https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Apr 2026 22:44:03 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-not-the-unreasonable-one-here-right/page/2#post-2197012 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 16:50:26 +0000 Miss Flamingo 2197012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a car hating daughter too, and we had to drive 7 hours for my brother in laws wedding. I was dreading the trip so much! But we left at 3 in the morning after her feed so that we could catch some of her sleep. She was a little mad to be in the car seat, not her bed, but she fell asleep. It sucked for us to get up that early but it sucked less than her screaming for the whole time. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-not-the-unreasonable-one-here-right#post-2196992 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 16:27:25 +0000 Cole 2196992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Update: my dramatic text this morning apparently worked, not that it's my preferred or normal form of communication but apparently he knew I wasn't joking that this was am awful idea. They booked hotel rooms at am awesome place (that is forty minutes in the wrong direction, but you win some, you lose some.) So crisis averted! </p> <p>Thanks everyone for making me realize I wasn't just being a pain! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-not-the-unreasonable-one-here-right#post-2196989 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 16:23:22 +0000 gingerbebe 2196989@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would pack the car and go to bed early and leave in the MOTN/early morning while the baby is apt to sleep some more. Just dump the baby in their jammies in the car, throw a blanket over the top, and drive. Time it to arrive at your destination at her regular breakfast nursing time and then introduce her to great grandpa after she's been fed and changed. Perhaps you can go out to breakfast and then put her down for her morning nap. Then feed her, have lunch, and then get in the car. Aim to have her car nap and get home by bedtime. You will be tired but it's not something coffee and going to bed early won't fix. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-not-the-unreasonable-one-here-right#post-2196916 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 15:19:35 +0000 bunnylove08 2196916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would make a weekend out of it. get a hotel and plan some activities the next day that you can do around the area. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-not-the-unreasonable-one-here-right#post-2196914 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 15:16:44 +0000 turkeylurkey 2196914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've driven 4 hours to go on vacation and visit friends and family. We just took our time. We left early in the morning and he fell back asleep and slept almost half-way. Then we stopped and ate so that we could walk around. We stopped again after an hour and walked through a Target just to get us out an about. I rode part of the time in the back seat with him which helped a lot. We spent the night both trips and came home the following day in the same manner. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-not-the-unreasonable-one-here-right#post-2196908 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 15:07:53 +0000 avivoca 2196908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have done it. It wasn't fun and I had to sit in the back of the car the entire way and I wouldn't recommend it. If you can, I would definitely split it up and stay overnight. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-not-the-unreasonable-one-here-right#post-2196902 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 14:58:52 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2196902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would vote for the weekend too. Definitely an overnight. My Lo was like that too. People would say "oh but she's such a good sleeper" or "it won't be that bad" because they had not seen the long effect of screwing up one day of sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-not-the-unreasonable-one-here-right#post-2196723 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 13:13:59 +0000 tofuwad 2196723@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My family and ILs live 2-2.5 hours away and I wouldn't even do that in one day, let alone two four hour trips. I would definitely get a hotel room. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-not-the-unreasonable-one-here-right#post-2196637 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 12:38:39 +0000 Ra 2196637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would go and get a hotel room and stay overnight. A regularly make 4.5 hour trips to visit a friend, and have since B was about that age, and he usually does well if I load the ipad with cartoons/movies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-not-the-unreasonable-one-here-right#post-2196625 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 12:34:20 +0000 catomd00 2196625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sit in the back with him for sure and get a hotel room. Even if you don't spend more then a few hours with him, I'm sure you can find something fun to do in the area. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-not-the-unreasonable-one-here-right#post-2196596 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 12:21:01 +0000 Freckles 2196596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not unreasonable! That's even a long time for my 3 year old. We always stay overnight for those types of trips. Not worth the crying and headache! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-not-the-unreasonable-one-here-right#post-2196587 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 12:18:09 +0000 hilary 2196587@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not unreasonable! But maybe I say that because I'm in the same position. DH (and his whole family) want us to go on the annual family vacation to the beach (10 hours away). And hold over my head that it could be the last year for it(even though they've said that for the last 3). But with 6 month old twins and a 2 1/2 year old, I'm not really on board. It's like they scream in a round. It's torture for 1 hour so I can't even fathom 2 -5 hour days. Oh and then do it all again 4 days later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-not-the-unreasonable-one-here-right#post-2196564 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 12:04:42 +0000 mrbee 2196564@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That sounds like a really difficult situation!! If it's impossible to just skip the trip, I might stay overnight and then come home in the morning. 4 hours each way should be doable if you time it right!</p> <p>My daughter HATES the car and our last big roadtrip she vomited 3-4 times on the way there. But we got her seabands and timed the trip just right, and the return trip went ok.</p> <p>We took her to a wedding 8 hours away about two years ago (so she was just under 2) and she also screamed and vomited on the way there and back. It was brutal, but it was for a close friend's wedding and so we had no choice. We learned from that experience that there's only so long our daughter can cry before passing out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-not-the-unreasonable-one-here-right#post-2196550 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 11:57:14 +0000 Greentea 2196550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You might hate my advice and that's fine, but I would try to wing it on a day trip! Elderly involved. I actually think an overnight with an infant is harder! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-not-the-unreasonable-one-here-right#post-2196545 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 11:55:45 +0000 lovehoneybee 2196545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with pps--make the drive, but get a hotel and stay overnight. 4 hrs one way is way too long for a day trip. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-not-the-unreasonable-one-here-right#post-2196544 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 11:55:44 +0000 autumnlove 2196544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cole: Ya, I would get a room too. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-not-the-unreasonable-one-here-right#post-2196535 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 11:54:10 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2196535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would get a hotel and stay overnight. I do think meeting his grandfather is important, but I don't see why this can't be talked over rationally. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-not-the-unreasonable-one-here-right#post-2196532 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 11:53:31 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 2196532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would drive the 4 hours but stay the night in a hotel. That is way too much driving for me for one day....even without a baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-not-the-unreasonable-one-here-right#post-2196528 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 11:51:54 +0000 Mae 2196528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>you're not crazy. I'd plan to to drive there one day, visit, stay in a hotel, and drive back the next morning. 8 hours in the car with a little is too much unless you'd rather just accept the day is going to be a horrible awful day. I'd rather spend the money/time to stay in a hotel one night than let my kid scream for hours (for her sake and ours). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-not-the-unreasonable-one-here-right#post-2196515 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 11:47:08 +0000 Dandelion 2196515@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't make that a daytrip without kids, let alone with a baby. I would definitely stay in a hotel before driving back! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-not-the-unreasonable-one-here-right#post-2196512 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 11:46:36 +0000 Ajsmommy 2196512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way, no how I'd be doing an 8 hour road trip in one day with a baby!! As PP's said I'd go and get a hotel to spend the night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-not-the-unreasonable-one-here-right#post-2196504 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 11:44:05 +0000 Adira 2196504@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>NOPE! This is why my grandparents didn't get to meet Xander until he was 16 months (and still haven't met Logan at 6 months). There's absolutely no way I was driving anywhere that would take longer to get there than his nursing schedule. And when we did go, we did it over a long weekend - so timed the drive with Xander's morning nap, spent the night, the next day, and then timed the drive home with his nap the following day.</p> <p>If you go, definitely spend the night somewhere. Do not spend 8 hours in the car on one day! That will be torturous for everyone involved. And if you can, meet somewhere in the middle instead of having to drive 4 hours. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-not-the-unreasonable-one-here-right#post-2196482 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 11:39:02 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2196482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL lives 4 hours away. I would never drive there and back in a day, and I don't have a LO yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-not-the-unreasonable-one-here-right#post-2196457 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 11:31:47 +0000 BSB 2196457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Are there any attractions that is close to your grandfather that you guys could go see? It will be a dual purpose trip. You can take the whole weekend to do it and stay at a hotel. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-not-the-unreasonable-one-here-right#post-2196455 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 11:31:31 +0000 Astro Bee 2196455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, I agree that that sounds impossible as a day trip. We just visited DH's grandmother, who lives 2 hrs away. We didn't even do that as a day trip, and my baby is a great traveller. I wouldn't be comfortable with my husband driving distracted either; it is incredibly hard to drive even a short distance with a screaming baby. </p> <p>Do you think it would be possible to for your baby to make the trip in a single day, overnight, and then return the next day or following day? Your DH's family would get more time with your LO. I'd raise that as a point in your favour. I imagine you might have to stop on the way if your LO is feeding frequently or for a diaper change. So that makes a 4 hour one-way trip into a 5 hour trip. So 10 hours on the road in one day is a bit much. I'd also say that you wouldn't be comfortable with your DH driving that much in one day. Driving while tired (and who isn't tired with a baby in be house) isn't safe for anyone, so your DH should consider your LO's safety, as well as his and your own. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-not-the-unreasonable-one-here-right#post-2196446 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 11:28:00 +0000 babynumber1 2196446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that meeting the great grandfather is super important. I would attempt it, but with a back up plan. Best case scenario you do a there and back. If it goes terribly, you have a caveat saying that you will stop and get a hotel room if things get really bad. I would leave early in the morning and try to tire out the LO throughout the day, and try to leave close to bedtime. Its not ideal, but better than something happening then LO not getting to meet him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-not-the-unreasonable-one-here-right#post-2196434 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 11:22:11 +0000 Cole 2196434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: I think this is what I need to push for. It's by far the most logical choice. My dh is delusional, before baby we would think nothing of doing 9+ hours in the car in a day, we jokes that 12 was our cranky point. I am so stressed out by the idea of being hours from anywhere with a screaming baby. </p> <p>@SweetiePie: Thanks, I think a car trip for baby and daddy is a good idea. He keeps saying she has to get used to it at some point. And we did a two hour trip last weekend abs he keeps saying how great she did but both ways we left at nap time, stopped for an hour and a half when she woke up and then finished the drive during the next nap so she basically slept the whole way abs we turned a two hour trip into 3.5 hours! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-not-the-unreasonable-one-here-right#post-2196426 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 11:20:39 +0000 Mamaof2 2196426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cole: another thought would be to leave at naptime - have your visit - then head home at bedtime - long day but maybe you can get her to sleep most of the time </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-not-the-unreasonable-one-here-right#post-2196419 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 11:18:39 +0000 regberadaisy 2196419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is there anything fun to do nearby that's family friendly? Can you drive there, spend the rest of the day with him. Stay at a hotel, do something fun and the head home early the next day to be home by dinner time? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-not-the-unreasonable-one-here-right#post-2196416 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 11:17:59 +0000 Mamaof2 2196416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cole: I would just go and stay for a few hours and leave then - get a hotel if its too much time to spend in the car in 1 day</p> <p>My husbands grandma is like that - we drive 4 hours to see her for 15 mins and then she is like "Ok well I have to go to church, bye" :bummed: </p>