https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 03:53:56 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-my-parents-dog#post-2745986 Sat, 10 Jun 2017 18:30:58 +0000 ShootingStar 2745986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So just to update this...</p> <p>Last night we came home to tons of vomit everywhere. Parents' dog was throwing up all night, we took him to the vet first thing in the morning. Turns out he has a form of kennel cough that's making him cough and throw up. I called my parents to let them know and they wanted to pick him up today.</p> <p>So I met them halfway and handed him off. I told my dad I thought it would be a really good idea to get a dog walker for the three days per week he has chemo so they can get him to poop and my dad can just let him out to pee. He seemed to think that was a good idea.</p> <p>So I'll look up some names to suggest and send them to my parents, and I'll tell me my mom that too. I feel a huge weight has been lifted. He was driving me so crazy, it feels great to not have him constantly on my heels, pooping, throwing up, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-my-parents-dog#post-2745685 Fri, 09 Jun 2017 12:17:42 +0000 ShootingStar 2745685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pickle: Thank you, I may take you up on that.</p> <p>I think I will strongly encourage my parents that they need a dog walker for the days my dad has chemo, and I will find them one if they need me to. I also tried hard today to cuddle with both dogs and be especially nice to them before I went to work. We have a dog walker that comes twice a week and he'll be there today, so hopefully he'll prevent any on-purposes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-my-parents-dog#post-2745649 Fri, 09 Jun 2017 11:05:26 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2745649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It might be helpful if your dad had his dog to cuddle with. I do think that hiring someone to come over and walk the dog for them would be the best solution. I wouldn't want that dynamic in my house either, but I see how you're in a tough position. I'm sorry your dad is sick. </p> <p>My cousin does a lot of work with the Pancreatic Cancer Action Network. If you need someone to talk to or to point you to some resources I can put you in touch. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-my-parents-dog#post-2745534 Fri, 09 Jun 2017 08:22:05 +0000 periwinklebee 2745534@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: Ugh, if I were in your shoes this would stress me out so much. </p> <p>Do your parents have other retired friends who might be a better fit? Maybe you could mention to your mom that the dog is really lonely when you guys are at work and you feel bad for it? I'm thinking of my retired aunt, who desperately wants a lap dog but her husband is hesitant to get one because of the long-term commitment. But if they needed to temporarily care for a dog of a sick friend, she would be in seventh heaven. I wonder if your parents have any friends like this - so many retired people get lonely and would love companionship but are hesitant to get a pet because of the long-term commitment... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-my-parents-dog#post-2745492 Fri, 09 Jun 2017 06:49:55 +0000 ShootingStar 2745492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@skiierchck99: We need him to sleep in the crate and I can't crate him for 20 hours a day, unfortunately. I hope your mom is doing ok. </p> <p>@Mrs. Champagne: I'm sorry about your dad. We don't have any fenced in areas :-/. </p> <p>@Mrs. Turtle: Yes, this is it exactly. We call them revenge poops or "on purposes" (as opposed to accidents, because they're not). He is a super clingy dog used to living with retired people who leave for only a few hours at a time. And when they're home he sits in one of their laps and sleeps in their bed. I have claustrophobia that's gotten worse since I had kids and I struggle with being able to give my own dog the attention she needs, much less a dog I'm constantly mad at. So it's a downward spiral. The worse his behavior is, the less I want to do with him. And the less attention he gets, the worse he behaves. I honestly feel really bad for him because we are not a good fit for him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-my-parents-dog#post-2745464 Thu, 08 Jun 2017 21:28:10 +0000 Mrs. Turtle 2745464@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: We have the same dog, except he's mine! I have no idea if this is the same situation, but we've learned with mine that he poops in the house when he's grumpy with us. This might be because he's not getting enough attention or because we don't let him sleep in the bed or any number of things. And yes, I'm aware he should be better trained. I really tried, but he is a little bastard. I love him, but I kind of hate him sometimes too. Anyway, maybe if you gave him a little lap time when possible it might help? Our little guy will go months without pooping but if we forget to make a point of being extra nice to him, he will start again. I realize this sounds like we are horrible, horrible dog owners, but we really aren't, I promise. This particular dog is smart and needs special treatment! ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-my-parents-dog#post-2745450 Thu, 08 Jun 2017 20:21:00 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2745450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: hugs.. this is brutal. Does the dog need walks or can he just go play outside in a fenced yard?