https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Apr 2026 12:23:53 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-so-tired-of-dtd#post-2188218 Sun, 24 May 2015 17:25:17 +0000 winter_wonder 2188218@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@momazon: I need to be better at reading/posting updates to that board! I'm excited to hear more updates from you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-so-tired-of-dtd#post-2188216 Sun, 24 May 2015 17:21:30 +0000 momazon 2188216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winter_wonder: That's great! Our donor is in her second week of stims now so we will get updates on her progress every day now as she gets closer to trigger. We're doing a split donor program where each donor has three recipients, so it took us a long time to sync up and get started and I'm so glad to finally be close! I mainly post on the ongoing IVF thread, if you ever want to chat! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-so-tired-of-dtd#post-2188209 Sun, 24 May 2015 17:02:53 +0000 winter_wonder 2188209@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@momazon: yay for retrieval next week!! :goodluck: :heart: </p> <p>Things are going well so far. I get a copy of our donor's med schedule this week. We are hoping for a retrieval at the end of June. I'm so glad to know someone else going through this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-so-tired-of-dtd#post-2188207 Sun, 24 May 2015 16:57:48 +0000 momazon 2188207@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winter_wonder: How's it going with the donor eggs? We're doing that as well with retrieval next week! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-so-tired-of-dtd#post-2188112 Sun, 24 May 2015 12:19:20 +0000 Crystal 2188112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Amorini: ugh, I don't know whether to laugh or cry! I'm so sorry youre going through that. </p> <p>@winter_wonder: having a schedule definitely takes the fun out of it, I'll have to try mixing it up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-so-tired-of-dtd#post-2188081 Sun, 24 May 2015 10:10:23 +0000 winter_wonder 2188081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Omg, yes!!! I used to dread it sooo much. We are doing donor eggs and ivf now. But, when we were trying, I tried to mix up dtd (e.g. early evening, morning, or some other time). That way it felt slightly less scheduled if that makes sense?</p> <p>Hang in there :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-so-tired-of-dtd#post-2187996 Sun, 24 May 2015 07:21:57 +0000 Amorini 2187996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Crystal and all: I am having a chuckle to myself because you all have been chatting about this for a few days and I just posted about our totally, unglorious, maddening TTC sex life on the 6+ month TTC thread. I saw this post's title a few days ago and skipped over it, thinking "I have nothing to add here because we can't even have enough sex to get tired!" :happy: :sad: :happy: :sad: , I agree with the PP's who have said that we have to do things that preserve our sanity and marriages, which in DH/my case has involved talking honestly about where we are at and not forcing it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-so-tired-of-dtd#post-2187718 Sat, 23 May 2015 10:46:09 +0000 Crystal 2187718@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ChiCalGoBee: thanks, friend! It does become such a chore, and I hate the way that I feel about it! </p> <p>@jaguar: DH has been a trooper, but it's so hard to force myself to be in to it. If we get to the point of IUI, I think it will definitely take the pressure off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-so-tired-of-dtd#post-2186755 Fri, 22 May 2015 07:01:22 +0000 Miss Sarah 2186755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pickle: We were exactly the same. It damaged our marriage...It was definitely a relief to move on to treatments. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-so-tired-of-dtd#post-2186687 Fri, 22 May 2015 01:10:38 +0000 jaguar 2186687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Crystal: Oh I can totally relate! With IVF, the need to be forcing ourselves to try (for a snowball's shot in hell at conceiving) is gone - so it actually takes some of the pressure off, which is a massive relief. We used to talk it through, try to lighten the experience &amp; if one of us wasn't feeling it, we'd be honest about it and just go with the flow. There is nothing more frustrating! *hugs* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-so-tired-of-dtd#post-2186686 Fri, 22 May 2015 01:06:59 +0000 ChiCalGoBee 2186686@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Crystal: No advice, just wanted to say that 1) I'm always cheering you on and 2) I like to think that a majority of the time, DTD for a planned pregnancy is anything but sexy or fun. It's a chore, the stakes are high so it's stressful, and you can only create forced intimacy on just-the-right-day so many times before it's easier to just do it because it "needs" to be done. Ugh....hang in there :heart: . </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-so-tired-of-dtd#post-2186674 Thu, 21 May 2015 23:56:46 +0000 Crystal 2186674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pickle: we had a forced break for a few months (polypectomy), and it's surprising to me how fast the hard feelings came back now that we are back to TI. This whole thing is so hard on marriage for so many reasons. I'd like to say I'm glad you relate, but it sucks any of us have to go through this. </p> <p>@BabyTsMom: I totally get that, poor DHs. Thanks for understanding! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-so-tired-of-dtd#post-2186537 Thu, 21 May 2015 20:59:48 +0000 BabyTsMom 2186537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. This was a big issue for us too, and cause DH to get stressed out! Poor guy. :bummed:<br /> Ultimately we got pregnant via IUI but I was also so glad to move forward by then! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-so-tired-of-dtd#post-2186412 Thu, 21 May 2015 19:20:57 +0000 LoveHope 2186412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pickle: there's defintely tension at times ughhh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-so-tired-of-dtd#post-2186379 Thu, 21 May 2015 18:50:01 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2186379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I understand. It was so stressful and not good for our marriage after a while. It was a relief to move on to treatments so our sex life could get back to normal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-so-tired-of-dtd#post-2186366 Thu, 21 May 2015 18:26:47 +0000 Crystal 2186366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsKRB: that would be the one benefit to moving to that step! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-so-tired-of-dtd#post-2186337 Thu, 21 May 2015 17:49:19 +0000 LoveHope 2186337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Crystal: I completely feel you. I'm EXHAUSTED lol. Im beginning to feel like the Magic in doing it is no longer there. Now we're doing it because we NEED to. :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-so-tired-of-dtd#post-2186216 Thu, 21 May 2015 15:39:07 +0000 andthewildones 2186216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ms.line: I am digging that you guys are comfortable with this! I can think of so many women I personally know who wouldn't approve. great advice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-so-tired-of-dtd#post-2186179 Thu, 21 May 2015 15:10:25 +0000 MrsKRB 2186179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! So sick of it! It's so bad that I'm happy we have the iui do the job for us now :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-so-tired-of-dtd#post-2186074 Thu, 21 May 2015 14:08:49 +0000 Crystal 2186074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NorthStar: boys, amiright?</p> <p>@ms.line: that's really interesting! Thank you for sharing! Ill have to bring it up to my DH and see what he thinks. </p> <p>I'm so sorry to hear about your husbands numbers. I hope your plan of action is successful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-so-tired-of-dtd#post-2186009 Thu, 21 May 2015 13:42:24 +0000 ms.line 2186009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Crystal: We've recently learned that my husband's sperm count is super low, so sadly, no amount of Softcup use is ever going to get me pregnant. However, using Softcups for home insemination is super popular in queer &amp; lesbian communities - you can Google a lot of great success stories! Personally, we find it super easy and convenient and my DH and I always have a good laugh when we do the "hand off!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-so-tired-of-dtd#post-2186007 Thu, 21 May 2015 13:41:00 +0000 NorthStar 2186007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Crystal: my husband's response when I tell him that I'd like him to initiate is that I'm in the mood all the time, so why?? ok - seriously, just try, buddy and then perhaps, just perhaps, it will be more fun!! It's not horrible by any means, but could be so much better/more fun!!! boys!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-so-tired-of-dtd#post-2186006 Thu, 21 May 2015 13:38:55 +0000 Crystal 2186006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: @NorthStar: @mrskrumpet: @ms.line: I am SO GLAD you ladies understand! Is it bad that was my first thought when o was discussing my next cycle with the dr? </p> <p>@DesertDreams88: right now it feels like a chore, I need to do better about getting in the right mindset. </p> <p>@NorthStar: meeeeee too!! I am taking vitamins/ meds, following all of the restrictions from the dr, why can't our DHs take this on?!</p> <p>@mrskrumpet: at 2+ years in of IF, I'm just so over it! Lol I hear you about the energy thing! </p> <p>@ms.line: how is the soft up working out for you? Do you think it will help you get pregnant? That's really interesting! And I totally get the laugh so you don't cry thing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-so-tired-of-dtd#post-2185994 Thu, 21 May 2015 13:34:59 +0000 ms.line 2185994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just lol'd reading your post title - if I didn't laugh, I'd cry! Forcing it is the worst. My DH gets super stressed out having to "perform," so we learned to improvise early on. When we're in the mood we just DTD, but when we're tired or not feeling it during my fertile window, he spends a few minutes of quality alone time making a deposit into an Instead Softcup, I insert it into myself, and we both carry on about our lives without tedious, regretful sex! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-so-tired-of-dtd#post-2185986 Thu, 21 May 2015 13:32:41 +0000 mrskrumpet 2185986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree its hard some nights I'm just so tired but you have to otherwise you'll miss your window. I think that's why its taking so long this time around because I just don't have the energy to all the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-so-tired-of-dtd#post-2185978 Thu, 21 May 2015 13:31:11 +0000 NorthStar 2185978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice, but I hear you, girl. It's the same for us and I'm sick of being the initiator EVERY time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-so-tired-of-dtd#post-2185970 Thu, 21 May 2015 13:29:52 +0000 DesertDreams88 2185970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We definitely did, and it caused problems. </p> <p>We had to switch to EOD, and I did some things that I know male me feel more in the mood (lingerie, flirting before, etc) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-am-so-tired-of-dtd#post-2185943 Thu, 21 May 2015 13:22:23 +0000 Crystal 2185943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so tired of TI, where DTD becomes so forced. </p> <p>Anyone else feel the same way?</p> <p>If not, How did you keep from getting exhausted by it? </p>