https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 17 May 2026 00:08:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-had-the-most-amazing-experience-today#post-355171 Mon, 22 Oct 2012 23:15:39 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 355171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@OLIVIAOBLIVIA I am so glad that my experience helped bring you some peace. Our family has been very fortunate to be able to experience two beautiful deaths. I hope that you and your family can find peace with your situation. You will be in my thoughts as well. </p> <p>@SMURFETTE I can relate. had a similar situation with my dad. He wasn't around much, about once a week for a few hours. We found out he had a heart attack and died by reading the obituary. I never got to go to his funeral, never got to publicly morn his death. I still struggle with this one and it has been over 12 years. </p> <p>Thank you everyone for all your stories. They are beautiful and help me get though this time. I didn't get to sleep till midnight. I kept reliving the conversation I had with him and our last few visits. This morning my first thought was my PaPa is dead. All day my adrenalin kept rushing thinking I needed to get back to see him, and then the reminder would hit that he is already gone. </p> <p>The crazy God moments continued on today. We went to set the funeral arrangements today and had to pick out a casket. We thought he had already done this so it came as a surprise to us. The first casket to catch our eye had a print of a drawing on the inside of it with an old barn, grain bin, windmill, rickety old fence, and prairie grass. ALMOST identical to a painting my grandma had done many years ago and it symbolized his life on the farm. The funeral director said it looked as if we had seen a ghost. We said no ghost just grandma. </p> <p>I am glad I have the week off. It will be great to be with my family. I can't wait to see and hug everyone! My niece and nephew are coming down later this week. They are 8&amp;5, it's going to be so hard on them! Neither of them knew him very well but my niece loved him so so much. The girl is so damn smart and has always been very in tune to life, love, people &amp; emotions. I'm sure we will be sharing a box of tissues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-had-the-most-amazing-experience-today#post-353427 Mon, 22 Oct 2012 09:21:19 +0000 mrs. wagon 353427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What an amazing goodbye story. Don't think you could have made a more perfect farewell for your grandpa. How amazing to hear that you were able to not only make him smile, but to see the heavens opening and just imagining your grandma waiting for him, the anticipation and the joy of seeing each other again, put tears in my eyes. I'm so sorry for your loss but so glad to hear he is at peace and at home!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-had-the-most-amazing-experience-today#post-353426 Mon, 22 Oct 2012 09:21:08 +0000 Mrs. Blue 353426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm tearing up at this! I'm so sorry for your loss, but I'm glad you had time to be with him and say goodbye! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-had-the-most-amazing-experience-today#post-353421 Mon, 22 Oct 2012 09:17:47 +0000 yoursilverlining 353421@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What a beautiful story/experience.</p> <p>I lost my grandma 2 weeks ago; and although it was really hard to watch her so rapidly decline at the end; the fact that she absolutely LOVED and adored my LO so much gives us all peace. Even though she had a lot of trouble speaking near the end, whenever we came to visit she would say “where’s that baby?” and loved to just hold and watch LO. We did a similar thing with telling my grandma that we knew what all her after-death wishes were; and that she would be buried next to grandpa, and not to worry about anything.</p> <p>It is really special that you could give him peace of mind like that, when he needed it most. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-had-the-most-amazing-experience-today#post-353399 Mon, 22 Oct 2012 09:09:01 +0000 Alivoo01 353399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I"m so glad you had the opportunity to reminisce with him and give him some peace that it was okay to go be with his wife, and that everything here would be taken care of. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-had-the-most-amazing-experience-today#post-353245 Mon, 22 Oct 2012 06:51:40 +0000 Smurfette 353245@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That was beautiful. Be so glad that you were there to say bye to him. My grandpa died suddenly from a stroke, so no one was able to say bye. I hate that I never did. I miss him so much.</p> <p>Thoughts and prayers for your family during this time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-had-the-most-amazing-experience-today#post-353236 Mon, 22 Oct 2012 06:08:36 +0000 mrs. bird 353236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss! My nana passed away recently while we were with her providing her hospice care &amp; it was also a beautiful experience. Much more peaceful than my grandfathers passing in a hospital. I'm glad he was comfortable and at peace. Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-had-the-most-amazing-experience-today#post-353229 Mon, 22 Oct 2012 05:18:30 +0000 oliviaoblivia 353229@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sugar.Biscuit: That was so beautiful. I'm so sorry for your loss. I will be losing my grandfather in the next few days/weeks and have been really struggling with it. Your words have made me feel so much more at peace with what's happening within my own family - so thank you for bringing a stranger a moment of clarity in your time of grief.<br /> My thoughts are with you and your family today. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-had-the-most-amazing-experience-today#post-353195 Sun, 21 Oct 2012 23:20:04 +0000 singingbee 353195@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry he is gone, but I'm glad you had a wonderful experience with him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-had-the-most-amazing-experience-today#post-353193 Sun, 21 Oct 2012 23:16:59 +0000 alayaya 353193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sugar.Biscuit: That was incredibly beautiful. I'm so sorry for you loss, but I think it is great that you were able to see him and say goodbye. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-had-the-most-amazing-experience-today#post-353192 Sun, 21 Oct 2012 23:14:27 +0000 mrbee 353192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sugar.Biscuit: wow that was beautiful and so touching! Thank you for sharing!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-had-the-most-amazing-experience-today#post-353191 Sun, 21 Oct 2012 23:12:13 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 353191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Heatherloveskenny I was so grateful for that smile! He has suffered from dementia for the last few years and was having a very hard time towards the end. He had it in his head that my HS &amp; I lived and worked on his farm. Half the time he didn't even respond to my mother or I. When he could talk he just wanted to talk shop with my husband. Amazing considering he just met him 3 years ago at the beginning of his dementia. So glad my husband is amazing and just went with the flow of it. Always sharing stories about the latest land sales and crop prices. :-) makes for some good memories </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-had-the-most-amazing-experience-today#post-353182 Sun, 21 Oct 2012 22:48:39 +0000 HLK208 353182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sugar.Biscuit: that is so beautiful...I'm in tears reading it. I'm very sorry for your loss but I hope he's content with your grandmother :) You are very fortunate that he heard you say goodbye and he smiled! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-had-the-most-amazing-experience-today#post-353171 Sun, 21 Oct 2012 22:24:30 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 353171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This weekend was a whirl wind of events and emotions! It started when we went to see my grandpa in the nursing home. He was placed on hospice a few weeks ago with the idea that it would be months yet before he would die. </p> <p>On the way there we received a phone call saying that he wasn't doing very well and that they were calling in the hospice nurse &amp; requesting an order for ambien. When we arrived he was very agitated, shaking, and had fluid in his lungs again. After he received his medication he had calmed down and was able to rest. We left knowing that this could be the beginning of the end. We were thinking he might last 2-3 weeks yet. </p> <p>The HS and I met up with his family at the cabin, we were suppose to spend the weekend there. It is 3 hrs away from my grandpa. On the way there I told HS I didn't want to drink much, just encase. It's a good thing that I only had 2 beers and crashed early because we got the phone call at 230 am that he was declining and to head out. </p> <p>When we arrived he had stabilized and was able to rest easy. The hospice nurse said that he was really on the fence right now and that it could go either way. We went back to my mom's about 30 min away to sleep and eat. </p> <p>On our way back to the nursing home we received another call telling us he was struggling again. The hospice nurse was called in again and said that he hadn't started the "end stage" yet, as in no color changes and his breathing was rapid but regular. She said to prepare for sometime this week, sooner rather than later. At this point he was pretty much non responsive. </p> <p>I was off making phone calls most of this time telling family and calling in our pastor for last communion. I finally had to kick out my family so that I could have some alone time with my grandfather. I am so glad that I did. I told him how much I enjoyed growing up with him, how much it ment to me that he showed me how to fix our lawn mower, and how much I enjoyed our vacations to Wyoming...And he smiled!</p> <p>I was with my grandma at the very end when she died and refused to leave her side when the family left. I was 16 at the time. I told her that it was okay to go home, to not be afraid that we would take care of grandpa. </p> <p>After some time reminiscing about the good old days I took my grandpas hand and told him this, "PaPa, I'm going to tell you the same thing I told grandma. It's okay to go home, don't be afraid, everything will be taken care of just the way you wanted it to be. PaPa, don't be afraid. Grandma is waiting for you, it's okay to go home." He was agitated at first and then a peace came over him. I read the 23 psalms told him I loved him a thousand times over and left. </p> <p>HS &amp; I headed home with the plans for me to see him first thing in the morning. I know how "cheesy" this sounds but when driving home this evening before he had past I saw the most beautiful sun set. It was as if the heavens opened through the most beautiful clouds and sun rays shining through. I just knew that Grandma was standing by the gates of heaven waiting for her husband to come home.</p> <p>Just as we pulled into the drive way we got the phone call that he was changing colors and to come back. We live 2 hours away so we gather our stuff together and headed out. Just as we hit the highway my husband looks at his phone &amp; grabs my and says PULL OVER. I thought he was going to say sorry for being an ass about possibly missing work tomorrow. Instead he turns to me and says, "I'm sorry honey, he's gone." </p> <p>I had the most amazing experience today, I got to say good bye to the greatest man in my life, my PaPa. </p>