https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 16 Apr 2026 08:04:04 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-go-back-to-work#post-2144608 Wed, 15 Apr 2015 09:17:33 +0000 MenagerieMama 2144608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel your pain! I went back half time at 8 weeks and full schedule (30 hrs/wk) at 12 weeks. I also work mostly 3-11pm shifts and had a lot of anxiety about her bedtime. I literally was the only one who had ever done it until my first shift back to work! I think it's actually really helped her to be flexible with the person doing her routine, and while she often nurses to sleep with me, she doesn't need to fall asleep. My husband works days so we have a nanny cover the 2:30-6:30 window and then he comes home and does bedtime with LO. How hard would it be for your DH to switch to days? I also work a 14 hr shift every other weekend and I actually think the solo daddy time has been great for LO and DH! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-go-back-to-work#post-2144544 Wed, 15 Apr 2015 08:50:33 +0000 snowjewelz 2144544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was just there! DD decided to suddenly hate the bottle the week before I went back, and we have complicated childcare logistics (only 2 days a week), so I was totally freaking out and constantly worrying, but it really does pass! We're all doing fine, and she knows who I am, is happy to see me when I'm home, etc... It still sucks b/c I miss her everyday, and I hate pumping, but tis life! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-go-back-to-work#post-2144491 Wed, 15 Apr 2015 08:27:02 +0000 Alivoo01 2144491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*hugs* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-go-back-to-work#post-2144431 Wed, 15 Apr 2015 07:16:48 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2144431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: thank you ! I totally need to remember that </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-go-back-to-work#post-2144378 Wed, 15 Apr 2015 05:46:12 +0000 blackbird 2144378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A lot can change in a couple months, don't forget! Months 4-5 were, by far, the hardest for us, and 6 months on was mostly smooth sailing. It's always worse than you imagine :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-go-back-to-work#post-2144362 Wed, 15 Apr 2015 03:32:41 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2144362@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Corduroy: thanks a lot! I hope so. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-go-back-to-work#post-2144317 Tue, 14 Apr 2015 23:28:13 +0000 Corduroy 2144317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, you will get used to it and your son will flourish. Going back to work won't be as bad as you're imagining. It will take some time but you'll fall into a routine.</p> <p>Sounds like having your mom &amp; SO split duties would work out well. DH somewhat reluctantly watched our LO one day a week for six months or so. It worked out well and DH really grew a lot as a dad.</p> <p>Good luck with your transition! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-dont-want-to-go-back-to-work#post-2144273 Tue, 14 Apr 2015 22:00:07 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2144273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have until may 30 so about 6.5 more weeks and my son will be just 5 mo. I am actually lucky I know to have taken 6 mo (compared to a lot of people) but it doesn't feel like near enough! If I was gonna stay home I know that comes with it's own challenges, don't get me wrong. But honestly many of the things that are stressing me out right now like his sleep and lack of schedule only worry me because I think of others caring for him and what they will do. I would just embrace his love of napping in my arms and nursing to sleep until I felt for the benefit of both of us it needed to change. </p> <p>But instead, especially since my schedule is 3pm-1130pm, and he hasn't been great with bottles, it's so hard to picture how anyone will handle putting him to sleep for his naps or bedtime. I know he'll be safe and fed and that's all that matters. It doesn't help that we haven't even decided for certain who it's gonna be! Options are:<br /> -my husband stops working 1-930 and either does day shift instead or takes some time off. He has a lot of projects and work he can do on the side, he doesn't like his job anyways, his job doesn't pay well at all and I make enough for our expenses. Problem with this is I don't think he wants to be a SAHD. I don't know if it's the idea that bothers him or if he isn't sure he would be good at it. Or if he just doesn't want to :(<br /> -I drive baby 30 min to my MIL's house. This would be decent, except I have a feeling this would ruin our relationship which isn't the best as is. We butt heads over everything so honestly it would never work. Plus as baby gets older it seems like such a pain for my SO to go drive after work to get the baby so late.<br /> -so our last option, which I don't mind at all, is my mom will drive up and watch him. She is obsessed with her first grandson, she loves the idea of bonding and caring for him especially as she retires. But it's a full 45 min drive, so pretty inconvenient for her. And they will probably be moving 2 hours away by fall. So then it's not even an option any more. Basically I hope she can do it twice a week to carry us through summer, and then we will see what's next. I will be working every weekend and we will only need 2 weekdays covered. Hopefully by summer's end my husband will decide he wants to start a new schedule! </p> <p>And no matter what, I'll get used to it and my son will flourish. Right? </p>