https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 04 May 2026 22:12:43 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-a-terrible-mother-we-have-scared-our-dd-help#post-2891500 Thu, 18 Jul 2019 06:26:40 +0000 hilary 2891500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh this is so hard but don't be so hard on yourself. You never know what will set a kid off. When my oldest was 2/3 she love Rudolph (like the old version) but would cry during it because she was devastated that the other reindeer wouldn't play and be nice to him. Then she would cry anytime someone brought up Rudolph. We just watched the first Harry Potter and the girls were scared during the troll scene but my boy loved it. Thought them fighting the troll was the funniest thing ever. So you never know. Like others have said to handle fears when kids are alone like in bed, we have a little song that we've taught them that we sing with them and they can sing on their own that helps calm them down. (for reference my twins are 4.5 and older is 6.5) Hope you find something that your daughter finds comforting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-a-terrible-mother-we-have-scared-our-dd-help#post-2891395 Wed, 17 Jul 2019 13:46:43 +0000 Ajsmommy 2891395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMom: I'm thinking the same thing.. maybe it has to do with her age. I think maybe she's understanding "bad stuff" more so it's making it more of a potential reality to her. Ugh, my poor bub... I sure hope she can move past this.. I will be sleeping with her tonight if that's what she needs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-a-terrible-mother-we-have-scared-our-dd-help#post-2891379 Wed, 17 Jul 2019 12:20:45 +0000 MrsMom 2891379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: It does seem like the things they used to like turn scary later on, like they hadn't developed fear yet?? My DS is almost 5 and has watched Moana many times, but recently it was on TV and we had it on in the background while I was cleaning. When it came to the part of the Lava lady He ran out of the room. He's never done that before. I think they're just at the age where they're more sensitive to it because they can understand it more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-a-terrible-mother-we-have-scared-our-dd-help#post-2891375 Wed, 17 Jul 2019 12:07:23 +0000 Ajsmommy 2891375@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@josina: aw thanks!! :heart: It's just hard to see your baby scared and crying and you are kind of responsible for it!! :sad: </p> <p>@MrsMom: maybe i'll let her watch something on youtube right before we go to bed (something good/that she likes) ---ugh this just reminded me of another creepy thing she likes and had no issue with before (taylor swift video/look what you made me do, has like zombies in the beginning.. yup dd loves them!!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-a-terrible-mother-we-have-scared-our-dd-help#post-2891371 Wed, 17 Jul 2019 11:58:35 +0000 MrsMom 2891371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to have horrible fear from "Scary" movies when I was young. To be honest I still don't do too well with them LOL. But I usually would counter the scary with a more light hearted movie or even just a short show to redirect my thoughts. I still use this when my mind starts getting away from me. :happy: :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-a-terrible-mother-we-have-scared-our-dd-help#post-2891347 Wed, 17 Jul 2019 08:42:43 +0000 josina 2891347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh man, I don't really have any advice, just wanted to say you're NOT a terrible mother! My DS loves scary movies too, but luckily we haven't had any issues because of it.<br /> Don't be too hard on your self! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-a-terrible-mother-we-have-scared-our-dd-help#post-2891342 Wed, 17 Jul 2019 07:22:02 +0000 Ajsmommy 2891342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LemonJack: thanks. I am trying to not feel so bad but I do feel bad and I'm annoyed that I let it happen! The same thing happened to me and I was scared for YEARS. A babysitter unwittingly let me watch a vampire movie when I was like 5-6 and from that day on I was frightened to death!! I remember laying in bed for what felt like hours trying not to move and just having my mind race. I don't know if I called for my mom or dad or if they just told me not to?? But I remember many nights that I'd lay awake scared to death until I finally fell asleep. So I don't want DD to feel that way! But I am trying NOT to sleep in her bed every night either.... I just started jogging and last night I wanted to go for a jog but that was what was frustrating me and making her not sleep. She knew I was trying to "leave" so she wouldn't calm down enough to sleep.. then I was jumping the gun by trying to leave before she was asleep.. it was a mess. I finally gave up at 11 and made DH go in. He slept with her all night... I guess i'll just sleep with her tonight and until she gets better... </p> <p>my jogging will have to wait... again... </p> <p>@charleysmom: DD gets the costume stuff.. and that that's just someone dressed up.. It's harder for her to understand the cartoon things... mostly bc the princesses are "real" to her even though they are cartoons bc they are real at Disney. So I tried the angle of "well did you see frankenweenie at Disney?" and she said no of course... </p> <p>@agold: thanks for posting.. I think it's just going to take time and I have to just resolve myself to that... </p> <p>@Dynamite: I'm also wondering if DD's age has something to do with it too. Like she's older now and maybe she is processing things differently and realizing that there are really bad things out there..... but I know from now on i'll be much more careful about what I let her watch... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-a-terrible-mother-we-have-scared-our-dd-help#post-2891341 Wed, 17 Jul 2019 07:10:37 +0000 Ajsmommy 2891341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jennlin821: fyi I was waiting for a harry potter fan to correct me and tell me what the troll and three headed dog really are... LOL.. I do plan to read the books w DD I even mentioned that when DH put it on :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-a-terrible-mother-we-have-scared-our-dd-help#post-2891334 Wed, 17 Jul 2019 00:42:41 +0000 Dynamite 2891334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice, just sympathy. I let my kids watch Spirited Away because I heard it was great. Did not realize how scary some of the imagery was. They loved it and were fine. A narrow escape for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-a-terrible-mother-we-have-scared-our-dd-help#post-2891332 Wed, 17 Jul 2019 00:31:41 +0000 agold 2891332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This happened to my 2.5 year old recently when she watched finding nemo. We don't really watch any movies because I'm all for protecting childrens' innocence. So Finding Nemo got her and she didn't sleep through the night for months. She woke screaming from her nap that first day. It was a rough couple of weeks and we did have to sleep on her floor many nights. I wanted to keep her in her crib and not make a habir of her coming to our bed. It was really rough but it slowly - very slowly - got better. My daughter loves drama, but I always try to keep things light and happy. Her little mind just can't handle it, apparently. But she is now watching care bears and that has a scary witch in a book and it hasn't phased her. So who really knows what will and wont get them. good luck. I'm so sorry. I hate disrupted sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-a-terrible-mother-we-have-scared-our-dd-help#post-2891331 Tue, 16 Jul 2019 22:58:49 +0000 charleysmom 2891331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter loves Halloween and scary stuff too. We’ve always told her that it’s make believe and special effects, etc. but I don’t think she fully grasped it until recently. We watched a behind the scenes of a stage production (not scary but somewhat elaborate) and they showed the different characters getting into their makeup and costumes and I think it clicked for her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-a-terrible-mother-we-have-scared-our-dd-help#post-2891330 Tue, 16 Jul 2019 22:51:27 +0000 LemonJack 2891330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: I’m sorry! Don’t be too hard on yourself. Things happen! I’m sure she’ll be fine with time, although that doesn’t help you short term. Were you sitting with her again tonight? What time did she finally fall asleep? I was a kid with a lot of fears, and I remember times when I could not shut my mind off and go to sleep. The only way I could relax was to have my mom in my room with me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-a-terrible-mother-we-have-scared-our-dd-help#post-2891327 Tue, 16 Jul 2019 21:44:01 +0000 Ajsmommy 2891327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jennlin821: Thank you for responding...I'm so desperate right now!! It's almost 11 and she can't fall asleep I'm losing my patience and am really at a loss.....I feel like legit crying </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-a-terrible-mother-we-have-scared-our-dd-help#post-2891295 Tue, 16 Jul 2019 15:57:03 +0000 jennlin821 2891295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also, as a Harry Potter fanatic please don't have you kids watch the movies before reading the books. The books are so much better when they can use their own imagination to see how the wizarding world is described. And just that the books are so much better than the movies. </p> <p> :wink: :grin: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-a-terrible-mother-we-have-scared-our-dd-help#post-2891293 Tue, 16 Jul 2019 15:54:36 +0000 jennlin821 2891293@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So it sounds like she is seeing the scary scene in her mind? She shuts her eyes and the scary scenes are playing over and over? It doesn't sounds like she's scared of the scary things in her closet, etc.<br /> Perhaps she needs a counter balance to the scary scenes. Does she have a favorite movie with a song? I'm wondering about the movie Trolls, the scene where Poppy sings "Get back up again". Could you get her Poppy doll, and everytime she see the scary scene, have her think of Poppy and sing "Get back up again" &lt; Or even something much simpler a new stuffy of he choice and an easy song to sing. </p> <p>I think you just need to help her focus on something else! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-a-terrible-mother-we-have-scared-our-dd-help#post-2891284 Tue, 16 Jul 2019 13:42:13 +0000 Ajsmommy 2891284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am feeling so badly about this and I need advice. </p> <p>So DD is 5.5. She loves, loves, loves Halloween and scary/creepy stuff. I mean I took her to this haunted walk for the past two Halloweens and she just loves it and has no issues after.... (i'll post a pic bc some of the stuff is pretty creepy!! but she loves it and looks back at the pics all the time) And never been scared to sleep in her room alone.</p> <p>Anyway, two weekends ago she saw "frankenweenie" on the Netflix or hulu list and we watched it. She was fine throughout the movie and even ok for the last week. </p> <p>Now this past weekend DH put on Harry Potter, I think the first one, it was on in the background this weekend as we did stuff around the house. DD was casually watching it every so often.. and I noticed what looked like a giant troll and also a three headed dog :shocked: I told DH maybe we should turn it off... but DD didn't say anything.</p> <p>BUTTTT she's been scarred!!! She was home with her gram yesterday and fell asleep for a nap and when she woke up she was scared and freaked out, screaming and really upset my mom said. </p> <p>Then last night at bed time she cried and asked why I couldn't sleep with her in her bed all night.. and I tried to explain and then she cried and said she was just sad bc she loved me and wanted me there.. then it came out that she couldn't "control her fear"... and this is when she finally told me she was scared and she mentioned the movies. So yeah, great, we are freakin terrible parents and now my baby is scared to sleep in her room!!!! I had to literally lay with my arm over her and she was grasping it until she fell asleep and then when I got up she woke up within 5 mins frantic that I go back! I ended up sleeping in there until 3 am.. and then she woke up again at 430 asking for me to go back... </p> <p>We've explained that the cartoon was not real and I think she gets it... but what else can we do??? HELP.. I am so sad we did this!!! </p> <p>Will it just take time??? </p> <p>She said that she was happy that we could talk about it and come to a plan (which was me putting my arm over her until she fell asleep) but obviously I dont' want this to continue to bother her.... </p> <p>&lt;hangs head in shame at what a crap parent I am regarding this&gt;<br /> ps she loves this scary baby!! </p> <p>[attach=4974/19/puqzyd.338x600.hw1.png]</p> <p>[attach=4974/19/puqzyf.338x600.hw2.png] </p>