https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 16 Apr 2026 22:39:00 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-like-im-yelling-at-my-3-yo-all-day-long#post-2429151 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 10:45:08 +0000 BlueWolverine 2429151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO just turned three and she's killing us. Bedtime (after lights out) is an hour long battle which includes dramatics previously unknown. I suggest the wrong shoes this morning and it resulted in hiding under the kitchen table while screaming. Some days I feel like I. Just. Can't. I try very hard not to yell and DH is trying harder too these days. It doesn't help that when I do actually lose it and yell, she generally listens, even if she does start crying because she knows I'm mad at her. I need my threenager to stop being a threenager. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-like-im-yelling-at-my-3-yo-all-day-long#post-2429115 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 10:36:55 +0000 Mama Bird 2429115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm right there with you! I hate nagging DS so much, but there are only so many times I can ask nicely. It helps when I can play with him and then redirect him, but I can't always do it because there's also the baby to take care of. Just getting through it until he grows out of this phase, or DD can entertain herself more while I deal with him... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-like-im-yelling-at-my-3-yo-all-day-long#post-2428839 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 08:57:03 +0000 Canoli 2428839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: yes a broken record! Exactly how I feel. My son is 4 and I feel like I've been doing this for years. I feel my negativity is being tuned out by him so I try to reframe and be positive but like seriously sometimes I just want to say no don't do that and I expect he'll listen! My kid definitely seems to be a boundary pusher.</p> <p>No real advice but offering commiseration and hoping for some good suggestions too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-like-im-yelling-at-my-3-yo-all-day-long#post-2428787 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 08:32:02 +0000 winniebee 2428787@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: Agree - I try to frame it more positively. But, yes, it's constant intervention all day long. </p> <p>I've mentioned it a million times, but Janet Lansbury's No Bad Kids really helps me, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-like-im-yelling-at-my-3-yo-all-day-long#post-2428773 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 08:27:11 +0000 Applesandbananas 2428773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not an expert or perfect at this by any stretch of the imagination, but I *try* to look at things from LO's perspective and "be on his team" and compromise. I feel like even doing that, I still yell too much. My other strategy for trying to not constantly tell him no, is to take him to his playroom where there's very little for him to get into trouble with, or I get him out of the house, to the kids' gym or zoo or whatever, where he can burn off some of that energy, but even that isn't always possible (like today it's SUPER cold, definitely not going anywhere!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-like-im-yelling-at-my-3-yo-all-day-long#post-2428768 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 08:25:22 +0000 hilsy85 2428768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also feel like a broken record...don't, no, stop...even if I try to phrase it positively, I am still repeating myself a million times a day--"bottom on your chair, please"; "we only throw soft things"; "gentle with your sister please!". It is so annoying!! I have started saying that if he can't listen I will physically move him elsewhere, and that sometimes works. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-like-im-yelling-at-my-3-yo-all-day-long#post-2428737 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 08:01:55 +0000 catomd00 2428737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I find it more effective and makes me feel less bad to say what I want her to do or what she can do instead of telling her what not to do. So, instead of saying don't jump on the couch, I say please sit on the couch or please jump on the floor instead. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-like-im-yelling-at-my-3-yo-all-day-long#post-2428705 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 07:26:30 +0000 MrsSRS 2428705@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's lahornintensive, but any time you can physically touch her instead of speaking from a few feet away you may have better luck. So, a hand on the shoulder, crouch down and make eye contact. Then either give a direction or ask a question like "is that a kind choice?" Also, maybe play the freeze game where the kids run around and giggle and they have to stop when you yell freeze. With practice the get good at that. Then if you can't touch her you can say freeze and give your direction or ask her if she thinks she's making a safe/kind choice, etc. We're having good luck with using the word 'eyes' with DS. We stumbled into realizing that if we say that he glances at our eyes and that gives us enough eye contact to get his full attention. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-like-im-yelling-at-my-3-yo-all-day-long#post-2428668 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 04:15:37 +0000 sorrycharlie 2428668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not yelling but constantly telling her no, stop doing this or that, leave your sister alone, don't take that from your sister, stop running on the couch, etc. </p> <p>it's exhausting and I hate it. But I swear she doesn't listen or hear me! When she gets in trouble (or thinks she is) she gets upset so I know she isn't deliberately trying to misbehave. </p> <p>I need to work on reframing more with her but man. Any good books or anything with tips for dealing with this? </p>