https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 27 May 2026 04:20:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-out-of-town-at-36-weeks#post-2173774 Mon, 11 May 2015 05:24:19 +0000 hellobeeboston 2173774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be OK with it as long as my mom or MIL could come and stay just in case. Especially to help with my toddler. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-out-of-town-at-36-weeks#post-2173768 Mon, 11 May 2015 03:57:18 +0000 Mrs. Confetti 2173768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My issue would be less about the "what if I'm in labor" part and more of the "extra solo parenting a toddler while so pregnant". That last month was brutal for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-out-of-town-at-36-weeks#post-2173766 Mon, 11 May 2015 03:37:26 +0000 lamariniere 2173766@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with others about having family or friends around that you can rely on if you need extra help or if you do go into labor. I personally wouldn't be comfortable with my DH being gone at 36 weeks. Our 2nd LO was born unexpectedly early at 37+2. I had had a great pregnancy with no signs that early-ish labor was imminent and LO1 was born during week 39. That said, you just never know how it's going to go, you could go past your due date and the travel wouldn't even be a problem! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-out-of-town-at-36-weeks#post-2173765 Mon, 11 May 2015 03:22:41 +0000 78h2o 2173765@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@OhCaptain: I wouldn't be okay with that either! I was born 5 weeks early, to my mom's total surprise, so I know it's totally possible! I'd be okay with it though if there were lots of short flights available.</p> <p>My sister's first labor was 17 hrs, her second, 3-4 hrs from first contraction to baby. For that reason, I asked my hisband to pass on work travel after 36 weeks. </p> <p>@aprild: 2 days definitely sounds better than 3. I hope baby cooperates! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-out-of-town-at-36-weeks#post-2173749 Sun, 10 May 2015 23:24:31 +0000 ChelseaRose 2173749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aprild: We are facing a similar situation although it is for a longtime friend (12+ years) and not a sibling. My toddler will be 2y10m at the time and it is also to Vegas (5+ hour drive, 1 hour flight from LA). I was concerned because for my last pregnancy I had had blood pressure in the third trimester and had to go to the hospital weekly for monitoring and bloodwork beginning at 34-35 weeks. I was induced and my son was born at 39 weeks. We decided that he will not be going. We have plenty of family and friends nearby, but he also feels that it is not their responsibility to take care of me or our children. Good luck. I really hope it works out and your LO stays put until he's back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-out-of-town-at-36-weeks#post-2173746 Sun, 10 May 2015 23:11:26 +0000 andthewildones 2173746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>for me, it would depend on my own labor history and how the current pregnancy was going. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-out-of-town-at-36-weeks#post-2173706 Sun, 10 May 2015 21:42:49 +0000 blackbird 2173706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aprild: two days sounds like a great compromise :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-out-of-town-at-36-weeks#post-2173674 Sun, 10 May 2015 20:58:05 +0000 cat620 2173674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for the responses. DH has family near us, but I'm not sure how helpful they will be. I talked to him about the trip, and he agreed to go for two nights. I think he worries too about something happening while he's gone and leaving me alone with our son that whole time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-out-of-town-at-36-weeks#post-2172036 Fri, 08 May 2015 12:42:05 +0000 edelweiss 2172036@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i would be okay with 2 nights, not 3. i wouldn't be so concerned with going to labor as i would be with getting tired being that pregnant and running after a toddler! although if you line up someone to help you, that might be less of an issue. it really depends on your comfort level. let us know what you decide! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-out-of-town-at-36-weeks#post-2172024 Fri, 08 May 2015 12:34:21 +0000 youboots 2172024@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I realize a bachelor party is more optional than work travel- but M traveled regularly until week 38, I think he was in NY for a week around 36 weeks. He even stayed 1 1/2 away a few days before she was born. It did not bother me. I agree with others- perhaps task him with finding some extra help to offset that 3rd night ;) Also some good points here about considering how your first labor went into the equation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-out-of-town-at-36-weeks#post-2172015 Fri, 08 May 2015 12:25:48 +0000 Anagram 2172015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband is a very cautious person by nature, so he would have already nixed the trip. He and I are both going to a destination wedding in a couple of weeks when I will be 29 weeks pregnant, and he's nervous enough about that!</p> <p>Also, we have no family nearby (closest is an 8 hour drive), so he just wouldn't feel comfortable leaving me alone with LO knowing she can't be in the hospital room with me if something were to happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-out-of-town-at-36-weeks#post-2172012 Fri, 08 May 2015 12:23:25 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 2172012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aprild: we were in this exact situation, but without the toddler &amp; my DH was the one who was uncomfortable being away at that time for the weekend. He talked them into a closer by weekend getaway Bach party. Good luck... I wouldn't want to deal with that, but also appreciate my sil did when her DH was deployed &amp; unable to get home until the wk she gave birth to lo2! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-out-of-town-at-36-weeks#post-2172010 Fri, 08 May 2015 12:21:56 +0000 looch 2172010@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be okay with it if I knew I had help, my parents live in the same town as us. If they were further away, I wouldn't feel comfortable, because I tend not to have the best luck with timing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-out-of-town-at-36-weeks#post-2171996 Fri, 08 May 2015 12:11:14 +0000 birdofafeather 2171996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be fine with it. I had LO1 at 39w3d and felt great even as my water broke that morning! We were pretty much in the live your life until baby says otherwise mode. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-out-of-town-at-36-weeks#post-2171987 Fri, 08 May 2015 11:59:46 +0000 sapphire 2171987@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Eeks. I wouldn't be cool with this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-out-of-town-at-36-weeks#post-2171986 Fri, 08 May 2015 11:59:35 +0000 PurplePeony 2171986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think @Mrs. Microscope has good questions to ask yourself. Personally, I'd be nervous about it because I went into labor with my LO at 37+3 with no warning signs or anything. And I had a fast labor. So I wouldn't be okay with DH traveling after about 34 weeks if we decide to have another baby, but that's based on my own prior experience. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-out-of-town-at-36-weeks#post-2171985 Fri, 08 May 2015 11:59:02 +0000 MrsADS 2171985@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would not unless I had family close by (don't know if you do). All my family is a plane flight away so I would not want to be alone in case something happened, especially with a toddler. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-out-of-town-at-36-weeks#post-2171915 Fri, 08 May 2015 10:52:02 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2171915@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be fine with it. I'd just have a backup for your toddler in case you do go into labor. He can always fly home the second you feel something if that happened, but I think it's unlikely that you'll go into labor at 36 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-out-of-town-at-36-weeks#post-2171914 Fri, 08 May 2015 10:51:26 +0000 Mrs. Microscope 2171914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A couple of.things to consider - 1. When did you go into labor with DS? If it was closer to 36 weeks, that is something to think about. 2. How often are there flights from Vegas to your city? If they are every hour or so, that is better than only twice a day, in case DH needs to rush home.</p> <p>If you don't expect labor before 38 or so weeks, and there are regular flights, I would be ok with the trip. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-out-of-town-at-36-weeks#post-2171900 Fri, 08 May 2015 10:47:31 +0000 deerylou 2171900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't see a major problem with it. I stay home, and my husband isn't home until after six. Although I admittedly love those extra sets of hands through dinner, cleanup, bath, and bedtime, it would be barely two extra hours of solo-parenting, for me. Not a huge deal. I'm sure my folks would offer to drive down and pitch in a little, but I'd be fine, without. </p> <p>You may certainly be a little tired and frazzled; that's a given. But I think it's worth it so your husband can be present during this exciting time for his brother. Chances are you won't go into labor, and this could buy you some pampering, when he gets home. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-out-of-town-at-36-weeks#post-2171851 Fri, 08 May 2015 10:21:31 +0000 sarac 2171851@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>3 nights! I would never! Maybe if someone could come to help me out, but I would not agree to single parent a toddler at 36 weeks pregnant so that my husband could go party unless he arranged some serious backup. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-out-of-town-at-36-weeks#post-2171808 Fri, 08 May 2015 10:01:20 +0000 OhCaptain 2171808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine travelled at 37 weeks last time and I had my mom come stay with me. We had only moved to town 7 weeks prior and I knew NO ONE else. Of course nothing happened.<br /> Last night my husband asked me if he could travel for work at 38.5 weeks. I felt selfish, but I told him it made me too nervous and I'd rather he wasn't further than 4 hours driving. We live in montana and there aren't hundreds of flights here each day. There are 1-3 per day, so it wouldnt be like he could just hop on the next flight. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-out-of-town-at-36-weeks#post-2171803 Fri, 08 May 2015 10:00:04 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 2171803@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be mostly fine with my husband leaving, but not fine with being alone with a toddler at 36 weeks! Is there anyone that can help you? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-out-of-town-at-36-weeks#post-2171801 Fri, 08 May 2015 09:59:39 +0000 Truth Bombs 2171801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would depend on if you have family/friends close to help out if your toddler was just wearing you out or if you needed to go to the hospital. I would be fine with my husband doing this because I have plenty of friends who I could call in a pinch who would happily watch my daughter, or help get me to the hospital if I went in to labor. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-out-of-town-at-36-weeks#post-2171738 Fri, 08 May 2015 09:12:08 +0000 Mommy Finger 2171738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be fine with it but I have the luxury of having my parents less than 10 minutes away and I was induced last time so I don't think I'll be going early. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-out-of-town-at-36-weeks#post-2171728 Fri, 08 May 2015 09:03:26 +0000 blackbird 2171728@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be ok with it because I was overdue with #1. Dh was at a work retreat for 5 days when i was 37 weeks and it was ok. I felt more chill about him traveling when I was pregnant with my second than I did with my first. So i would be cool with the trip provided things went smoothly up to that point. Taking care of a toddler wasn't a big deal, honestly..... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-out-of-town-at-36-weeks#post-2171719 Fri, 08 May 2015 08:54:47 +0000 nana87 2171719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my first I had to be induced at 37.5 weeks and was on modified bed rest before so i personally would be nervous about dh traveling at 36 weeks. Maybe if I had other family around Id be okay with it </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-out-of-town-at-36-weeks#post-2171692 Fri, 08 May 2015 08:36:18 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2171692@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A friend of mine traveled by car 4 hours away when his partner was 35 weeks. The baby came early, but he cut his trip short and didn't miss the birth. A coworker had to travel when his wife was 39/40 weeks. When he got back from his scheduled cross country flight she went into labor that night. </p> <p>Neither situation was ideal, I'm sure hindsight the couples would have liked to have been around each other the last few days of the pregnancy. Babies come when they come and life keeps going. Just make sure he has a clear exit plan in case you need him home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-out-of-town-at-36-weeks#post-2171683 Fri, 08 May 2015 08:28:26 +0000 avivoca 2171683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The extra night would bother me. What was your labor like for #1? My first was 15 hours long, so in hindsight, it would have been fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/husband-out-of-town-at-36-weeks#post-2171681 Fri, 08 May 2015 08:27:26 +0000 Mamasig 2171681@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be concerned because of the toddler to take care of too. If you have help nearby and you are ok with it, then I guess it works for you. For me, it wouldn't be ok. But my husband wouldn't feel comfortable going either. </p>