https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Apr 2026 16:24:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-didnt-know-i-was-pregnant-2/page/2#post-1906037 Sat, 18 Oct 2014 13:19:32 +0000 Dandelion 1906037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: her mom helped her raise it. She's 34, now, and the daughter is 21 and they live together.</p> <p>ETA: Her mom didn't know anything about the abuse until the baby showed up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-didnt-know-i-was-pregnant-2/page/2#post-1906035 Sat, 18 Oct 2014 13:16:03 +0000 jedeve 1906035@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: oh that must have been so scary for her. That I could get, if you didn't know what you were looking for. What happened to the baby? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-didnt-know-i-was-pregnant-2/page/2#post-1905939 Sat, 18 Oct 2014 10:04:19 +0000 pui 1905939@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't buy it.</p> <p>How do you not feel them moving? At some point you can't write it off as just gas. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-didnt-know-i-was-pregnant-2/page/2#post-1905905 Sat, 18 Oct 2014 09:32:17 +0000 erwoo 1905905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBySurpise: Wow, that is just wild! I'm glad all was well with you and your baby! A friend of mine's cousin whom I've met before didn't know she was pregnant until two weeks before she gave birth. And she was probably a size 6? Turns out her baby was waaay up there and sideways (transverse?) so she just looked like she had a beer gut b/c she liked to drink. Fortunately, for her her baby was born perfectly healthy despite and drinking and smoking. She was really, really lucky! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-didnt-know-i-was-pregnant-2/page/2#post-1905874 Sat, 18 Oct 2014 07:53:48 +0000 loveisstrange 1905874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My BFFs aunt didnt know until just weeks before giving birth. She was very tiny and continued to have her period.</p> <p>My mom didn't know with me until she was like 6 months. She thought she was pregnant, but dismissed it after many negative tests, both at home and with her doctor. They found me with an ultrasound while they were looking for cancer. </p> <p>I could buy it.... but I agree its probably a lot less common than people claim. I think its a definite issue of denial for some people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-didnt-know-i-was-pregnant-2/page/2#post-1905870 Sat, 18 Oct 2014 07:26:50 +0000 Dandelion 1905870@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I knew a girl who was 13 and pregnant and didn't know she was pregnant until she was in labor.. She was a victim of family abuse (to put it mildly), and never had her period before she got pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-didnt-know-i-was-pregnant-2/page/2#post-1905837 Sat, 18 Oct 2014 01:11:04 +0000 Applesandbananas 1905837@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I could buy it. I delivered at 36 weeks and you couldn't tell I was pregnant. My neighbors were shocked when they saw us walking in with a car seat (not that we are super close, but they saw me out and about and stuff). The folks at church were surprised too and they saw me every Sunday. LO was planned and I was charting and symptom spotting like a madman so I knew but I worry about a surprise sometimes. I currently have an IUD and I never get periods and I haven't lost my pregnancy weight so I think it could sneak past me! I actually took a test a few weeks ago because I was so so so exhausted, it felt like a flashback to the first trimester. And I still get phantom kicks... So yeah. I could see how it could happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-didnt-know-i-was-pregnant-2/page/2#post-1905824 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 23:38:27 +0000 birdofafeather 1905824@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBySurpise: Wow! I would have never guessed you were pregnant! What an incredible shock and sounds like an amazing surprise! I would love (and I'm sure many others would too!) to hear about that transition from not knowing to suddenly having a baby in your arms. Welcome to the bee and so glad you got your daughter who sounds much loved and wanted! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-didnt-know-i-was-pregnant-2/page/2#post-1905808 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 22:37:58 +0000 MrsSCB 1905808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBySurpise: thanks for sharing, and I agree -- you don't look pregnant at all! I hope youre not offended by anything that's been said, I think it's too easy sometimes to think, "well I looked like this" or "I felt like this, so no way is it possible." But every pregnancy is different, that's for sure! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-didnt-know-i-was-pregnant-2/page/2#post-1905796 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 21:48:56 +0000 travellingbee 1905796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBySurpise: Nope! You don't look a smidge pregnant! Amazing!<br /> A woman at my church growing up was pregnant (and knew) but didn't show at all so most of us didn't know.. One day she showed up with a baby and we were like what?! And my MIL is super thin but almost 6 feet tall. The photos of her at 9 months pregnant looked like me at 4 months! She said she was really sad that she never got a cute round bump. