https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 22:22:34 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-feeling-like-such-a-failure-of-a-mother#post-834640 Thu, 06 Jun 2013 03:28:59 +0000 loveisstrange 834640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not a big deal! C took a nose-dive off the couch the other day ( even though she knows how to get down? Silly girl.) and gave herself a bloody nose. I felt awful!!</p> <p>It happens though. C has fallen and run into things and bumped her head so many times since she became mobile. I think its pretty unavoidable. Youre not a bad mom! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-feeling-like-such-a-failure-of-a-mother#post-834377 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 20:36:58 +0000 PrincessBaby 834377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cascademom: Omg! Glad he is okay!!! That would have scared the crap out of me too!!! Yes you are making me feel better bc there really isn't anything we can do all the time. Thanks for sharing:)</p> <p>@rachiecakes: Ok, thank you! I am sorry that he gets hurt sometimes, but it made me feel better that I'm not the only one with a LO with a banged up noggin! I have got to get tougher!!!!</p> <p>@Mrs. Twine: Omg this made me laugh so hard!!! "Courts death...." Hilarious! Thank you for making me smile:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-feeling-like-such-a-failure-of-a-mother#post-834367 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 20:31:42 +0000 PrincessBaby 834367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: Thanks, girl;). I let her do everything on that list after this bump...I sung passionate and heartfelt renditions of ABCs, and I held the dog in my lap so she could stare at him the whole time while I fed her purée bc she was fussing. I went to mush. This turned my bitchy frustration into....banana purée:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-feeling-like-such-a-failure-of-a-mother#post-834361 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 20:28:52 +0000 Mrs. Twine 834361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are going to come over to my house and you are going to look at Lorelei. Then you are going to feel SO much better. You are a great mom, and H will be fine. It really depends on the child what happens with injuries once they are mobile. Ellie was not adventurous AT ALL, and so she pretty much always looked fresh and unblemished as a little daisy. Lorelei, on the other hand, prefers to court death and so she is completely covered with scratches, bruises, and etc. I try so hard to keep her in one piece, but she climbs furniture, she climbed a chain-link fence the other day (I was standing right there, but I was so fascinated that she was doing it that I just let her for a minute before hauling her down), and she runs everywhere. She looks like she has been mauled by a band of small cappuchin monkeys. Or something. Just do the best you can, and love on her a little extra. I'm pretty sure your ped. is just trying to be on the safe side. I would follow her directions, but I wouldn't let myself worry too much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-feeling-like-such-a-failure-of-a-mother#post-834360 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 20:28:34 +0000 rachiecakes 834360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: yes! when he was first pulling up on things, he pulled up on the side of our bed, I walked to the doorway to toss a diaper and before I could even turn around, he fell on the hard edge of the bedrail and had a bump/scrape (no blood or broken skin, though). I cried and called my mom. I felt AWFUL. </p> <p>then he started standing in the crib and falling, hitting his head. even now, he's 17 months and has been walking since he was just under a year but still takes tumbles that make my eyes well up. I've been told so many times it's just a part of learning how to get around for them, but that doesn't make witnessing it any easier for mom! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-feeling-like-such-a-failure-of-a-mother#post-834359 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 20:28:01 +0000 cascademom 834359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: I'm right there with you. LO was holding himself up on me yesterday. He turned around for a split second and did a face plant. Screams and blood around his teeth scared the crap out of me. Luckily, he bled very little, but still caused me so much shock. I had to have DH and my parents calm me down. I did a lot of teething toys to relieve the pain in his gums. I still feel like a bad parent for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-feeling-like-such-a-failure-of-a-mother#post-834357 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 20:26:56 +0000 MsLipGloss 834357@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: No you don't. We all get frustrated . . . but we still love our LOs. ((hugs))</p> <p>ETA: Babies are not always easy . . . little versions of us! ;P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-feeling-like-such-a-failure-of-a-mother#post-834348 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 20:24:14 +0000 PrincessBaby 834348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rachiecakes: Did he ever get a bump on his head? I can't believe she has a bump on her HEAD. Waaah:( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-feeling-like-such-a-failure-of-a-mother#post-834338 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 20:19:54 +0000 rachiecakes 834338@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>this happens to every mom! :( and it's still terrible every time<br /> as soon as DS was mobile he was pulling up and falling everywhere. as closely as I was hovering above him 24/7 he still got a few bumps and scrapes and of course, I cried just about every time, too.<br /> hope you both feel better tomorrow &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-feeling-like-such-a-failure-of-a-mother#post-834307 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 20:06:46 +0000 MrsScallop 834307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aw, you are definitely not a bad mom! My LO hit her head on the edge of a bookshelf recently and had a long bruise on her head for a while. I felt so awful for letting her fall, but I try to remember that some bumps and bruises are part of growing up (and with my genes, she is destined to have lots!).</p> <p>Hope H's bump goes away quickly and that you feel better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-feeling-like-such-a-failure-of-a-mother#post-834295 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 20:01:11 +0000 PrincessBaby 834295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks, everyone:). I am still upset and a little nervous for her to go to sleep but it is pretty small so I'm hoping it will look much better tomorrow. My poor girl. I feel so awful bc I was complaining earlier about this wonder week and how cranky she's been. I deserve it:( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-feeling-like-such-a-failure-of-a-mother#post-834288 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 19:58:48 +0000 PrincessBaby 834288@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: Her Ped told me to grab her feet every 2-3 hours to see if she "responds." Is that would you would recommend? I wanted her to say that it was nothing and H would be fine:(. She kind of made me even more worried...</p> <p>@ajh1028: Welcome! This is a great bunch of ladies for when you have a question or are feeling like a terrible parent/spouse/person:). It is wonderful:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-feeling-like-such-a-failure-of-a-mother#post-834252 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 19:41:06 +0000 MrsF 834252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're a great mom! These things happen. I was holding M at a function once and I turned around and smacked her head on a sharp corner. She screamed and I could have just died. I can only imagine what it will be like when she's more mobile. