https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 14 Apr 2026 22:49:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-use-some-nice-wordsthoughts#post-2558470 Fri, 27 May 2016 21:14:30 +0000 MoonMoon 2558470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jhd: that does sound rough. If the first child has difficulties, you're worried the second child might too. If the first child was pretty smooth sailing, you worry the second child won't be the same! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-use-some-nice-wordsthoughts#post-2558469 Fri, 27 May 2016 21:12:46 +0000 MoonMoon 2558469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Chuckles: hugs! That sounds like an emotional roller coaster for you.</p> <p>I think the worst part is not knowing, not having a definite plan either way. For me, I think I could talk my DH into something but it's not something you ever want to push sometime into, you know? Plus, our ages, plus the next 2 years will be crazy rough, schedule-wise. I've had to content myself that LO will be an only child, or that I might have another child around the age of 40. Not ideal, but I'm trying to deal. LO hitting the threenager years is making it a bit easier to wait, haha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-use-some-nice-wordsthoughts#post-2558367 Fri, 27 May 2016 16:14:29 +0000 Chuckles 2558367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jhd: I think I remember reading about some of your son's challenges :heart: My son didn't have anything too extreme, but we dealt with a lot of GI and oral motor issues. He needed feeding therapy, OT, and PT. Feeding is going well, but he's still in PT. I think part of my DH's concern is that we got lucky that S is doing well now and he wants to stop now while we're ahead. (I say this feeling like a total whiny baby after reading about winniebee's news) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-use-some-nice-wordsthoughts#post-2558365 Fri, 27 May 2016 16:08:17 +0000 jhd 2558365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Chuckles: yes. LO just turned two. He had a lot of health concerns his first year and several surgeries. For at least the first year or more DH couldn't even talk about having another. Right now I am definitely feeling like my fears of what could go wrong are less strong than my desire for another. I'm not sure where DH is at and we haven't had a chance to sit down and talk it out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-use-some-nice-wordsthoughts#post-2558361 Fri, 27 May 2016 15:56:17 +0000 Chuckles 2558361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jhd: Thanks! I appreciate it. I keep waiting for it to get easier, but it hasn't yet. Are you also unsure about what's happening with more kids? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-use-some-nice-wordsthoughts#post-2558335 Fri, 27 May 2016 15:01:55 +0000 jhd 2558335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Chuckles: I'm sorry you are having a rough day! :heart: :heart: I have no helpful advice, because I really don't know how to handle all this myself, but sending you hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-use-some-nice-wordsthoughts#post-2558299 Fri, 27 May 2016 14:00:37 +0000 Chuckles 2558299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@moonmoon: and anyone else struggling with this, how are you doing with the number of kids thing lately? I'm having a super rough day about it, so I wanted to check in to see how everyone else is doing. My DH has been commenting lately about how big/old our son is (he'll be 3 in July) and how much fun he is. That, plus we're in the process of buying a 3 bedroom house made me think he was reconsidering. We looked at a few places with two bedrooms and a tiny 3rd bedroom that would basically only be used as a den or playroom. And I said that I would be open to them because I'm really trying to get on board with the one kid thing, but he didn't want to buy those. Then we saw this big house (and had a discussion where I said that this is a house for a big family) and he wanted to buy it.<br /> I realize now that I was reading what I wanted to into his behavior when he didn't mean anything by it. He said last night that he still feels firmly done with one. But I let myself get a little hopeful and now I feel heartbroken all over again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-use-some-nice-wordsthoughts#post-2478669 Mon, 29 Feb 2016 14:39:45 +0000 MoonMoon 2478669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Chuckles: kind of in the same boat! If DH was on board, we would probably go for it, even with scheduling difficulties. But he's not! So I have to remember all the positives of having just one, like you said. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-use-some-nice-wordsthoughts#post-2478432 Mon, 29 Feb 2016 12:16:08 +0000 Chuckles 2478432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@moonmoon: Sending hugs your way, too :heart: I am really struggling to accept that DH will never be onboard with having a second kiddo. I totally recognize all the positives about having just one, but it's still really hard. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-use-some-nice-wordsthoughts#post-2478363 Mon, 29 Feb 2016 11:15:23 +0000 MoonMoon 2478363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you thank you thank you, everyone! Waking up and reading all your words was a great way to start this Leap Day! What I love as I look over this thread is the wide variety of answers too- people arrive at their family decisions for such a variety of reasons and circumstances. That's comforting. Hugs and :heart: back to all of you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-use-some-nice-wordsthoughts#post-2478330 Mon, 29 Feb 2016 10:41:50 +0000 Periwinkle 2478330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know this is hard, so just sending you some extra hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-use-some-nice-wordsthoughts#post-2478327 Mon, 29 Feb 2016 10:37:45 +0000 Alivoo01 2478327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>&lt;3 &lt;3 &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-use-some-nice-wordsthoughts#post-2478285 Mon, 29 Feb 2016 10:10:19 +0000 catlady 2478285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MoonMoon: I can commiserate. I am still hoping to have another, but after multiple miscarriages, I am starting to wonder how many more I can go through before giving up (plus I am 35). We are also really enjoying life with our toddler and it's getting harder and harder to envision going back to dealing with a newborn. I've been feeling pretty down about things lately too. We are taking a few months off from trying and I just see time and opportunities slipping by. Then I think about going through pregnancy and newborn stages again and it makes me so anxious. I feel like I'm on an emotional roller coaster sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-use-some-nice-wordsthoughts#post-2478216 Mon, 29 Feb 2016 09:32:26 +0000 mediagirl 2478216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MoonMoon: I commiserate. We all have our reasons why our lives are the way they are. Personally, we have one awesome kid but my husband is unemployed and we want to move to a better area and we're both old (close to and over 40) and we feel we will never get ahead with 2 kids. So, I feel your pain. It's so hard. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-use-some-nice-wordsthoughts#post-2478212 Mon, 29 Feb 2016 09:31:04 +0000 snowjewelz 2478212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can kinda relate... We are def going for #2 but sometimes I freak out over finances and wonder if it will be feasible, etc without turning our lives upside down... Big hugs :heart: :heart: Try to think about the positive! Honestly even knowing we'll have #2, I get sad that I have to share DD! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-use-some-nice-wordsthoughts#post-2478023 Mon, 29 Feb 2016 07:31:52 +0000 looch 2478023@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As a one and done mom, I do have to say, the older my son gets, the more sure I am of the decision that we made to have only one child.</p> <p>It's a journey, there was no magic moment where I can look back and say that was when I became at peace with the decision. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-use-some-nice-wordsthoughts#post-2478005 Mon, 29 Feb 2016 07:04:18 +0000 Adira 2478005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Big hugs! &lt;3 Figuring out what's best for you and your family can be so hard. I hope you find peace in whatever you decide. &lt;3 &lt;3 &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-use-some-nice-wordsthoughts#post-2477983 Mon, 29 Feb 2016 03:44:07 +0000 ScarletBegonia 2477983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're in limbo...I'm the one pressuring my husband to be one and done now. I am loving our life with our one 2 year old - we've found a great groove and I'm worried about upsetting it, plus I have a bunch of events this year that I really don't want to be pregnant for. </p> <p>But as soon as I convince myself, I start to think about little newborns, my son having a playmate, and all the other amazing things that go along with 2. </p> <p>Like I said, limbo. I feel you hard! :teamgreen: :teamgreen: :teamgreen: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-use-some-nice-wordsthoughts#post-2477962 Mon, 29 Feb 2016 00:31:34 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 2477962@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have this mental debate daily, so I can totally empathize! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-use-some-nice-wordsthoughts#post-2477915 Sun, 28 Feb 2016 22:37:16 +0000 Torchwood 2477915@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry! Lots of hugs. I was totally sold on one until a few months ago when DH said he was reconsidering. Now he's back to wanting one, but ever since he opened that door I've just gotten my heart set on it. As happy as I am with our one, when DH starts talking about not having another it's really upsetting. I hope it works out for the best for you! (And for the others who have commented that they're having the same feelings.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-use-some-nice-wordsthoughts#post-2477858 Sun, 28 Feb 2016 21:06:24 +0000 .twist. 2477858@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I understand. For different reasons. I flip flop a lot about what I want and yea, anyway, I can relate. &lt;3 Big hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-use-some-nice-wordsthoughts#post-2477854 Sun, 28 Feb 2016 21:02:50 +0000 MoonMoon 2477854@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FliegepilzHut: @macintosh: hugs to you! We waited so long because we weren't sure we wanted kids, and then we thought only one. But as soon as DS was born I was like... Oh man I want more! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-use-some-nice-wordsthoughts#post-2477718 Sun, 28 Feb 2016 17:18:54 +0000 macintosh 2477718@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MoonMoon: I totally get how you feel. I always wanted 2 kids but it may not happen now. :heart: </p> <p>@FliegepilzHut: we are in the same position. When I first had DS I thought I would be happy just to have one child, but in the back of my mind I always wanted a 2nd. We have frozen embryos so we have a chance, but money is already tight for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-use-some-nice-wordsthoughts#post-2477714 Sun, 28 Feb 2016 17:10:42 +0000 FliegepilzHut 2477714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MoonMoon: Lots of hugs! It took us quite a lot of time and effort to get our DS here, we're older FT parents, etc. The "right" approach will out with time, even if it's just "leaving it to the universe." Best wishes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-use-some-nice-wordsthoughts#post-2477713 Sun, 28 Feb 2016 17:07:27 +0000 jhd 2477713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MoonMoon: Absolutely. One day at a time. :heart: I need to remember that too. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-use-some-nice-wordsthoughts#post-2477711 Sun, 28 Feb 2016 16:52:50 +0000 MoonMoon 2477711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsStar: @2littlepumpkins: thank you ladies!</p> <p>@jhd: you've described my feelings perfectly! Just have to remember to take it one day at a time... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-use-some-nice-wordsthoughts#post-2477695 Sun, 28 Feb 2016 16:24:00 +0000 MrsStar 2477695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-use-some-nice-wordsthoughts#post-2477691 Sun, 28 Feb 2016 16:21:08 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2477691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs. I hope everything works out for the best. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-use-some-nice-wordsthoughts#post-2477672 Sun, 28 Feb 2016 15:56:22 +0000 jhd 2477672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MoonMoon: We are unsure about having any more children. Most days I'm content and happy to just wait and see what happens, but other days it makes me sad. Big hugs! :heart: I hope your day gets better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-use-some-nice-wordsthoughts#post-2477657 Sun, 28 Feb 2016 15:45:04 +0000 MoonMoon 2477657@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Greentea: @Cherrybee: thank you and :heart: ! </p>