https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 09:22:49 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-the-daily-struggle#post-1177497 Sun, 27 Oct 2013 18:51:26 +0000 Penny Lane 1177497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally get it. we struggled with this until 6 months (i didn't sleep train). i spent more time putting him to sleep than he did actually sleeping. EVERY time. the first time (EVER.) he slept more than 40 minutes was when he was 7 months old. i don't think he napped in the crib once until 3 months.</p> <p>it will get better! some babies definitely just suck at napping! many eHugs coming your way from across the pacific :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-the-daily-struggle#post-1177488 Sun, 27 Oct 2013 18:39:55 +0000 Foodnerd81 1177488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well recently she has been falling asleep on the car seat in the stroller- a new advancement. So at the very least perhaps I can go outside without her being attached to me. Tomorrow I might abandon the effort altogether, swaddle and nurse on front of the tv and just leave my boob in her mouth the whole time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-the-daily-struggle#post-1177396 Sun, 27 Oct 2013 17:41:24 +0000 edelweiss 1177396@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i still want to cry a little when i think about LO's naps from birth to 6 or 7 months. he's 9 months. i believe i have a mild form of PTSD from always being on edge as to how long he was going to cry before falling asleep, and not knowing whether it was going to be a 20, 40, or 60 minute naps (the latter was incredibly rare). lots of hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-the-daily-struggle#post-1177364 Sun, 27 Oct 2013 17:04:17 +0000 ALV91711 1177364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel you. DS was a better napped when he was younger. Now at 7 months he only wants to nap being held by me. Must start working on this again this week, but I know it is going to be miserable. </p> <p>I'm told it does get better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-the-daily-struggle#post-1177281 Sun, 27 Oct 2013 15:41:53 +0000 twoofeverything 1177281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were in double nap hell until about 6-7 months. Then something just...clicked. Hang in there :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-the-daily-struggle#post-1176840 Sun, 27 Oct 2013 09:19:22 +0000 immabeetoo 1176840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: there was a period of time where I could t take it and I jut let him sleep on me for Naps. It was so much easier and we both caught up a little. Resigning myself to it helped me stress levels and maybe after two weeks of that I started trying again and he started slowly being able to transition more easily to the crib. Hang in there mama! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-the-daily-struggle#post-1176797 Sun, 27 Oct 2013 08:47:58 +0000 Foodnerd81 1176797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387: After nursing her down and sitting there for almost half an hour while she comfort nursed, only to have her wake up and cry when I started THINKING about getting up to have a cup of coffee, I came back to this thread. She's 3 months on Tuesday so that means it's going to start getting better, right?? It's getting to the point where it's happening with every. single. nap. that she wakes up as soon as I think about putting her down. </p> <p>We had a big day yesterday with a lot going on and she took 2 20 minute naps, including one in the moby. DH just tried for an extra 20 minutes and nope. She's chilling with us in the living room in her rock and play "quietly reflecting on the day". Ha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-the-daily-struggle#post-1164818 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 21:48:52 +0000 Foodnerd81 1164818@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsbookworm: haha- when she wouldn't nap this morning I brought her into the bathroom while I showered instead. San You are my sunshine the whole time so she knew I was still there. And yes to the frustration of spending longer getting her down than her sleeping! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-the-daily-struggle#post-1164760 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 20:59:36 +0000 googly-eyes 1164760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My lo has JUST started to get sort of consistent in her one nap schedule and she is 13 months. I feel ya.</p> <p>I have no advice, just sympathy. The nap/sleep struggle (and the fussy/crying if I don't get it right..particularly in the first six months) is absolutely hands down the worst part of the baby stage for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-the-daily-struggle#post-1164759 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 20:59:28 +0000 MrsF 1164759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>M didn't really take naps until after 4 months. I hope things get better for you soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-the-daily-struggle#post-1164754 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 20:56:56 +0000 mrsbookworm 1164754@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're definitely not alone! I feel like I spend 45 frustrating minutes to get him to sleep for 25. Plus, I have to rock and sing the whole time and it's driving me crazy! I'm starting to hate "You are my sunshine". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-the-daily-struggle#post-1164691 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 20:27:27 +0000 immabeetoo 1164691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: also, I remember the one time he ever slept longer than 30 minutes when he was young, I had to wake him for a doctor's appointment. so painful. Now that LO falls asleep on his own, the days are SO much different. I promise you will feel differently about staying at home in a few months :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-the-daily-struggle#post-1164675 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 20:21:59 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1164675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are definitely not alone! We had the same thing. I felt like I spent more time trying to get her to nap, than she actually spent napping. And, on top of that, she was a very light sleeper. It took so long to get her to really nap, but she eventually did. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-the-daily-struggle#post-1164586 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:39:18 +0000 immabeetoo 1164586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: You're not alone, this was us for the "fourth trimester", and things slowly got better after he hit 3 months. They got WAY better once he hit 6 months. hang in there :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-the-daily-struggle#post-1164512 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:14:55 +0000 SproutBee 1164512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is my life exactly right now. I am thrilled if it takes less than 30 min of my 8.5 week old screaming bloody murder to fall asleep for a nap, if the nap lasts longer than 30 min, or if I can successfully transfer him out of my arms. Night sleep is better, but very hit or miss after 4am. I am exhausted. My last emotional break down was just this morning. I, too, am counting down the days until maybe we can CIO, and questioning why I took so much maternity leave... I go back to work in January, and right now I'm looking forward to it. Work would be a break from this exhausting chaos. </p> <p>I, too, really hope it gets better soon... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-the-daily-struggle#post-1164434 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 18:49:24 +0000 Smurfette 1164434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: It will get better!! Hang in there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-the-daily-struggle#post-1164330 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 17:47:03 +0000 Foodnerd81 1164330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: I'm staying at home and it really makes me question it! I keep telling myself it will pass and then I'll be happy to be home with her... And I totally am happy to be, when she is rested!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-the-daily-struggle#post-1164326 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 17:42:06 +0000 Smurfette 1164326@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are not alone. I was happy to go back to work cause it was so hard everyday fighting with her to nap. I cried so much over her sleep and how hard it took her to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-the-daily-struggle#post-1164324 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 17:39:41 +0000 Foodnerd81 1164324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh and the absolute irony is, I'm going to wake her up soon. She finally is taking a decent nap but it's getting close to bedtime so I'll wake her in the next 20 minutes if she doesn't wake on her own. We've tried letting her just sleep to see what happens and it's no pretty. We have a doctor's appt in the morning so we all need to sleep tonight. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-the-daily-struggle#post-1164320 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 17:38:23 +0000 Foodnerd81 1164320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At least I'm not alone! Thanks, ladies. </p> <p>Forgot to mention, this morning I tried putting her in her crib drowsy but awake-- she had dozed off while nursing but woke herself up, wasn't really going down with bouncing but still seemed tired. I thought, hey, the books and the experts and the internet says if I put her into her crib and pat her stomach and sooth her, she'll go to sleep. Gave it half an hour before giving up. </p> <p>@loveisstrange: When you say put her down, do you mean you started the going to sleep routine? Or actually put her into her crib? I think I might be starting the going to sleep routine (um, putting on her sleep suit and nursing her in her room is the routine) too late, so by the time I want her to be asleep it's longer than I meant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-the-daily-struggle#post-1164311 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 17:33:15 +0000 Ra 1164311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>B is 4 months and a total craptastic napper. I feel your pain! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-the-daily-struggle#post-1164283 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 17:15:09 +0000 loveisstrange 1164283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A super strict nap schedule really helped us. I put C down after 45 minutes of awake time, without fail. She had very vague sleep cues, so she was always overtired and it was a mess. She was a catnapper and would stay awake for hours and refuse to sleep. </p> <p>The schedule worked well for us. She gradually increased how long she was awake in between. By 6 months, we were doing 2 2 hour naps and she was a great napper. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-the-daily-struggle#post-1164277 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 17:11:07 +0000 Cherrybee 1164277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You got a crib nap! Yay, congratulations on your small victory at least! </p> <p>Yeah, I feel like im losing it!! Naps are the bain of my life! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-the-daily-struggle#post-1164267 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 17:04:07 +0000 SAHM0811 1164267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's especially tough when you hear about other babies napping beautifully on their own, in their crib, and from the get-go. It makes you think that maybe you are doing something wrong, but you aren't. You just have a different baby! </p> <p>My 2nd baby sounds just like yours... It's rough... I don't even know how I survived, but I took it one day at a time I guess. I was grateful for any kind of nap. It was exhausting though b/c she napped best while babywearing or during a stroller walk, so it was hard to get any of that "me" time we moms crave for during nap time! </p> <p>Hang in there and know that you are not alone, and you will get through this. Her sleep will get better the older she gets... Maybe slowly, but surely, it will happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-the-daily-struggle#post-1164264 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 17:00:50 +0000 Mrs. Deer 1164264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are absolutely not alone. I know firsthand how rough naps can be. Lucy went through a phase where she fought every nap. I felt I tried everything. Often I would nurse and rock her for naps because it was the only way. But even then, she still only slept 30 minutes. I know it's so frustrating. Not only do you want your baby to get good rest, but you need a break too! We had a couple of bad months and are only just now getting back on track. Hang in there, don't blame yourself, keep trying things but know that sometimes babies just have trouble napping for whatever reason. Big hugs! &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-the-daily-struggle#post-1164258 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 16:57:08 +0000 Silva 1164258@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My kid has taken a total of one nap in her crib. When she was sick. For awhile I could nurse her to sleep and then get up, leaving her on our bed, but that's doesn't work anymore either. Now it's the boba + yoga ball or walking, or the stroller. At least I'm getting lots of exercise.<br /> She's 6 months....and 15 lbs. my back is killing me!<br /> I feel your pain! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-the-daily-struggle#post-1164256 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 16:56:26 +0000 lawbee11 1164256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am right there with you. A 40-minute nap is a total victory around here. Usually they're closer to 30 and it's so hard to get her down. It's so frustrating!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-hate-the-daily-struggle#post-1164253 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 16:53:55 +0000 Foodnerd81 1164253@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Every day it's such a struggle to get C to nap. She's 12 weeks today and day time napping has gotten worse, not better. Night time sleep is alright-- she's slept through the night several times and usually only has one wake up early in the morning. But the naps are killing me. I just feel like I spend more than half my day trying, and failing, to get her to sleep. </p> <p>I'm not even looking for advice-- I feel like I just need to get through another month somehow and then we will sleep train. In the mean time, I'll keep shortening her awake time and see if that helps, I guess. But, please tell me I'm not alone? The the worst part of it is feeling like I am doing something wrong and it's my fault. All the time. But, some babies just suck at napping, right? </p> <p>I'm typing this during a rare crib nap. The first nap not in the moby since Saturday morning. </p>