Hellobee Boards Topic: "I cut, you choose"

Hellobee Boards Topic: "I cut, you choose" https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 13:02:01 +0000 Mrs. High Heels on ""I cut, you choose"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-cut-you-choose#post-1746257 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 18:05:24 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1746257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @gingerbebe: I've been doing a version of this too! Not with the siblings because DS is still too young, but if Noelle and her friend is playing and can't share properly after some fair warning, I'll take the toy away so nobody gets it. I think it makes total sense! Mrs. High Heels on ""I cut, you choose"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-cut-you-choose#post-1746252 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 18:03:35 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1746252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I love this idea!! Will have to implement it when the kids get older! Mrs. Tiger on ""I cut, you choose"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-cut-you-choose#post-1746250 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 18:02:55 +0000 Mrs. Tiger 1746250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yup, we did this too. There were 5 of us though, and the cutter always got last pick - huge incentive for very equal pieces! I will absolutely do this with my boys. sorrycharlie on ""I cut, you choose"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-cut-you-choose#post-1746249 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 18:02:48 +0000 sorrycharlie 1746249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ i like this idea! gingerbebe on ""I cut, you choose"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-cut-you-choose#post-1746241 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 17:57:43 +0000 gingerbebe 1746241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My mom did something different. If we ever fought over something she considered a treat or privilege, she would throw it away or destroy it. Period. I remember one time she bought a huge bag of twin pops as a summer treat and told us we could share one before dinner. We bickered over what FLAVOR to eat - we didn't even get to the splitting part - and she immediately grabbed the bag of popsicles, bashed them into smithereens in the backyard with a baseball bat, and then hosed down the patio. The end. Sounds harsh, but my brother and I learned fast to never fight over treats or no one got anything. My brother and I were 4 years apart, so my mom didn't feel like 50/50 was a reasonable way to handling sharing. Instead, she would tell me that I was the oldest, so I should try and look out for my little brother's interests since he was a little guy and she would tell my brother that he should show respect and honor to me as his elder. In that way, we were supposed to learn to be generous towards each other. Glitter on ""I cut, you choose"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-cut-you-choose#post-1744860 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 09:11:10 +0000 Glitter 1744860@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I love this idea! I hope I remember it when we have kids of cutting/sharing age. LuLu Mom on ""I cut, you choose"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-cut-you-choose#post-1744813 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 08:53:43 +0000 LuLu Mom 1744813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yep we did this, no 3/4 and 1/4 in our family :) I will do it with my kids too. dagret on ""I cut, you choose"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-cut-you-choose#post-1744793 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 08:48:32 +0000 dagret 1744793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Sapphiresun: my mom did this with us, and then in college we learned about it as a game/fairness theory in my math for liberal studies class. I also learned some good parenting strategies (for when a kid is older) in my conflict resolution class. Corduroy on ""I cut, you choose"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-cut-you-choose#post-1744783 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 08:45:31 +0000 Corduroy 1744783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My parents did this when my brother and I were kids. DH and I still do it! autumnlove on ""I cut, you choose"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-cut-you-choose#post-1744768 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 08:36:51 +0000 autumnlove 1744768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes, we did this. I don't know if my toddler will want to do this yet!!! T-Mom on ""I cut, you choose"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-cut-you-choose#post-1744764 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 08:34:37 +0000 T-Mom 1744764@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Great tip, starting this today! JoJoGirl on ""I cut, you choose"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-cut-you-choose#post-1744731 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 08:19:58 +0000 JoJoGirl 1744731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We totally did this, and I also remember being REALLY REALLY CAREFUL to make sure both sides were exactly the same :) mrsjyw on ""I cut, you choose"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-cut-you-choose#post-1744699 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 08:13:14 +0000 mrsjyw 1744699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Sapphiresun: such a great, clever idea!! Mrs. Oatmeal on ""I cut, you choose"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-cut-you-choose#post-1744696 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 08:12:43 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 1744696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We always did this! I remember trying to trick my sister (I am 5 years older). So I'd pour her pop into a tall skinny glass and mine in a short wide one...and she would always take the tall glass because it looked like more. Terrible big sister award ;) Mrs. Lemon-Lime on ""I cut, you choose"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-cut-you-choose#post-1744614 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 07:45:26 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1744614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I love this idea, but my parents didn't really do this with us. My bro and I are 7 years apart so I dictated a lot of what happened. For kids closer in age going through similar learning stages this is a great idea. .twist. on ""I cut, you choose"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-cut-you-choose#post-1744592 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 07:35:52 +0000 .twist. 