https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 19 Apr 2026 20:17:51 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-do-not-want-kids#post-2870837 Thu, 07 Feb 2019 12:58:21 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2870837@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ALV91711: I have a feeling it will. Right now she also wants to be a professor (she thinks that's what I am because I teach adults, so it's easier to roll with it LOL) and a mom because I am one and an explorer (that's her own thing). I grew up wanting to be just like my mom too, and then in high school went a very different route (and then came back around again 10-15 years later, ironically) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-do-not-want-kids#post-2870803 Thu, 07 Feb 2019 08:47:52 +0000 Lindsay05 2870803@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually just say that she can do whatever she wants when she is a grown up as long as it makes her happy. We haven’t gotten into the sex talk yet but I think generalizing it to start is a good way to approach it. Details will come when they are ready to handle it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-do-not-want-kids#post-2870801 Thu, 07 Feb 2019 08:37:50 +0000 ALV91711 2870801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Carrot: it will be interesting to see if her opinion changes over time. </p> <p>My DS who is 5 talks about when he has kids one day. I just hope he doesn’t make me a grandma too soon!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-do-not-want-kids#post-2870796 Thu, 07 Feb 2019 08:25:05 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2870796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: Wanted to cosign this comment. This hasn't come up with my daughter but whenever she talks about family in the mom-dad structure, we always make a point of saying that families come in all kinds of configurations. And any time she brings up wanting to be a mommy, I tell her she gets to decide. Because she might decide not to have a partner of any kind and be a parent, or partner with someone of whatever gender and decide to be a parent (or not) and I want to leave those areas as undefined as possible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-do-not-want-kids#post-2870732 Wed, 06 Feb 2019 18:58:11 +0000 mrsbookworm 2870732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 4yo said the same thing. I told her that it’s her decision and she doesn’t have to have kids if she doesn’t want them. Then I asked her why. Turns out, she doesn’t want a c-section like her mama. 😂. I guess my frank discussion of the different ways babies are born made an impression! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-do-not-want-kids#post-2870709 Wed, 06 Feb 2019 16:19:22 +0000 irene 2870709@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it is a good answer, except I'd probably say:</p> <p>When you meet a nice boy you are planning to marry, tell him you don't want kids. Make sure he doesn't want them too. Then you won't have kids.</p> <p>Because, if the boy wants it and the girl doesn't, it will brew a lot of problems (personal experience) so personally I would ease that in lol. But who knows, maybe your DD would want them a few years later, haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-do-not-want-kids#post-2870551 Tue, 05 Feb 2019 18:09:41 +0000 DesertDreams88 2870551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it was an OK answer, though it's a bit heteronormative and restrict sex to only something that married couples do. And if that's your family's view on things, that's fine. Just a different perspective.</p> <p> I personally think that 6 years old is definitely old enough to start learning the basic biology of things but if you don't feel comfortable for that, you probably have a bit more time to warm up to the idea. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-do-not-want-kids#post-2800760 Tue, 30 Jan 2018 10:06:46 +0000 Ajsmommy 2800760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I probably would have said the something similar or something like "you have plenty of time to think about it and decide but it's your decision so if you don't want to then you don't have to."</p> <p>My dd always says she wants to marry her brother :shocked: we laugh it off and usually say something to insinuate that her mind might change as she gets older (hopefully LOL) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-do-not-want-kids#post-2800608 Mon, 29 Jan 2018 15:46:06 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2800608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that's a good answer to the way she phrased the question, but I have also told my 5 year old son in proper terms how babies are born vaginally or via C-section. I liken it to science and the way the body words. I've told him his birth story where he got stuck and couldn't come out, so they had to cut me open to get him out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-do-not-want-kids#post-2800575 Mon, 29 Jan 2018 14:02:31 +0000 raspberries 2800575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree, I think that's a good answer! DS1 (who's 2.5) is currently on the other end of the spectrum - he announced the other day that he wants to have 14 babies when he's a grownup. I was like, hmmm....I think your future wife might have something to say about that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-do-not-want-kids#post-2800521 Mon, 29 Jan 2018 12:01:06 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2800521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that's a good answer!</p> <p>Side note: my friends daughter said she didn't want kids because it would be annoying to have kids that didn't listen 😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-do-not-want-kids#post-2800519 Mon, 29 Jan 2018 11:56:01 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2800519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Exactly what you said. I think it’s great you normalized her feelings. My younger bro has said for years he doesn’t want children and my husband is always suggesting I try to talk him into kids. Umm no- it’s perfectly normal not to have the maternal or paternal desire to have children. </p> <p>Of course when your LO is older she’ll have to do more than just talk to her husband. :silly: When I was TTC I was talking with one of my cousins how I was tracking my cycle to conceive and wouldn’t you know she was doing the same thing to prevent pregnancy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-do-not-want-kids#post-2800468 Mon, 29 Jan 2018 09:29:55 +0000 Mamaof2 2800468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 6 yr old DD told me yesterday she did not want kids and what if she HAS to have them - I told her she didn't have to have kids and she wanted to know how she could avoid it - I was like ummmmm - LOL</p> <p>Finally I just said "when you get married tell your husband you don't want kids and you wont have them"</p> <p>She was happy with that answer thank goodness :silly: </p> <p>what would you have said? </p>