https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 07 May 2026 01:50:32 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-like-im-always-reprimanding-my-3-year-old#post-2531437 Thu, 21 Apr 2016 18:26:34 +0000 MrsRcCar 2531437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What I find works with N is telling him what I expected him to do. Having expectations has helped him understand his boundaries. Since I have set expectations/ consequences for his behavior I get to tell him yes or great job so much more! Does it work perfectly? Nope but he loves hearing what a great job he is doing.<br /> In terms of the bossy problem: we say "I am sorry N but we don't speak to (who ever) that way. When you can ask nicely or use a better tone, we will be ready to listen." We then just ignore the bossy voice until it changes. </p> <p>For both of these it has taken a lot of patience and chocolate for momma but I am seeing the benefits. Good luck momma! Strong willed little ones will keep us on our toes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-like-im-always-reprimanding-my-3-year-old#post-2531315 Thu, 21 Apr 2016 16:30:35 +0000 Cole 2531315@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I was a nanny I found it really helpful (especially for me) to have a sticker "chart". I would literally hang a sheet of paper on the wall and every time I caught her doing something nice I would put a sticker on it. There was absolutely no reward involved it was simply to refocus both of us on the positive. I believe I did make the rule that she couldn't tell me she did something nice, it simply had to be noticed. She could however recognize nice things other people did for her and offer them a sticker. </p> <p>The bossiness is so hard though. It happens to be a big pet peeve of mine and frankly I'm still working on handling it nicely myself because it drives me batty. I guess the upside is everything's a phase... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-like-im-always-reprimanding-my-3-year-old#post-2531180 Thu, 21 Apr 2016 15:04:15 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 2531180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: Oye! I hear you on this one... I know my situation is a little different, but there are two things that we do to address it.<br /> 1. If W can't play nice, then we tell her she's out of control and she has to go to her room until she can get in control (teaching her to deal with her emotions). We have to be quick on this and act every time. It took about 2 weeks for her to really get it, and now, after 8ish months, we just tell her she's out of control, and she'll go to her room and calm down (only to appear a minute or so later saying "I'm in control now")<br /> 2. For the bossing around... I know it's more of an age/oldest child thing, but what we do is try to (calmly) make her understand how she would feel if her sister (or friend, etc) was doing it to her. Most of the time, when we turn it around, she gets it and can stop... if not, we revert to #1.<br /> Good times! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-like-im-always-reprimanding-my-3-year-old#post-2531126 Thu, 21 Apr 2016 14:40:40 +0000 Mrsbells 2531126@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: have you tried positive reinforcement, by really complimenting the older one when they do play nice </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-like-im-always-reprimanding-my-3-year-old#post-2531065 Thu, 21 Apr 2016 14:00:25 +0000 sorrycharlie 2531065@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a 3.5 year old and a 15 month old. My oldest is often bossing the younger around, telling her what she can and cannot do, taking toys from her (even if they are DD2's,) etc. she does play well with her too - but the younger doesn't really do much for me to address. So it looks significantly uneven as far as who's always getting spoken to.</p> <p>I'm not going to start addressing imaginary things, lol, but any ideas how to make it a little less one sided? </p>