https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Jul 2026 07:13:29 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-like-you-1#post-2383786 Thu, 10 Dec 2015 08:45:14 +0000 Ms maths 2383786@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just listened to a (Janet Lansbury) podcast about this! The podcast was actually about a child who was showing a strong preference for his mother and would say things like this to the father as a result. So slightly different situation, but maybe still applicable.</p> <p>Her thoughts:<br /> -It is not true that your child doesn't like you. (Which you probably know, but it's still good to be reminded!)<br /> -They are saying this to work out some big emotions but don't have a better way of doing it; take it as a good thing that they are comfortable sharing this with you.<br /> -"Be the bigger person." Knowing that it isn't really about you, work on acknowledging her own feelings rather than focusing on your hurt. (Since you had a guess of what she was upset about, maybe it would be useful to talk through that with her and, over time, she would be better able to name the thing she was really upset about?_ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-like-you-1#post-2383785 Thu, 10 Dec 2015 08:44:45 +0000 pwnstar 2383785@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: I say something very similar, in order to acknowledge her feelings (and as adults, we don't like everyone all the time either) and to let her know that no matter what, I still love her.</p> <p>@Bao: Every mama hears this (or a close cousin of it), and it sucks. ((hugs)) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-like-you-1#post-2383779 Thu, 10 Dec 2015 08:42:58 +0000 lovehoneybee 2383779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep. We also get "You are making me very sad and upset and frustrated mommy. I am not happy with you." I try not to take it personally, and sit with him and talk about what I did that made him so unhappy. Usually it's something silly, like "You turned on the light" (instead of letting him), but when it's something more serious we talk about why I did what I did and what we can do differently next time. I try to use it as an opportunity to talk about feelings and how to handle them.</p> <p>ETA: Sometimes I really have to bite back a "well I don't like you very much right now!" although occasionally a "Well, I don't like the way you're acting/talking to me right now" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-like-you-1#post-2383772 Thu, 10 Dec 2015 08:35:52 +0000 Smurfette 2383772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep. Broke my heart into a million pieces. I just told her that we don't say that to someone. How it hurts Mommy/anyone else's feelings. She said one time she didn't like a friend in her class. I told her you don't have to like everyone but you do have to be nice and again, we don't say that to their face, it would hurt their feeling. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-like-you-1#post-2383763 Thu, 10 Dec 2015 08:28:18 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2383763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Great comments and suggestions. </p> <p>My DD came back one time with "You're a bad mommy" and I told her that no, I wasn't a bad mommy, I was doing my job to keep her safe and healthy. She could be upset with me or mad at me, but I am still a good mommy and will always love her. She seemed to understand. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-like-you-1#post-2383745 Thu, 10 Dec 2015 08:19:31 +0000 hilsy85 2383745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've been hearing a lot of "I don't love you!" Lately since dd was born. I don't guilt him about it, since I think it's just the way he is expressing anger and sadness. I just say, " I know you're angry right now and that's okay. I love you." I want him to feel comfortable expressing negative emotions to me without worrying about making me sad or angry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-like-you-1#post-2383743 Thu, 10 Dec 2015 08:18:03 +0000 MrsSRS 2383743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With the kids I know, them knowing it makes someone sad to hear that is powerful and increases use. So I usually say something like, "that's ok. You don't have to like everyone all the time, but you do need to use a kind voice." Then I change the topic: "I'm going to go read. Would you like to read with me or go play blocks?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-like-you-1#post-2382073 Thu, 10 Dec 2015 08:15:00 +0000 Bao 2382073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got my first "I don't like you" comment the other day, and I was definitely not ready for that one! I was holding LO who is 3 in the kitchen and tickling her, she was a little upset about something else (we were having a sitter come that night, and she didn't want us to leave)...so I was trying to cheer her up. Then out of no where she said she didn't like me. I'm guessing it was because we were leaving her and that was her way of expressing she was upset? I wasn't really sure how to react so I just set her down and told her that made me really sad. I tried not to stress to much about it but I did think about it for a while and play it over in my head why she would feel that way. </p> <p>Has your LO ever told you they don't like you? How did you react? </p>