https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 16:05:52 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-effing-hate-dhs-dog/page/2#post-524738 Thu, 24 Jan 2013 16:27:32 +0000 Rescuemom10 524738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I actually totally agree with @yoursilverlining:<br /> The dog is being set up for failure, as are you. The dog can sense your lack of "care" for it and no doubt knows your dilsike of him/her.<br /> Like I said, I totally understand the frustration with this. I HAVE BEEN THERE, I do have a DD and another one the way. I would not want a potential incident to happen with children. This is still not the dogs fault. It does not know better. Your DH should and is truly working against you. I have worked with multiple different kinds of behavioral issues with fostering dogs. With one like yours, your DH needs to be on board with the training even more so than you. So his lack of understanding this will get you no where. He is the one she is protecting and "bonded" to. He needs to enforce this not being acceptable more than anyone.<br /> He is setting your dog up for failure. I hate to say this but I will not be surprised one bit if there is an incident with the dog and a child if he continues to let the dog behave this way. It seriously is bound to happen IMO and with my exerince. Especailly with children and little dogs....I have just seen it too much and your DH is enabling bad behavior.<br /> Please if anything look into getting DH on board, if he doesnt....with time something is bound to happen IMO. In that case, please find another home or a RESCUE. There is a HUGE difference between a rescue or a shelter/pound. A dog like this, or even most small dogs do NOT do well in shelters/pounds. It will most likely be a death sentence for the dog. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-effing-hate-dhs-dog/page/2#post-523468 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 22:58:14 +0000 singingbee 523468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladybee: glad others were here to explain what I meant. I agreed with you. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-effing-hate-dhs-dog/page/2#post-523450 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 22:42:33 +0000 yoursilverlining 523450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Would your husband be open to rehoming the dog? Dogs are not stupid; they know when someone hates them and thinks they are evil, a little shit or demon spawn. Honesty, it's not surprising she doesn't want to work with you. Maybe training and positive attention from someone else might produce better results, and make for a happier everyone; dog included. your husband is setting her up for failure; and a failure that includes probable euthanizatuon at a pound; especially if you describe her as aggressive to shelter personnel. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-effing-hate-dhs-dog/page/2#post-523375 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 22:09:00 +0000 travelgirl1 523375@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: have you gotten a trainer involved? If not could you do training without DH's agreement, if you can't get him on board? I agree with everyone else that it's not the dog's fault, but the situation is not your fault either, I think your husband is making it all an awful lot worse and he needs to step up and sort it out befor your LO is here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-effing-hate-dhs-dog/page/2#post-523305 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 21:37:05 +0000 ladybee 523305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist. @mrbee: huh, learn something new everyday! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-effing-hate-dhs-dog/page/2#post-523280 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 21:21:27 +0000 mrbee 523280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladybee: here's a link!</p> <p><a href="http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=this" rel="nofollow">http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=this</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-effing-hate-dhs-dog/page/2#post-523277 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 21:19:40 +0000 .twist. 523277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladybee: haha it means she agrees with you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-effing-hate-dhs-dog/page/2#post-523273 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 21:16:22 +0000 ladybee 523273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jennimac: my lack of internet skills are showing. "this." means? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-effing-hate-dhs-dog/page/2#post-523247 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 21:07:16 +0000 singingbee 523247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladybee: this. </p> <p>Nobody is suggesting that you put your child in danger, but there are better ways to approach this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-effing-hate-dhs-dog/page/2#post-523063 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 19:58:23 +0000 ladybee 523063@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It is clear you don't want this dog, which is your choice, I think all we are asking is that you take her to a good rescue who will work with her and train her instead of the pound where she will be tramatized or killed. It is understandable that you are done especially with your husband offering 0 support. You are about to be very busy so if you don't want to train her now, before the baby please look into owner relinquish options. </p> <p>I have to admit, it did make me sad to see your dog being hated so much. Everyone deserves better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-effing-hate-dhs-dog/page/2#post-523014 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 19:44:42 +0000 .twist. 523014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: I think a lot of these people who are giving great dog advice are giving it because they, in fact, have dealt with dogs like this first hand. </p> <p>I'm sorry, I really can't say anything else because this post upsets me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-effing-hate-dhs-dog#post-522979 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 19:32:00 +0000 lomom 522979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think alot of the advice would be much different if you were experiencing it first hand.