https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 01 May 2026 23:31:09 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-left-10-yr-reunion-ceremony-early-to-appease-his-mother#post-2304493 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 18:15:33 +0000 mrsjyw 2304493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get your frustration but at the same time I think it's on your husband to communicate and not appease his mother if that's not how he wants to spend his visit! While I get the overbearing feeling that your mil out out there I really don't think it was all that over the top even though in the moment I'm sure I would've felt just as frustrated as you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-left-10-yr-reunion-ceremony-early-to-appease-his-mother#post-2304357 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 14:42:11 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2304357@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So annoying!! I always have a hard time expressing feelings of frustration - I'm so overly aware of not being rude that I end up just not saying anything. It's so not cool about her not giving you the appropriate amount of time to consider going to that brunch. What's with MILs wanting to plan parties for their grandkids without giving a heads up to the parents first! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-left-10-yr-reunion-ceremony-early-to-appease-his-mother#post-2304229 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 13:24:52 +0000 ShootingStar 2304229@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just a thought - maybe making his mother happy was more important than the ceremonies to your husband? I'm just suggesting it because personally I'm not someone that cared for much for reunions, but if my mom wanted to throw a brunch for her friends to meet her grandchild, I'd be happy to accommodate that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-left-10-yr-reunion-ceremony-early-to-appease-his-mother#post-2304208 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 13:03:23 +0000 NurseDMB 2304208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: yeah, I was going to say the same thing. Sounds like she does these things because she gets away with it and no one ever says anything to her. Your husband needs to speak up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-left-10-yr-reunion-ceremony-early-to-appease-his-mother#post-2304161 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 12:22:00 +0000 Truth Bombs 2304161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While it wasn't cool that your MIL planned that party... she has no reason to change her behavior if your husband continues to just do what she wants and not confront the issue. Is your husband unwilling to stand up to her and say "gee mom, I wish you had checked with us. I'm in the parade and won't be done until X time, so unfortunately, we won't be able to attend the brunch". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-left-10-yr-reunion-ceremony-early-to-appease-his-mother#post-2304123 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 12:02:42 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2304123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That sounds frustrating! Sorry she's being like that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-left-10-yr-reunion-ceremony-early-to-appease-his-mother#post-2304120 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 12:00:37 +0000 alphagam84 2304120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds like some of the crap my MIL has pulled. What is with MIL's acting like that?! Sorry she ruined his and yours weekend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-left-10-yr-reunion-ceremony-early-to-appease-his-mother#post-2303325 Sun, 27 Sep 2015 11:21:09 +0000 youboots 2303325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Boo sorry. Sometimes I feel like the caretaker of my MILs grandchild. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-left-10-yr-reunion-ceremony-early-to-appease-his-mother#post-2303320 Sun, 27 Sep 2015 11:01:57 +0000 Astro Bee 2303320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>MIL vent: My husband had his 10 year university (our country's military college) reunion this weekend, and skipped half the events because of stuff my MIL wanted to do. He went along with it, and I bit my tongue because it's his reunion and not mine. Today was the big ceremony and he left half way through the parade (which he was in, he just walked off), because his mom had invited people over for a brunch to meet our baby. She informed us of this on Friday, after the fact. It absolutely infuriates me that she did this without asking us, given that she knew there were events throughout the whole weekend. Last year was my reunion, and she barely saw us the whole weekend, so it's not like she didn't know that there was a ceremony/parade today. She's just very self-centred and wanted to show off HER grandchild. To cut her some slack, it's possible that she forgot, but she should still have checked with us that we would be available, given that the entire purpose of our visit this weekend was to attend DH's class reunion. No real question on how to handle this, we are on our way to the brunch now, and I will be gracious and polite. I just needed to vent. Thanks for the opportunity to get my frustration out of my system. </p>