https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 05 May 2026 18:37:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-be-that-person/page/2#post-925258 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 22:44:16 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 925258@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: Is having it in there for a prolonged time harmful? My son is 20lbs and ours says 15lbs, but I kind of want to keep it in there because i'm a worrywart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-be-that-person/page/2#post-925256 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 22:43:08 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 925256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>SO.HARD. but you can't say anything.<br /> These kinds of things make my skin crawl. But, we must shut our traps. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-be-that-person/page/2#post-925241 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 22:35:02 +0000 rawrasaur 925241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wheres_c: did anyone say anything about it? I kept hoping someone else would comment on my friends pictures. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-be-that-person/page/2#post-925193 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 22:17:52 +0000 wheres_c 925193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My friend just posted a pic of their infant forward facing on fb today!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-be-that-person/page/2#post-925158 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 22:08:51 +0000 autumnlove 925158@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: I totally forgot about this and I just removed the pads for my 13lber! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-be-that-person/page/2#post-923479 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 15:31:09 +0000 Protectlove 923479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am a Car Seat Technician and knowing how dangerous it is I would absolutely message her. Most moms make the mistake unknowingly and just need to be informed. It is especially concerning knowing it is a long car trip they are on. Best of luck- I know it is a tough decision. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-be-that-person/page/2#post-923183 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 14:40:08 +0000 MsLipGloss 923183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: It totally made sense! It's so hard to know what the best/right thing to do is . . . and I totally agree that (most, if not all) parents just want the absolute best for the LOs. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-be-that-person/page/2#post-923118 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 14:31:00 +0000 looch 923118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: I agree, we all want to have our children be the safest possible, but not all of those extras are tested in order to prove they're safer ( I hope that made sense).</p> <p>eta: the only car seats I think are truly "safer" are the Swedish convertibles. Those have been extensively tested and are installed differently than US seats, so for me, those are worth it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-be-that-person/page/2#post-923012 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 14:10:37 +0000 MamaMoose 923012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's so hard because sometimes people really don't know the risks. I was recently with my cousin and she had the same Chicco KeyFit car seat as us. She had mentioned earlier in the day that her LO was 15lbs and then when she went to put LO in the car seat I noticed she still had the infant pad in there (which is supposed to be removed at 11lbs). I just casually said oh hey, the manual says you should pull that thing out after they're 11lbs. She was greatful I pointed it out as she hadn't known that. BUT... that was a situation where I could just kind of casually say something without making a production out of specifically reaching out to her just to point out a parenting mistake she made. In your situation I would probably leave it alone but it would bother me a lot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-be-that-person#post-922966 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 14:04:23 +0000 Torchwood 922966@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jmarionsmith: Glad to see I'm not the only one who keeps quiet on these things! I feel exactly the same way. I couldn't live with myself if something happened and I'd kept my mouth shut. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-be-that-person#post-922807 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 13:35:28 +0000 LuLu Mom 922807@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would leave it be since you are not very close with them. It would be different if you were close friends and you could say "hey you know it's not safe &amp; against the law you should switch it back around!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-be-that-person#post-922785 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 13:31:21 +0000 jmarionsmith 922785@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i was in a similar situation a couple of years ago. my brother and sil pulled up to a cookout with their 3 month old in my sil's lap! they only drove about 3/4 of a mile but the cookout was on a really country road and deer are majorly over populated. also, my brother has a HORRIBLE driving record and has literally said, proudly, "i have two speeds, fast and faster." </p> <p>i was beside myself with anger that they would put their infant daughter in that type of danger but i bit my tongue at the time in order to not cause an argument in front of the entire family.</p> <p>but i did end up sending my sil a message that night basically saying i know you thought it just a short drive and nothing would happen, but statistics show that most car accidents happen within miles of your house and i just want you to be aware..."</p> <p>i basically got a big fat eff you in response. and i was told that it was their baby and they could do what they wanted to with her. i then told her well if i saw it again i would call the police. harsh? maybe, but my niece's safety is more important to me than my sil's and brother's feelings.</p> <p>basically all this is to say that if you do decide to say something it is almost for sure not going to be received well. at the same time, you have to decide what you can live with. personally, i knew if something ever happened to my niece while she was in the car with them and i had never spoken up i would live with that regret for the rest of my life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-be-that-person#post-922675 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 13:04:34 +0000 MsLipGloss 922675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: I agree that all car seats have to meet a *minimum* requirement . . . but to the extent that I can get a car seat that exceeds those minimum requirements, even if it is just a little bit better, I am certainly going to do that . . . The goal being to increase the odds of LO being unharmed in an accident to the greatest extent possible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-be-that-person#post-922616 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 12:51:20 +0000 Torchwood 922616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rawrasaur: Though it occurs to me that I'm not the best person to ask. My cousin went around telling our family that I was trying to take away her kids, after I asked one of my aunts if her spanking was as out of control as it seemed from her blog. (It wasn't, and I dropped it. And I never intended to do anything but talk to my cousin herself if it was. Oy.