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-didnt-know-i-was-pregnant-2/page/2#post-1905781 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 21:17:39 +0000 erinpye 1905781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like in rare circumstances, it's probably true that someone didn't know she was pregnant, however, no way does it happen as often as people claim! For me, I was so sick from before my stick said positive, until my babies were born, there is zero chance I would ever be pregnant and not know it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-didnt-know-i-was-pregnant-2/page/2#post-1905685 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 19:24:35 +0000 winniebee 1905685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBySurpise: wow congratulations! I never would have guessed you were pregnant either from those pics. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-didnt-know-i-was-pregnant-2/page/2#post-1905653 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 18:01:18 +0000 lilyofthewest 1905653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBySurpise: Adorable puppy! I would never've guessed you were pregnant from those pictures. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-didnt-know-i-was-pregnant-2/page/2#post-1905648 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 17:53:03 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1905648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBySurpise: welcome, lurker-no-more :wink: You sure didn't look pregnant! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-didnt-know-i-was-pregnant-2/page/2#post-1905609 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 17:01:40 +0000 lilyofthewest 1905609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think if I didn't have any reason to think I could be pregnant I could potentially overlook it for quite a while. But, I would think something else was wrong. I have generally felt better pregnant than I did menstruating, but, I would've been pretty worried by the weeks where 11 hours of sleep per night was not enough and the only food with any appeal at all was feta cheese. If not pregnancy, I might've thought I had cancer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-didnt-know-i-was-pregnant-2/page/2#post-1905604 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 16:56:15 +0000 babybysurprise 1905604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamaof2: So I had little bit of a time trying to find picture of my tummy. Being a bigger girl I don't exactly like posing with a profile of my tummy. The first pic is from before I was with child...most likely about a month (april 2013). The second pic is while I was pregnant about 4 1/2 months (end of sept 2013). The last picture is from Christmas eve. unfortunately, the best one I found is me holding our new puppy Chloe (she was about 3 months old at the time). I was about 34-35 weeks at the time. My daugher was born on the 4th of February.</p> <p>As far the whole denial debate. I had no reason to be denial. I wanted to be pregnant more than anything during the time these pictures were taken. Looking at our Christmas pictures brought me to tears. I had always daydreamed about being pregnant at Christmas. Me being all big and round, everyone together and exciting about the new year and the new life that was about to be. That dream was real and I missed it. </p> <p>I wouldn't change her birth story for anything but please don't judge what you haven't experienced. </p> [attach=5550/14/ndlzls.329x279.April-2013.jpg] [attach=5550/14/ndlzlu.246x211.End-of-Sept-2013.jpg] [attach=5550/14/ndlzlw.223x363.Christmas-2013.jpg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-didnt-know-i-was-pregnant-2/page/2#post-1905584 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 16:30:18 +0000 babybysurprise 1905584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamaof2:So I was able to find some pictures but I have no idea how to post them. I tried coping and pasting but no dice. Can someone tell me how to post them...thanks.</p> <p>SOOO totally just figured it....there a button that was hiding on me......will post separately :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-didnt-know-i-was-pregnant-2/page/2#post-1905440 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 14:43:43 +0000 rachiecakes 1905440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Boheme: a coworker of mine had that happen, she also ran two marathons! she found out at 20 weeks she was pregnant. </p> <p>I had a neighbor that never showed, she was tiiiiny and never looked pregnant. I used to hear her throwing up all the time though, our bathrooms must've been wall to wall. She was so skinny I thought she had an eating disorder. Poor thing probably had HG! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-didnt-know-i-was-pregnant-2/page/2#post-1905419 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 14:30:28 +0000 Boheme 1905419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My roommate in college was far enough along that she found out her baby's gender when she found out she was pregnant!<br /> She has Crohns Disease, so food aversions, abdominal pain, bloating, basically all first trimester GI symptoms, were par for the course for her. She had abnormal periods anyway. She was in complete shock! I think she was around 17 weeks? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-didnt-know-i-was-pregnant-2/page/2#post-1905358 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 13:58:17 +0000 artsyfartsy 1905358@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was a house when I was 34 weeks (I'll add a cropped photo in a minute) and my belly was trying to jump off my body because T was moving so much. </p> <p>I had a friend due one month before me and I saw her a week before she went into labor and she had just a small bump. She carried super high and small. If you didn't know She was pregnant you wouldn't have been able to tell at all. </p> <p>I have a hard time believing it because of my experience with pregnancy...especially imagining twins!!...but in some cases you never know. Especially if thinking you're peegnant is the last thing on your mind.