</p> <p>It is incredibly difficult to be around a dog that growls and snaps when you go near it and your husband. Regardless of the cause of the behavior, it is unacceptable. Being on the other side of a computer screen makes it very easy to oversimplify a complicated and unfortunate situation. This has been going on and perpetually worsening over several years. I have tried to befriend the dog, I have tried training tactics, I have tried and tried and at this point, I'm done trying. I can't fix her myself and DH refuses. </p> <p>I hate that this is a potentially dangerous situation for my child and I do believe that DH is responsible, however, I value the life and well-being of my child over this dog. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-effing-hate-dhs-dog#post-522933 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 19:01:21 +0000 pinkcupcake 522933@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rescuemom10: THIS. </p> <p>This post really bothers me, too. Also, this statement: "I agree that DH's behavior is a factor in her behavior. However, this doesn't excuse her behavior or make it acceptable." Your DH's behavior isn't a factor in her behavior - it's what's causing the behavior. And a dog's behavior isn't "excusable" or "acceptable" - a dog is an animal, without the ability to think rationally. A dog doesn't know any better. </p> <p>If your DH isn't willing to work on his behavior, then it seems like the only option available to you would be to find a rescue that will train her so she can hopefully be a great pet for someone else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-effing-hate-dhs-dog#post-522928 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 18:58:45 +0000 Reese 522928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: It is your responsibility to train the dog as well, if only for the sake of your child. Why would you put your baby in a situation with a dog you know could very well harm them? You should both do everything you can now (training, behaviouralist, etc) to create a safe environment for your child and for the betterment of your pet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-effing-hate-dhs-dog#post-522920 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 18:54:28 +0000 MrsBrewer 522920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: I really hope you are reading these posts. Especially the one by @Rescuemom10: because if you are reading them, they are saying ITS NOT THE DOGS FAULT! I didn't put that in caps to yell or anything, but rather just to get your attention. I just feel like you aren't seeing it that way at all. I sure that dog is a sweetheart deep down but just isn't able to express itself to it's full potential. Please before you Even consider the pound, actually try and work with the dog with training. Don't just cop out,work at this. You married your husband with the dog, so it's your dog now as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-effing-hate-dhs-dog#post-522903 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 18:42:40 +0000 singingbee 522903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You both live in the house, so you both need to work with her. She is acting this way because she was 'trained' (good or bad) this way. She would be a different dog if training, constructive training, was involved. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-effing-hate-dhs-dog#post-522889 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 18:35:53 +0000 lomom 522889@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A big reason why I'm out of patience with this dog is because of the baby coming. I absolutely worry that she'll snap at the baby and harm him. If that were to happen, or come close to happening, the dog will be gone. I think that very few people in my situation would keep a dog that harmed or came perilously close to harming their infant. </p> <p>I agree that DH's behavior is a factor in her behavior. However, this doesn't excuse her behavior or make it acceptable. </p> <p>The only way that she has any hope of being anything other than a vicious demon spawn would be for DH to train her. He is not willing to alter his behavior. It's going to, very unfortunately and very frustratingly, a situation that gets perpetually worse until she harms our baby. At which time, I will feel zero remorse for taking her to a pound. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-effing-hate-dhs-dog#post-522844 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 18:14:05 +0000 LittleFox 522844@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be so frustrated by his lack of support. There is no excuse for a dog to bark and snap at you. I would want to work with a behaviorist ASAP. Snapping and biting from little dogs can actually be quite dangerous to babies and young children because they are closer to the dog's level so sensitive places like the face and eyes are easier to reach, plus they have very sensitive skin to begin with. A good behaviorist, getting your husband on board, and watching her like a hawk around your baby are a must! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-effing-hate-dhs-dog#post-522423 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 15:58:05 +0000 Rescuemom10 522423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This thread has been bugging me. I feel at a loss of words because it honestly upsets me.<br /> First off having it run away or sending it off to the pound will not resolve anything. This is NOT the dogs fault. This is a behavior issue which needs to be addressed and clearly is not.<br /> I honestly understand the frustration of it. I foster dogs and fostered a Chihuahua that was VERY MUCH the same way you are describing. Guess what...with some dog behavior skills and training....she ended up being the best dog ever and we decided to adopt her.<br /> If you do not have the patience for training a dog then perhaps pets are not your thing. It seems your DH is very much guilty in working against you and you two need to get on the same page in regards to this. Do not let it be at the dogs expense. Dropping it off at the pound will only pass "the problem" on to someone else because you choose not to address it. Pounds and shelters are VERY stressful and a dog of this type would NOT do well and would prob show fear, anxiety which will come out as aggression to potential adopters which clearly will not be in the dogs benefit for getting adopted. So IF you choose to re-home this dog please find a Rescue that will work with her.