841533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would stay! Flexibility is so hard to gauge before you work somewhere. Moving with a toddler and pregnant is terrible, just did it, and I was going stir crazy in the small town we just moved from. Unless that extra money is going to hire you a night nanny and lots of tropical vacations ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hr-bees-advice-about-accepting-a-counteroffer-after-resignation#post-1841532 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 22:21:00 +0000 Vegmama 1841532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sounds like you two have been really open with each other so far. As far as resentment, I think if you two communicate and follow your hearts, you can't go wrong. </p> <p>All of this sounds a bit stressful ... maybe no matter what option you go with, you two should plan a little trip or weekend getaway to celebrate! It'll make you feel like you made the right decision (which I'm sure you will), and give you a reward for so much hard work.</p> <p>Best wishes to you!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hr-bees-advice-about-accepting-a-counteroffer-after-resignation#post-1841527 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 22:16:42 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 1841527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't see any resentment factor. It's almost the opposite...you want someone who it that into you even more. Them showing their value of him with the counter is huge. And this happens all the time. (Not for me as a public school employee...but my husband has lots of experience.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hr-bees-advice-about-accepting-a-counteroffer-after-resignation#post-1841469 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 21:41:48 +0000 keepcalmcarrie 1841469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the hours will be similar. But since he works from home so often at his current job, he often works early or late. That's not a problem for me since he still sees LO (and me) and can help around the house, with bedtime, etc. But the new, smaller company is a more traditional office environment, so I could see late hours being more of a problem there... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hr-bees-advice-about-accepting-a-counteroffer-after-resignation#post-1841454 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 21:28:27 +0000 Anagram 1841454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@keepcalmcarrie: we had a similar counter offer situation when my husband gave his resignation at his previous job-- his boss said he really wanted to keep him and offered to match whatever salary he'd been offered st his current job....but when his boss tried to clear that with HR, they said there was a cap on how much of a raise they could give in one year, so we ended up going with the new job.</p> <p>I will say...since you have a kid and another on the way I think my main concern would be work culture and work stress/hours for your DH. Sometimes at smaller companies, work hours are longer. Will his hours be similar at the new job or will they expect him to work late more often? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hr-bees-advice-about-accepting-a-counteroffer-after-resignation#post-1841432 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 21:06:53 +0000 keepcalmcarrie 1841432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: That's comforting. I've never personally known anyone who did that, so I was nervous about it. His boss said that wouldn't be the case, but still. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hr-bees-advice-about-accepting-a-counteroffer-after-resignation#post-1841428 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 21:05:31 +0000 keepcalmcarrie 1841428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: He'd like both, please! In all seriousness, right now a higher salary is the bigger priority. The COL in the other area is much lower, but nice housing is limited and the public schools aren't nearly as good.</p> <p>NB: I think you live in our hometown too. Which is clearly the greatest place on earth, why would anyone want to leave ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hr-bees-advice-about-accepting-a-counteroffer-after-resignation#post-1841424 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 21:02:08 +0000 Smurfette 1841424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think so. Many people at my company have turned in their notice and ended up staying and are still there.</p> <p>He just needs to think about what is better for him in the long run. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hr-bees-advice-about-accepting-a-counteroffer-after-resignation#post-1841415 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 20:59:01 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1841415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@keepcalmcarrie: what does your husband want? A management position, or higher salary? What is the COL like in the other area? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hr-bees-advice-about-accepting-a-counteroffer-after-resignation#post-1841390 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 20:45:32 +0000 keepcalmcarrie 1841390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll try to keep this brief...</p> <p>My husband currently works for a large company in his field - one of the top 5 in the country. He is on a good career track, makes a very good salary, has a great relationship with his boss, and has work from home privileges whenever he chooses (which is almost all the time, which is really nice). This job is also in our hometown, very close to my family and not too far from his.</p> <p>He was recently recruited by a company that is much smaller (still mid-sized and growing, but like 1/40th of his current company's size). This job would pay 30 percent more in base salary, offers a substantial signing bonus, and has a higher potential annual bonus. It could give him management experience in the near future, which he probably won't get at his current company for quite awhile. It's about 2.5 hours away from any major city (which would be ours). We don't know anyone in the area.</p> <p>We decided to accept, he communicated his acceptance via email a few days ago and just received the HR paperwork yesterday. The hiring manager still hasn't clarified a few things, so although they've asked him to send back his signed offer letter tomorrow by the end of the day, I don't think that's happening (the questions to be answered are somewhat important). This company has been SLOWWW throughout the entire interview/job offer process, which I know is typical, but it's still a little annoying.</p> <p>So he gave his current manager notice today... and they asked if he would be willing to consider a counteroffer. He said yes, I agreed. His boss, and his boss's boss (who both seem to really value him) are taking it to HR tomorrow. I really don't want to list our house for sale and try to move in the second half of pregnancy with a toddler and two dogs to a small town where we don't know anyone. The money is really, really good - so good that I was willing to do it, but if his current company comes close, I would really like to stay. Is that a bad move for DH, though, career-wise? Will there be resentment?</p> <p>This whole process has been really overwhelming and emotionally draining. I'm just ready for it to be over, either way. </p>