</p> <p>ETA: I can't add a photo!! My phone hasn't let me since the ios8 update. It says server not available. Grr. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-didnt-know-i-was-pregnant-2/page/2#post-1905325 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 13:38:57 +0000 Mrs. Blue 1905325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: On the movement thing, I felt way less movement with twins than with this baby. I think they just don't have room. </p> <p>That said, I cannot buy that someone didn't know they were pregnant with twins. You get so big and so uncomfortable. If you didn't think you were pregnant you would be seeking medical help for what you believe is a giant painful tumor. That's my two cents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-didnt-know-i-was-pregnant-2/page/2#post-1905313 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 13:33:22 +0000 ShootingStar 1905313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Technically she must have had intermittent bleeding caused by something, but not a period. </p> <p>I can kind of believe that in very rare circumstances someone may not know. I had a friend who never really popped when she was PG and she was kind of sad that she never really looked pregnant. And I guess there are people that don't feel much movement. I admit that for months post partum I would feel stomach rumblings and it would feel EXACTLY like baby movement. It made me wonder half the kicks I thought I was feeling when pregnant were really just gas. Once or twice I even thought I was pregnant again. </p> <p>The hardest part for me is believe that someone doesn't feel any different. I had food aversions, heart burn, and tons of fatigue. And I got off easy without much morning sickness or swelling. But not have nothing? Not one on-going symptom that kicks your ass and makes you wonder what the F is going on? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-didnt-know-i-was-pregnant-2/page/2#post-1905258 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 12:52:35 +0000 LovelyPlum 1905258@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@StbHisMrs: whoa!!</p> <p>@Loki: that is a huge transition! I could see why everyone would be in shock. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-didnt-know-i-was-pregnant-2/page/2#post-1905244 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 12:40:41 +0000 StbHisMrs 1905244@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travellingbee: It was crazy! We found out in January that we were due in May, then he came in April :shocked: But there was no way that I could ignore it after I found out, and to make it to delivery without knowing would've been impossible for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-didnt-know-i-was-pregnant-2/page/2#post-1905199 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 12:22:32 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1905199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: my MIL had her period during at least one of her pregnancies. She knew she was pregnant, but AF kept visiting her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-didnt-know-i-was-pregnant-2/page/2#post-1905151 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 11:59:57 +0000 BandDmommy 1905151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: exactly my point! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-didnt-know-i-was-pregnant-2/page/2#post-1905086 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 11:23:28 +0000 Adira 1905086@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Caly: Also, it sounded like there was only one sac and one placenta, so in general, they were taking up less space than most twins normally do? I'm actually amazed that they are relatively healthy considering she received zero prenatal care! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-didnt-know-i-was-pregnant-2/page/2#post-1905081 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 11:20:26 +0000 Caly 1905081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: true, anything is possible. Mine were approx 9 lbs combined so not too much more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-didnt-know-i-was-pregnant-2/page/2#post-1905067 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 11:07:20 +0000 Adira 1905067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Caly: But combined, they were only about 7 lbs, so it's not like they were huge babies making lots of noise in there. And maybe if she had a numb stomach like my friend, she wouldn't have felt them at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-didnt-know-i-was-pregnant-2/page/2#post-1905063 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 11:04:14 +0000 mrsjazz 1905063@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can buy it. We're all trying to have babies, not everyone is watching for every twinge, peeing on sticks all the time, tracking their charts. I'm sure some people can look at this site and be totally judgey about some of us are obsessing about being pregnant. We can turn that judgment down a bit, right?</p> <p>I know lots of people with PCOS, sporadic periods, etc. I have lots of stomach issues that honestly kicking could have felt like something up with my intestines, haha. I have seen people who are pregnant but never looked pregnant, just like they might have gained a few lbs. For me it's harder to believe when the people who don't know are skinny minis.</p> <p>Perhaps for some people it is denial, for others it is ignorance and not knowing about their bodies, and sometimes it just happens. </p>