1744592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ What a clever idea! I'm going to start using it with our boys! I don't think my parents had any neat tricks like this. I was younger than my brother by 13 years, so no sharing problems there and about the same gap between any of my cousins. So no tricks were needed, really.. Mrs. Jump Rope on ""I cut, you choose"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-cut-you-choose#post-1744582 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 07:25:01 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1744582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Ms.Pumpkin: for us, the oldest always got the front seat. I'm 30 and catch myself whining, "but IM THE OLDEST!!!" if we are taking my parents car. :silly: @Sapphiresun: I've never heard of this but it's clever and I hope to remember it!! Ms.Pumpkin on ""I cut, you choose"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-cut-you-choose#post-1744573 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 07:14:00 +0000 Ms.Pumpkin 1744573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My Mom always made my sister and I do this! It really did work well! Back in the (bad) old days, when kids were allowed to ride in the front seat of the car, Mom also used to strictly enforce a front seat rotation- I'd get to sit in front on the way out, and Sis would get the front on the return. This switching is so ingrained into us that we recently realized that we STILL do this unconsciously, 20+ years later! :grin: looch on ""I cut, you choose"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-cut-you-choose#post-1744568 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 07:07:18 +0000 looch 1744568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ There was a peanut butter commercial with this exact premise, mom makes a sandwich, one kid cuts, the other chooses. It's do simple and brilliant. Silva on ""I cut, you choose"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-cut-you-choose#post-1744563 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 07:02:16 +0000 Silva 1744563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ my husband and i still do this when we split dessert :silly: blackbird on ""I cut, you choose"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-cut-you-choose#post-1744550 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 06:52:42 +0000 blackbird 1744550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ This is so clever! I don't remember my parents having any good tricks like this! Mamaof2 on ""I cut, you choose"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-cut-you-choose#post-1744544 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 06:50:09 +0000 Mamaof2 1744544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I do this with my kids - 5.5 and 3 yrs old My 5.5 yr old will stare at the drink/snack and make sure he is picking the biggest one! :silly: Dandelion on ""I cut, you choose"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-cut-you-choose#post-1744505 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 05:51:49 +0000 Dandelion 1744505@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yep we did it. I do it with D and my niece often. SleepyMonkey on ""I cut, you choose"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-cut-you-choose#post-1744490 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 04:37:58 +0000 SleepyMonkey 1744490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I didn't know this trick until my co worker told me about it. I think it is brilliant! I definitely plan on using it. StbHisMrs on ""I cut, you choose"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-cut-you-choose#post-1744480 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 04:07:56 +0000 StbHisMrs 1744480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I was an only child so I only did this with my cousins when we'd spend part of the summer at my Grandparents. @kentuckygirl: That is a great idea, I think I'll use that when they're older! Snowdrop on ""I cut, you choose"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-cut-you-choose#post-1744475 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 03:49:11 +0000 Snowdrop 1744475@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We used to do this after our sharing got out of hand (totally unequal). We obviously liked it because we would dk it when our parents weren't even there. No one wanted to be the cutter incase a mistake was made and often the kitchen scales were brought out! twodoghouse on ""I cut, you choose"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-cut-you-choose#post-1744462 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 02:49:19 +0000 twodoghouse 1744462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My ILs did this with their boys! We'll probably do this with our kids, too, since it seems to make sense. @kentuckygirl: That's a good one too! I can't remember anything clever like this that we did in our house growing up! kentuckygirl on ""I cut, you choose"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-cut-you-choose#post-1744456 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 02:24:11 +0000 kentuckygirl 1744456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We did this too! On long car trips, our parents gave us each a roll of quarters. Every time we asked "how much longer / when will we be there?" we had to give them back one of the quarters from our roll. We got to keep the quarters we had left at the end of the trip, so it was a good way to keep us from asking the annoying questions! Sapphiresun on ""I cut, you choose"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-cut-you-choose#post-1744453 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 01:57:48 +0000 Sapphiresun 1744453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I was talking with my mom today about how this is the parenting "trick" I remember most from my childhood. Anytime me and my sister had to share something (my mom would have one of us cut/pour/divide the item, and the other got first choice of which portion we wanted. I remember painstakingly making sure that when we shared a can of pop that those levels were perfectly even, or each half of the cookie was either exactly equal in size, slightly off, but one side appeared to have more chocolate chips. Now as an adult, I think it's quite clever, since we rarely fought about who's share was better, since the cutter always believed the pieces were equal and the chooser got to pick what they considered better, so nobody could really be upset. Do you guys do this with your kids? Do you have any parenting methods that you distinctly remember from your own childhood?