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-feeling-like-such-a-failure-of-a-mother#post-834221 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 19:29:33 +0000 Mrs. Confetti 834221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ajh1028: welcome!</p> <p>Yesterday, C dove head first off of his anywhere chair onto the hard wood floor and I was terrified he was gonna break his neck. He was fine, I was shaking. </p> <p>These things happen - we can only do the best we can. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-feeling-like-such-a-failure-of-a-mother#post-834198 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 19:18:10 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 834198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is regular stuff. Pediatricians expect bumps and bruises in foreheads. We get concerned when hey are elsewhere. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-feeling-like-such-a-failure-of-a-mother#post-834196 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 19:15:28 +0000 chopsuey 834196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're not a failure. It happens! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-feeling-like-such-a-failure-of-a-mother#post-834194 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 19:14:31 +0000 MamaBehr 834194@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally not a mom fail, these things happen. Both of mine have had falls like that before. The worst was when DS was in for his 12 month visit and took a fall, landing on his head, off the.... wait for it.... EXAMINATION TABLE! Oh my gosh. I felt so bad, and worried they would call CPS. He was fine! And that was onto a hard surface (though I did get freaked out when the doc called the next morning from her private number....) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-feeling-like-such-a-failure-of-a-mother#post-834185 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 19:09:14 +0000 ajh1028 834185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just signed up for hello bee tonight and this was one of the first posts I read. I feel this way all the time lately! My daughter is constantly hurting herself whether it's falling when trying to stand of having her arms give out while crawling and bumping her head. You are not a terrible mom at all! It is impossible for us to keep our children in a bubble and not let them explore. You care which means you are a great mom! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-feeling-like-such-a-failure-of-a-mother#post-834150 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 18:56:07 +0000 MsLipGloss 834150@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: Is it wrong that you totally just made me think of Jack Nicholson?</p> <p>*I Want the Bump!*</p> <p>*You Can't Handle the Bump!* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-feeling-like-such-a-failure-of-a-mother#post-834145 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 18:54:23 +0000 PrincessBaby 834145@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks so much you guys:). Ya'll are so sweet:)</p> <p>Can you see the bump??? I cant handle the bump:(. And I cant understand how a toenail can do that kind of damage!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-feeling-like-such-a-failure-of-a-mother#post-834142 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 18:53:17 +0000 matador84 834142@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: you aren't horrible!!! DS fell off the bed once and I could see it coming and I nearly had a heart attack! You haven't been neglectful and are not horrible mom! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-feeling-like-such-a-failure-of-a-mother#post-834135 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 18:51:50 +0000 immabeetoo 834135@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>don't stress! my little guy has had a black eye twice now from whacking toys into his face. she'll recover :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-feeling-like-such-a-failure-of-a-mother#post-834133 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 18:50:49 +0000 Mrs. Pen 834133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>oh you're not a bad mom! My kid falls and gets hurt pretty much every day. There is nothing we can do to protect them from every bump and bruise! I don't think a small bump like that would have your dr calling CPS! It would likely be a pattern of behavior :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-feeling-like-such-a-failure-of-a-mother#post-834125 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 18:48:40 +0000 Smurfette 834125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are not a horrible mother!! Just by being so worried shows how much you care. She will be fine and will be driving you crazy with her wonderness in no time!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-feeling-like-such-a-failure-of-a-mother#post-834123 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 18:47:46 +0000 oliviaoblivia 834123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aw! Poor H! She'll be fine, you are a great mama. Babies get bumps. Mamas get heart attacks. Such is life. I feel so badly now for all the heart attacks I must have given my mother. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-feeling-like-such-a-failure-of-a-mother#post-834105 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 18:38:55 +0000 swedishfish 834105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aw, don't feel bad! These things happen! You are a great mother to H!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-feeling-like-such-a-failure-of-a-mother#post-834102 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 18:37:51 +0000 googly-eyes 834102@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's ok. Similar things have happened to my lo! You're not a failure. I totally understand the feeling! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-feeling-like-such-a-failure-of-a-mother#post-834097 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 18:34:06 +0000 BabyBruins 834097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: Oh lady, that's nothing. Right when LO was learning to walk, he hit his EYE on a bench at the bookstore and cut it and I frantically called my BIL (a doctor) to determine if it needed stitches and just this week, he now knows how to climb up on our bed and fell off backwards, bit his lip and has a huge scratch from his nose to his lip. He could have totally split his lip completely open. Things happen.<br /> Also, I am always giving hubs a hard time about playing too rough or not watching close enough and his worst injuries have come on my watch. Bad mom - right here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-feeling-like-such-a-failure-of-a-mother#post-834085 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 18:29:24 +0000 lovehoneybee 834085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aw honey you're a great Mama! Unless we put then in a bubble we can't protect our babies from every bump and scratch. Twice...TWICE!...E has fallen in the tub and bit his tongue so hard it bled. With me there. It's super scary, but it happens. We brought E into the pedi last week and he had two bruises on his legs! I thought for sure she's call CPS! But she just grinned and assured us that a mobile baby attracts bumps and bruises (and yea, cuts) like magnets! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-feeling-like-such-a-failure-of-a-mother#post-834082 Wed, 05 Jun 2013 18:28:40 +0000 MsLipGloss 834082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: no - but I am glad to know that I am not the only butterfingers! In mah defenses, I was technically moving a pillow and was unaware of said remote. *sigh* I cried right along with LO. : / </p>