https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 05 May 2026 18:46:03 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hypothetical-an-ex-that-you-had-strong-feelings-for-contacts-you-on-facebook#post-236517 Thu, 26 Jul 2012 18:14:58 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 236517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have before and shown my husband. He's replied to an ex before too. I don't have any feelings there anymore so I'm amicable with my exes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hypothetical-an-ex-that-you-had-strong-feelings-for-contacts-you-on-facebook#post-236456 Thu, 26 Jul 2012 17:51:38 +0000 pastemoo 236456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Absolutely I would. I am still current friends with one, would pick up the friendship (that we fought really hard for after we broke up) with the other, and the third... nothing he could say would ever lead to anything because he's the biggest ahole in the world.</p> <p>Like @chopsuey, I would tell him I met the love of my life and we have a son. (Actually one of my exes was at our wedding and he just got engaged! Yay!)</p> <p>I don't see how it could lead to anything if I didn't want it to...</p> <p>My DH would not because he hates all his exes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hypothetical-an-ex-that-you-had-strong-feelings-for-contacts-you-on-facebook#post-236444 Thu, 26 Jul 2012 17:47:03 +0000 SleepyMonkey 236444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. I would ignore it. Exes serve no purpose to me but to cause trouble, and I wouldn't want that in my life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hypothetical-an-ex-that-you-had-strong-feelings-for-contacts-you-on-facebook#post-236392 Thu, 26 Jul 2012 17:25:22 +0000 eeh 236392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm still facebook friends with all of my exes and my husband is with his. Neither of us had overly serious relationships before the other and neither of us would have a problem if the other person had a conversation with an ex. We live in a small town and will occasionally see an ex when we're out and about. We'll say hi and catch up and be on our way. No big deal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hypothetical-an-ex-that-you-had-strong-feelings-for-contacts-you-on-facebook#post-236383 Thu, 26 Jul 2012 17:22:29 +0000 MaisyMay 236383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have any ex's however, I did have a guy who I crushed on through all of HS, who made it seem pretty mutual. He actually married my BFF's little sister. He recently friended me on FB, but before I said yes, I told Hubs about it. I wanted to make sure we were both comfortable with it first. He hasn't actually said anything to me though, so not sure why the request. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hypothetical-an-ex-that-you-had-strong-feelings-for-contacts-you-on-facebook#post-236375 Thu, 26 Jul 2012 17:18:50 +0000 chopsuey 236375@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thankfully Any feelings I had for exes died when we broke up. :) if an ex emailed I'd respond and tell dh about it. Would tell the guy I'm happily married to the loooove of my life and a mom of almost 2!</p> <p>DH tells me when girls from his past message. He never had a real/true love before me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hypothetical-an-ex-that-you-had-strong-feelings-for-contacts-you-on-facebook#post-236360 Thu, 26 Jul 2012 17:13:18 +0000 leelee 236360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I probably wouldn't respond and Im pretty sure DH wouldn't either. Even if it's harmless, it's not worth it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hypothetical-an-ex-that-you-had-strong-feelings-for-contacts-you-on-facebook#post-236307 Thu, 26 Jul 2012 16:49:56 +0000 Running Elley 236307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn’t respond just because I’d have no interest in doing so. DH probably wouldn’t respond either…same reason. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hypothetical-an-ex-that-you-had-strong-feelings-for-contacts-you-on-facebook#post-236303 Thu, 26 Jul 2012 16:46:38 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 236303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely respond. What is in the past is in the past and I never felt as strongly for someone as I do my DH, so I know I would never be tempted to go down "that path."</p> <p>If my DH was contacted, I know he wouldnt respond. Most of his relationships before me were pretty volatile and I know he has no desire to speak to them again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hypothetical-an-ex-that-you-had-strong-feelings-for-contacts-you-on-facebook#post-236286 Thu, 26 Jul 2012 16:38:16 +0000 LuLu Mom 236286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have actually been in this position, with an ex who I was very much in love with. he contacted me a couple months into me and DH's relationship (when dating) and I told him I was seeing someone and it was getting serious. He tried to contact me when I got engaged and I ignored him,</p> <p>I have seen him a couple times, but both times I said hi and walked away. I have no problem with him, but I get the feeling then he hadn't completely let go and I know how strong my feelings were and I wouldn't do anything to jeopardize what I have with DH now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hypothetical-an-ex-that-you-had-strong-feelings-for-contacts-you-on-facebook#post-236199 Thu, 26 Jul 2012 16:07:17 +0000 DillonLion 236199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I would not respond. I don't generally like to stay in contact with my ex's, especially if our relationship/break-up was bad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hypothetical-an-ex-that-you-had-strong-feelings-for-contacts-you-on-facebook#post-236197 Thu, 26 Jul 2012 16:06:54 +0000 Bookish 236197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depends! I have a couple exes who I felt very strongly about but are still on my FB because it ended very amicably and ended YEARS ago. DH knows I communicate with them occasionally, just to check in on each others lives.</p> <p>However, if it was the guy I dated for 3 years and who now works at the same university as me, HELL NO. He's too close for comfort!</p> <p>I don't think DH would respond to any of his exes. They all ended very badly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hypothetical-an-ex-that-you-had-strong-feelings-for-contacts-you-on-facebook#post-236193 Thu, 26 Jul 2012 16:05:52 +0000 Rubies 236193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sort of was in a similar situation but did not respond. I didn't want to put the ball in his court. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hypothetical-an-ex-that-you-had-strong-feelings-for-contacts-you-on-facebook#post-236188 Thu, 26 Jul 2012 16:04:26 +0000 autumnlove 236188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I would reply and answer any questions they asked but keep it short and neutral. I would not ask any questions because I don't want a response! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hypothetical-an-ex-that-you-had-strong-feelings-for-contacts-you-on-facebook#post-236184 Thu, 26 Jul 2012 16:02:25 +0000 mrbee 236184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Here's a hypothetical: an ex that you had strong feelings for contacts you on Facebook... just saying hello. They know that you're in a committed relationship and (if you do) that you have kids, but they just wanted to get back in touch.</p> <p>Do you reply? Bonus points: if your SO got a message from an ex, would they reply?</p> <p>ps This week I had breakfast with a friend who got contacted by his first real girlfriend, the love of his life. He didn't reply to her Facebook message because he's married with a kid and didn't want to go down a path that might somehow end up risking his family. </p>