https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 22:35:00 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-think-fil-understands-my-bf-plans#post-196835 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 22:01:43 +0000 heffalump 196835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I bottle feed and my mil and fil have given her bottles. But that doesn't mean lo won't get fussy with them, most of the time she won't even take a bottle from them. She sees them once a week, and at 11 months is finally starting to let them pick her up without screaming. She has stranger anxiety, and no amount of letting other people feed her helps with that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-think-fil-understands-my-bf-plans#post-196822 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 21:40:46 +0000 mrstilly 196822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My in laws were the same way. They were generally supportive of breastfeeding, but only seemed to think it was "normal" for the first 2-3 months, then change to formula. I nursed as long as I could, which ended up only being 7 months. I plan to nurse all of my kids for as long as I am able and they are willing. </p> <p>I just had to smile and ignore the comments, as I do about some other things. Now that DS is older, things are a bit easier. Just stick to your guns and try not to take it personally. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-think-fil-understands-my-bf-plans#post-196780 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 20:20:48 +0000 prettylizy 196780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I pump and DH gives er a bottle at night, but if we're out an about I'll just vpnurse her because I dont like pumping when I'm out of the house, and if we bottle feed her and I don't pump I get super engorged. </p> <p>I just think its silly that he thinks bonding with her is only possible through feeding her. Were hoping to start solids by baby led weaning........ That's probably n going to go over well either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-think-fil-understands-my-bf-plans#post-196768 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 20:13:23 +0000 lemondrop 196768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, but it isn't their decision. </p> <p>My IL's formula fed my husband and his sister, and she formula fed her boys, so they really don't have any experience with bf'ing. My take is as the baby's parents you choose the best way to feed your baby, nobody else has a say. </p> <p>They don't really have issues with it, I just get the occasional comment that our pediatrician uncle says babies don't necessarily need breastfeeding after 6 months (not really used in the context he meant)- my reply is that I would prefer not to buy formula since it is so expensive, and it is going well now so we are aiming for a year-ish.</p> <p>I do pump along with bf, so I give a bottle of pumped milk at least once a day to reinforce it for my work days and to take a break. Everyone has had plenty of chances to feed him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-think-fil-understands-my-bf-plans#post-196747 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 19:58:03 +0000 autumnlove 196747@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Glad everything is going smoothly with feeding your LO! I'm sure your FIL will bond just fine without bottles when your LO gets a little older. I wasn't in the same situation with feedings but my inlaws like to make comments like that about other stuff!</p> <p>Before I gave birth, I knew I wanted to pump and build a stash so I could get help with feedings. We introduced a bottle at day 4 and DH/ family members just loved giving LO bottles of pumped milk! This definitely came in handy during the first month when DH had the month off work. I was able to sleep in or through the night and he helped with night feedings. It also came in handy when we took a weekend trip and left LO with my eager parents! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-think-fil-understands-my-bf-plans#post-196736 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 19:49:20 +0000 T.H.O.U. 196736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a few issues with my inlaws. I understand there is something sweet about feeding a baby but there are other ways to bond with them. Often I would nurse and then let them try to rock her to sleep. </p> <p>Keep up the great work and don't let them get to you. Plus the worst this will last is until 6 months or so when the fun comes with feeding solids! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-think-fil-understands-my-bf-plans#post-196710 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 19:23:29 +0000 chopsuey 196710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom thought I was a little loco when I mentioned tandem nursing my LO and newborn. HAHA. </p> <p>It's great that you want to nurse as long as possible! but if I were you I'd introduce a bottle before it's too late. My LO started rejecting the bottle at around 3 months old. I gave her 1-2 bottles of pumped milk/day before that, but went almost a week just nursing her. *sigh. she got spoiled during that week. </p> <p>Exclusively nursing for the last 11 months has been great, but it was tough because I couldn't be away from my baby for more than 3 hours! She's almost 15 months old now and still nursing, but not as often since she's eating solids and drinking whole milk. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-think-fil-understands-my-bf-plans#post-196697 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 19:10:57 +0000 prettylizy 196697@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Im ebfing Prettybaby, and at three months it's going awesome. On more than one occasion my FIL has made comments that he feels he hasn't bonded with her because he hasn't been able to give her any bottles. Fwiw, my sil has two kids (2 yrs and 5 mos) and she's bottle fed them both so everyone has had turns feeding them. The other day she was being fussy with him and he said once she's off the boob he can start feeding her bottles and then they will be able t bond. He has also asked me how long I plan on doing this for. DH and I have tried to explain that I want to bf her as long as is feasible, it's just tough because e really doesn't get it. </p> <p>Anyone else have issues with people expecting early weaning? </p>