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-be-that-person#post-922606 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 12:50:17 +0000 looch 922606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>But I thought all car seats had to meet minimum safety requirements in order to be sold in the US, just like cribs? I know I read that some where but I have a meeting I have to chair in a few minutes and I don't have time to look.</p> <p>My point is whether you spend $50 or $500, they're both safe if they are properly installed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-be-that-person#post-922529 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 12:36:39 +0000 HellOnHeels 922529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Another vote for not saying anything. Its not your child, so don't worry about it.</p> <p>Hell, my aunt brought her 15 month LO over for a visit recently (they live out of province) without ANY kind of carseat and was just held by her mom while in the car. None of us agreed with it, but didn't say a word. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-be-that-person#post-922523 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 12:35:52 +0000 rawrasaur 922523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LizSmith: Thanks for your input! That is honestly my gut reaction, but I think I don't feel right overstepping. If I did, I would have to be very careful about how worded it to come off least judgemental. I think in a few days I may share that video and hope she sees it - that way any other friend can be informed as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-be-that-person#post-922493 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 12:27:39 +0000 Torchwood 922493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Green Grass: Finding one used is dangerous because a- carseats "expire," and b- you don't know how it's been taken care of. You're never supposed to wash the straps, and if it's in a wreck it should be replaced. You don't know if they've been careful about those sorts of things. Though maybe in this case the risks of a questionable carseat are lower than the risk of front-facing too soon? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-be-that-person#post-922485 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 12:25:14 +0000 Torchwood 922485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess I don't agree with most folks. I didn't know the risks until very recently, and had I not found out, I would want someone to tell me. And in your situation, if it was someone I wasn't that close to, I wouldn't be that worried if they resented my telling them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-be-that-person#post-922480 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 12:22:50 +0000 deactivated_account 922480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BananaPancakes: That's what I was thinking. </p> <p> @rawrasaur: If it is, in fact, illegal in your state to have a baby that young facing forward, I would anonymously call the police on your acquaintance. I've called the non-emergency police number when I see dogs in closed up cars. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-be-that-person#post-922182 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 11:01:18 +0000 rawrasaur 922182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: Right! I pass by the $45 ones at wal-mart and I'm like man, I wish I paid that price. Then I remind myself that we got the top rated one on consumer reports. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-be-that-person#post-922122 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 10:50:19 +0000 MsLipGloss 922122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rawrasaur: This makes me so sad! Dangers on the road--and having no control over other drivers--is exactly why I just shelled out almost $1,000 for 2 Clek Foonf convertible car seats. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-be-that-person#post-922098 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 10:47:02 +0000 Mrs Checkers 922098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agree with the other moms...</p> <p>Even though I totally agree that it is dangerous, but since you say you're not close at all, I don't think it would be wise for you to step in and give unsolicited advice. Even if you are right, it will come off the wrong way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-be-that-person#post-922085 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 10:45:23 +0000 rawrasaur 922085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BananaPancakes: Thanks, I'm glad I'm not the only one who has had this specific situation. Car seats are my biggest worry because you have zero control of other people on the road. I don't think there is anything else that would make me feel this torn over saying something or not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-be-that-person#post-921976 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 10:24:56 +0000 rawrasaur 921976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>According to my state, you should never forward face before 1 year AND 20-22 lbs, but that you should stay rear facing as long as possible. I'm not sure that it is punishable by law, though.</p> <p><a href="http://www.txdps.state.tx.us/director_staff/public_information/carseat.htm" rel="nofollow">http://www.txdps.state.tx.us/director_staff/public_information/carseat.htm</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-be-that-person#post-921945 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 10:18:02 +0000 BananaPancakes 921945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lisamarieloves: I think it's illegal in most states. </p> <p>I posted a very similar thread here about 6 months ago, when a friend turned her 6 month old to forward face because she didn't like the car seat. I bit my tongue, because it's not my place. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-be-that-person#post-921943 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 10:17:29 +0000 rawrasaur 921943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lisamarieloves: I'm not aware of any laws, but it is very unsafe. Here is a video I posted that are pretty informative about the risks.</p> <p><a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rear-facing-down-under-video" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rear-facing-down-under-video</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-be-that-person#post-921936 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 10:15:40 +0000 autumnlove 921936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My friend emailed a pic of her son sitting forward facing at 8 months and I didn't say anything. Her sister is a pediatrician so maybe she will say something? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-be-that-person#post-921930 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 10:14:51 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 921930@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you aren't really close, I'd say something but word it really carefully. I would assume the I Lu reason they would be forward facing at that age would be money, so I would suggest resources to find one used. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-be-that-person#post-921920 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 10:11:53 +0000 deactivated_account 921920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since I don't have a LO yet, I don't know the rules or laws on car seats. Is it illegal to have the 7 month old forward facing or just a suggested practice? </p>