</p> <p>My father in law has stage 4 colon cancer and it sounds like his treatment is similar (48 hours of getting chemo via a bag that he wears, repeated every other week). His symptoms have been quite minimal. He is still working believe it or not. And walking has helped him. It might be good for your dad to keep active (without pushing it too hard). Sorry you're dealing with all of this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-my-parents-dog#post-2745307 Thu, 08 Jun 2017 13:05:09 +0000 skiierchck99 2745307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: Honestly, I would re-implement crate training until he proves he can be trusted not to toilet inside, and have him in the crate other than scheduled outings to exercise, play, etc. And - if he bit you (and he's not a playbiting puppy) I wouldn't let him interact with children at all and I would get him to some kind of trainer for remedial work ASAP.</p> <p>On another note, I'm so sorry about your father - my mom was diagnosed with a pancreatic tumor a year ago and it's so draining to have to go through all of it - I can't imagine having kids too while supporting a parent through it. Thinking of you! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-my-parents-dog#post-2745297 Thu, 08 Jun 2017 12:43:16 +0000 youboots 2745297@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry it sounds like the dog needs doggy training summer camp. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-my-parents-dog#post-2745256 Thu, 08 Jun 2017 11:06:52 +0000 Pancakes 2745256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: I'm sorry to hear about this. I second/third what others have said about finding and setting up a dog walking service for them, if money is not an issue. And if it makes you feel any more kindly toward the dog while he's with you, it probably is a very stressful situation for him to be in your home with another dog and young children and that could definitely be causing or exacerbating some of his behaviors. I hope that everything goes well with your dad's treatment! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-my-parents-dog#post-2745249 Thu, 08 Jun 2017 11:01:47 +0000 gingerbebe 2745249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The dog sounds like it's good for their morale and I would have the contact info for well regarded dog walkers, sitters, and kennels in your parents area. Vets often do boarding so I would see if their vet offers such an option so they can drop the dog off whenever they have to go to his appointments and it's someone they know and trust. I think you just need to have all the research and resources done for them and have it in a printed out format they can reference once they realize they do need the help. I'm sorry you're going through this - my dad has a similar situation with our aged 15 year old dog and recent esophageal/stomach cancer diagnosis. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-my-parents-dog#post-2745246 Thu, 08 Jun 2017 10:59:52 +0000 Anagram 2745246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: Well, that's why I think you should tell your mom exactly what you write here, and say that's why you want to hire someone to walk the dog. Your dad would probably like seeing the dog during his chemo, but just may not feel up to walking him every day. Same with your mom--I think pets can be a mood booster.</p> <p>So it does seem like when the dog goes with your parents, it would be nice if you offered to find a dog walker for them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-my-parents-dog#post-2745244 Thu, 08 Jun 2017 10:54:31 +0000 ShootingStar 2745244@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone. I think I mostly needed to vent this morning after he pooped on the carpet while I was sitting there. My dog would whine and whine to be taken out, not just poop on the carpet. So a dog that does that is just...hard for me to understand.</p> <p>Last month my dad suddenly got sick and was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. We are hopeful that it can be treated, but at the moment it's not operable. If it does not become operable, his life expectancy is not good. My dad was in the hospital for a few days, and then after that they were traveling around to doctors in Manhattan, Baltimore, and Boston. So I went to where my parents live (3 hours away) to help and support my mom and to take the dog back with me. The biggest issue with them for the dog is that they were traveling spur of the moment and couldn't take the dog with them.</p> <p>They've now stopped traveling and have settled on Johns Hopkins to oversee his care. He starts chemo next week. We have plans to see them at the end of the month in Cape Cod. They are hopeful that they can take the dog back with them after vacation. </p> <p>But I'm not sure if they're overly optimistic about how my dad will deal with the chemo. The chemo happens over the course of several days, and it's done every other week. My dad seems to think he will be able to manage getting him out twice a day. My mom insists that if she really has to, she can take him out too. Only problem is my mom has had both hips and both knees replaced. And she's kinda wobbly. So having dog that sometimes need to be pulled in order to walk, is not good for her. If she falls, she could get seriously injured (last year she fell and dislocated her hip). I will try to encourage them to find a dog walker they can have come while he's getting treated. It's not really a money thing, my parents are pretty well off. </p> <p>My parents LOVE this dog. He is totally my mom's baby. And the biggest thing I have been able to do for my parents is to take the dog and give them one less thing to worry about. But he's just not a good fit for our family. I have two human babies and one dog already. I don't have the time or desire to baby him. He's not happy, we're not happy. I dread my dad deteriorating (or worse) and having to tell my mom that we can't do this one thing for her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-my-parents-dog#post-2745203 Thu, 08 Jun 2017 10:12:27 +0000 azjax 2745203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am only an animal liked and not an animal lover, so keep that in mind but....I wouldn't want to take care of or keep that dog either. Could you hire a dog-walker and pay a little extra for them to help your parents out with pet care? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-my-parents-dog#post-2745200 Thu, 08 Jun 2017 10:07:21 +0000 snowjewelz 2745200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just commiserating! My own dog gets on my nerves :sad: I feel so guilty because she's my dog but she's older and has an array of health issues that just makes it so difficult on top of 2 kids. So I can see how much harder it is for you that you tech didn't ask for this! I will just say that it is an amazing thing you're doing for your parents :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-my-parents-dog#post-2745101 Thu, 08 Jun 2017 08:13:08 +0000 Peasinapod 2745101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The dog Is probably upset by the change of routine so I agree finding a way to keep him at your parents while someone comes in to help might be easier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-my-parents-dog#post-2745100 Thu, 08 Jun 2017 08:12:38 +0000 JerricaBenton 2745100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry about your parents health issues. I'm sure that makes it more difficult to deal with the dog and the dog is also probably stressed and acting out. I definitely recommend some kind of training for the dog. Even pet supply stores have inexpensive classes, Maybe you could bring both dogs so they'd be responding to the same commands. Talk to your vet too, because dogs can definitely have anxiety and there are medications that can help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-my-parents-dog#post-2745099 Thu, 08 Jun 2017 08:07:57 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2745099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do they have a fenced yard? </p> <p>I agree with looking at doggy day care, dog walkers, or ways to get the dog out of your house.e </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-my-parents-dog#post-2745094 Thu, 08 Jun 2017 08:00:36 +0000 avivoca 2745094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry about the situation all around. I hope that your dad's cancer is easily treatable. </p> <p>As for the dog, did your parents give you any information about his schedule before you took him? I know he's aggravating you with the furniture but it's hard to expect him to act any different at your house if he's getting on the furniture at home. If he is biting, is there another family member who could take him that doesn't have small children in the house? That would concern me the most.</p> <p>I use this cleaner to clean cat vomit and what not out of carpets, upholstery, etc.: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00474DL7E/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o02_s00?ie=UTF8&#038;psc=1" rel="nofollow">https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00474DL7E/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o02_s00?ie=UTF8&#038;psc=1</a><br /> It's safe for children and also takes care of pretty much everything. It breaks down the enzymes, doesn't have an offensive smell, and it works really, really well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-my-parents-dog#post-2745093 Thu, 08 Jun 2017 07:59:47 +0000 Anagram 2745093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My uncle and aunt had 4 huge, energetic dogs when my uncle got really sick with cancer (and eventually passed). Their neighbords and church members made a dog walking sign-up, and people volunteered to walk their dogs daily. When my mom would visit, she would do it twice a day, so they didn't have to. And they were really difficult dogs without decent training who would all be pulling on the leashes and trying to go in different directions. Massive, huge dogs. So surely, somehow you can find volunteers or pay someone for a small lapdog? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-my-parents-dog#post-2745092 Thu, 08 Jun 2017 07:57:54 +0000 Anagram 2745092@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OH man, can you temporarily hire a neighborhood teenager, or professional dog walker to go to your parents house twice a day and walk the dog&gt;? It might be worth the short term expense. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-my-parents-dog#post-2745073 Thu, 08 Jun 2017 07:34:22 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2745073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry about your parents' health situation. Is it possible to train him? Or feasible to help care for him while the dog is at your parents'? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-my-parents-dog#post-2745064 Thu, 08 Jun 2017 07:05:24 +0000 ShootingStar 2745064@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've been dog sitting my parents' dog for the last month because they've been unable to take care of him. And he's driving me crazy. He poops in our house, he constantly gets on furniture that our dog knows is off limits, he's dumb as a rock, and he's super difficult to walk. Oh and he bit me when I tried to get him out of his crate in the morning a couple weeks ago. So now we need to be much more vigilant about the kids. Meanwhile, my dog offers up her face to get poked and is always mild mannered. </p> <p>It's possible this will need to be a long term solution and I'm dreading it. DH took both dogs out this morning and he refused to poop. I'm sitting here catching up on HB before I have to leave and he's pooped in the living room and the kitchen. At least the kitchen's easy to clean with a Clorox wipe. But on the carpet? And I have a crawling baby. UGH. </p> <p>My parents are going to try to take him back later this month. My mom isn't physically capable of waking him and my dad was recently diagnosed with cancer. He starts chemo next week and I'm worried that he's going to be over extending himself to take the dog out. He's their baby though and they really want him back. </p> <p>But with the realities of cancer they might not be able to take care of him long term. </p> <p>This is mostly just a vent. I feel bad for the dog. Like he's a step child I don't really love. He deserves affection and he's a lap dog, but I don't really want to cuddle with him because he's always on my nerves. </p>