<br /> Remember despite your frustration you are the "higher being" here. Wishing death, abandonment etc..is not going to get you anywhere.<br /> Im really sorry your husband is not working with you on this, but seriously there is no such thing as a bad dog, only a bad owner/trainer. </p> <p>Like I said, I had a dog like this. She wanted to EAT my husband and my personal dogs if they came near me. It caused fights between us because I wanted to stick with her training and DH wanted me to swap her for a different dog within our Rescue we work for. I convinced him to give me a couple weeks. LIke I said we ended up keeping her and she is nowthe biggest Daddys girl EVER.<br /> She is not the only dog I have had to re-socialize. It takes time and patience. Its not the dogs fault that it has been allowed to behave this way. The dog doesnt know better, but we as people, as trainers and "pack leaders" do know better and you have to be the bigger person and keep that in mind.<br /> Best of luck, the prob seems to be your DH working against you and not the dog. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-effing-hate-dhs-dog#post-518642 Mon, 21 Jan 2013 22:14:36 +0000 Dapple Grey 518642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Any animal you have in the house will always carry a risk of making a mistake, and that mistake could be something harmful. Even your well behaived dog .If you won't tolerate mistakes and communcation cant be worked out between the two of you regarding training, then your house should not have pets, period. Always try to re-home, and take a pet to a proper reputable rescue. Bringing dogs to the pound is really stressful for them and usually doesn't end well. Im sorry your going through this and i hope you guys can work something out!. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-effing-hate-dhs-dog#post-518564 Mon, 21 Jan 2013 21:26:25 +0000 singingbee 518564@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-effing-hate-dhs-dog#post-518562 Mon, 21 Jan 2013 21:25:23 +0000 hilsy85 518562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also really don't get the whole DH not listening to your concerns/laughing off your feelings...I'd be pretty pissed about that and would not be ok with just dealing with it. I mean, if he laughs off your (legit) concerns about this dog, how is he going to handle it when you guys have a disagreement about LO? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-effing-hate-dhs-dog#post-518552 Mon, 21 Jan 2013 21:19:28 +0000 singingbee 518552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a dog for 4 years before DH came in the picture. Sometimes she loves him more than me! But, she is never vicious towards him. There needs to be some classes or counseling going on in the near future. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-effing-hate-dhs-dog#post-518543 Mon, 21 Jan 2013 21:15:52 +0000 heffalump 518543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This makes me sad. Dh also had a dog before I came into the picture..... And it was quite obvious that if we didn't get along the dog would stay and I would go. Luckily I love him (despite his faults). </p> <p>But I agree that something has to be done, you dont want a scary dog around your baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-effing-hate-dhs-dog#post-518539 Mon, 21 Jan 2013 21:14:17 +0000 singingbee 518539@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I second what others have said-you need to get a behaviorist involved for your husband and the dog. It's not the dog's fault- your husband is encouraging and allowing her behavior to continue. This thread makes me sad. I know you are upset, but saying you would kill the dog? C'mon! I think it also bothers you that your DH is caring more about the dog than how you feel. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-effing-hate-dhs-dog#post-518526 Mon, 21 Jan 2013 21:07:06 +0000 travelgirl1 518526@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry you're dealing with that. I do think it's really important to take the dog to training, even if your DH isn't on board, so you know LO will be safe. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-effing-hate-dhs-dog#post-518515 Mon, 21 Jan 2013 21:00:50 +0000 pinkcupcake 518515@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally agree with you, @MrsBrewer.</p> <p>It makes me really sad to hear how much this dog is hated. It sounds like this dog has behavioral issues that really need to be addressed, and your DH also needs to make changes in how he treats her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-effing-hate-dhs-dog#post-518443 Mon, 21 Jan 2013 20:12:55 +0000 lomom 518443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Every time I bring it up, he blames me for her behavior. He says I'm mean to her. I make her get out of the bed when she growls or snaps at me (I took our other dog to puppy school because I didn't want him to be like her and the trainer advocated strongly for no dogs in the bed as it encourages alpha behavior/mentality) and I make her go outside (which she HATES, always has since I've known her. She's just a priss! Even if it's gorgeous and sunny out, she will try to hide instead of going out and then she craps in the house.)</p> <p>I don't think any of that is mean. He says because I force her to get off the bed (or out of his lap if he's sitting on the couch and she growls at me) that it provokes her and makes her growl at me. It's completely stupid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-effing-hate-dhs-dog#post-518416 Mon, 21 Jan 2013 19:57:17 +0000 Reese 518416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: by "you" I meant both of you. Not getting this dog the training it needs is setting her up to act how she has thus far (which I agree - is unacceptable) I just hope your husband isn't shocked when he does need to give up his beloved dog since he seems to be refusing the reality of the situation (Your LO coming home to a dog that has behavioural issues). I would be pissed if I was in your position too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-effing-hate-dhs-dog#post-518415 Mon, 21 Jan 2013 19:56:47 +0000 PrincessBaby 518415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: is she a chihuahua? Her behavior sounds like them...They only like 1 or 2 people usually and want to tear the legs off most everyone else. </p>